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not everyone gets everything

April 23rd, 2024

Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently?

There are some moments in every person’s life which are left behind forever, and only regrets remain. I still remember those moments of my life. When I expressed my desire to study further after BA, my father He flatly refused. He said that he will marry you now. I pleaded a lot but he did not agree. I had to stifle my desires. Even today I am sad that I could not study further. If only I had not compromised with my stubbornness, I would have been working in a good job today. .I don’t identify with a housewife. Perhaps destiny had approved this.

In our times, parents used to accept whatever they said, but today’s children are not able to have so much tolerance. I fulfilled my dreams in my children and today my children are successful. To keep myself busy, I started writing blogs, which My daughter helped me in starting. I would just like to tell today’s children that we do not get everything we want in our life. But never consider yourself unlucky for this. Because God closes a way. If there is another one opens it, you just need to move carefully.

Imperfection is destiny and the desire for perfection is a mirage. The feeling of satisfaction is the last option, which can also be virtual. Not everyone gets everything in the world,
If you get a roof, you don’t get the sky.
People were so engrossed in themselves,
There is no encouragement from the people of today.
Does a person go to heaven by visiting Char Dham?

April 22nd, 2024

Every Hindu wants to visit Char Dham at least once, it is the dream of every Indian to visit Char Dham even if only once. There is a lot of recognition for this in Hindu religion. It is also considered to be of great importance, which is why every year lakhs of devotees go to visit Char Dham. Char Dham Yatra is considered auspicious in religious texts. By visiting Char Dham, all kinds of sins of a person are destroyed and the person gets salvation. Divine souls reside at these four places. All these four Dhams are considered very sacred places. Adi Guru Shankaracharya had recognized the whole of India as a nation on the basis of these four Dhams. What is the benefit of Char Dham Yatra? It is noteworthy that later the four holy places of the Himalayas were also established as Char Dham of the Himalayan region. There are two types of Char Dham Yatras in Sanatan Dharma. To differentiate them from the mythological Char Dham, the Char Dham of the Himalayan region was called Chhota Char Dham. Chhota Char Dham includes Badrinath, Kedarnath, Gangotri and Yamunotri. Badrinath is called the eighth Vaikuntha of the universe. Where Lord Vishnu remains in sleep for six months and remains awake for six months. There itself. Kedarnath is said to be the resting place of Lord Shankar. There are two mountains in Kedarnath, Nar and Narayan. This is the abode of sage Nara and Narayana, one of the 24 incarnations of Vishnu. Pleased with his penance, Lord Shiva appeared in Kedarnath. It is said that it is considered auspicious to die during this journey. By visiting these places a person attains salvation. One who has darshan of Badrinath once does not have to go into the womb. According to Shiv Purana, a person who worships Kedarnath Jyotirling and drinks the water from there is not born again.

Despite all this information, if a person is unable to visit these four Dhams, then there is no need to be disappointed. The duty of a son’s life is to maintain the dignity of his grandfather and serve him selflessly. The service done not only confers virtue on the son but also opens the door to success in life. In Hindu scriptures, service to parents is greater than all other places of worship. The reality of human life is that he should surrender his life at the feet of his parents. So that the life achieved can be successful. A person who does not serve his living parents, even if he serves food to lakhs of Brahmins after the death of his parents, he cannot get the fruit of serving food to Brahmins. Serving parents is religion. No matter how it is calculated, it is our duty to serve and the more we follow our duty, the more happiness we will get. Not only is service to the elderly done, it also creates happiness. If we give happiness to our parents, we get happiness. Make your parents happy, they are never always sad.

It is said in the scriptures that by visiting Char Dham, a person reaches heaven. But no matter how much evil a person does, does he still go to heaven? He has to suffer the consequences of his actions. A person is not able to travel to a pilgrimage site even if he wants to. For all this, good deeds and good values of previous birth are required. You must have seen many such rich people in the world who never even fold their hands in front of God. Still he has got so much wealth. All this is an account of his past deeds. Therefore, man should always keep his actions good and his thoughts high. So that he can enjoy the pleasures of the world in every life.
people who peek into others’ secrets

April 22nd, 2024

What makes you nervous?

In this struggle-filled life, some moments are easy and some are difficult. Sometimes suddenly we feel so happy that we think, are we so lucky? And sometimes there is such a shower of sorrow as if I have committed the sin of the whole world.

Like this, there are ups and downs in life. Sometimes I worry about my children’s education, sometimes I worry about my husband’s earnings, sometimes I worry about maintaining my relations, and sometimes I worry about listening to people even while doing everything. But I feel most restless. One of these things happens when people keep an eye on someone else’s house instead of looking at their own. The conduct and behavior of other people are the core of their thoughts. That’s why peeping into other people’s houses is the main purpose of their thinking, understanding and living. I strongly hate such people. I remember a poem I read in childhood about such people.

People overestimate the shortcomings of others,
People look less into their own backyards.
Whose character smells foul,
But people judge the character of others.
Those who have lies and deception in their veins,
People examine our veins by guess.
my unknown friend

April 21st, 2024

Describe a random encounter with a stranger that stuck out positively to you.

Many people meet and part on the path of life. But there are some faces with whom we become lifelong friends. It was in 2019, when my husband and I had gone to visit Dubai. There we met a couple. We started talking and they became our friends. From then till today we talk to him on phone. He was a resident of Darjeeling. Once when we went to visit Darjeeling, we told them that we were coming. They did not let us stay in the hotel. For three days we were living in his house as if we were his own family members. Now he will come to our house in a few days.

There are some relationships in the world which are not given to us by God but we choose them for our own lives. One of those relationships is that of unknown friendship. We choose our friends ourselves. But one thing that is different from all these is that not everyone can be a true friend. Because making friendship is very easy, but maintaining it is equally difficult.
A super woman and a mother

April 21st, 2024

How do you unwind after a demanding day?

When I get some time after working all day, I like to share that precious time with my family, especially with children. Because in my view, spending some time with children creates a stronger emotional bond between me and them. Who can help me deal with the challenges of my life. Helps children perform better in school. Builds confidence in all family members. Teaches about conflict resolution and problem solving.Spending time with family is one of the most important things in my life, far surpassing other personal priorities.

Setting boundaries to separate my work and personal life not only increases efficiency at work, but it also reduces stress in my personal life. Family love is the most important love of all. Family love is different from any other love experience.

I believe that if people look at you as a superwoman, then it is very important for them to know how you balance the responsibilities of your home and your career. When I first started blogging, I used to love my profession very much but when I was about to get married, many people in my family suggested me to leave blogging so that I could live in my in-laws’ house. Be able to take care of everyone. After this, this thought came to my mind that is it necessary that women should take care of the house after marriage, even if they have to leave their career for this? I thought about this and decided not to leave my hobby. When I got married, I faced many problems in managing home and work but I decided to leave those problems behind and move ahead. After marriage, I told my in-laws about my passion for my career. After which my husband fully supported me. My family members did not support me then, but when I started handling my career and household responsibilities properly, my mother-in-law encouraged me. I started taking out time for my household chores and also focused on small happiness so that I could spend time with my family members. After having a child, I also took a break for some time, but after a few months, I Continued my job. At that time I had seen many problems but I did not let my confidence diminish and did my work with full dedication. I still love writing as much as I did before. For me, my hobby is as important as my family. Because my hobby gives me a different identity for which I left even the challenges behind. Because I am a super woman and a mother
my breath social media

April 20th, 2024

How do you use social media?

Nowadays, most of the people use social media. Social media plays an important role in the life of every human being. It is often easier and more convenient to access information, provide information, and communicate through social media.

I also use social media. Mostly Instagram. I like to see people’s posts etc. I get to know about a lot of fashion. And I also get to know about many new clothing boutiques. People also describe many recipes of food prepared by them, which I like to see. I enjoy them by following the pages of my choice.

After opening my eyes in the morning and while closing my eyes at night, I keep checking social media accounts many times throughout the day. Even during work, many times my mind is thinking what would be trending on Insta? Who might have commented on my photo and who knows what else comes to mind. If we go somewhere, the first thing we do is share photos on Facebook and Instagram. Thousands of photographs are taken in order to get a perfect picture. There is no peace unless you upload reels and stories. If I have eaten something good, seen something, read a book or spent time with friends, I keep posting that too. It brings back memories every time I see that post. I use social media to collect my memories. Even if I get less likes or comments on my photos, I follow my favorite or inspirational pages. This helps me achieve the goal of being happy.

It is okay to use social media to some extent, but excessive or wrong use of social media can create problems for you.
In whose hands is the reins of your life?

April 19th, 2024

Man is a purposeful creature who strives towards achieving goals and results. After each goal comes another goal, and then another goal – until finally you arrive at the most fundamental power of human life. This power is nothing else but the desire to be happy. And you can be happy only when you practice self-discipline, self-victory and self-control. Only when you feel that you have complete control over life, you get true satisfaction. You feel happy only to the extent that you have control over your life. You feel unhappy only to the extent that you feel that you are not in control and that other elements or people are controlling you.

This curiosity arises again and again in the mind of every human being whether the thread of man’s life is in his hands? If the string is not in his hand then in whose hand is it? Will he keep dancing on the instructions of God all his life? In answer to these questions, it can only be said that man has come into this world of theater to act as his character. It is his responsibility to play the role given to him by director Ishwar efficiently. If he plays his role well, he keeps getting applause from the people. His fame spreads everywhere. People keep that seasoned actor in their hearts. Its value increases on the stage of this world. Everyone begs him to be on their side. On the contrary, if he makes a mistake in playing his role, then he has to face humiliation at every step in his life. The value of such an actor who has lost the battle of life reduces in the eyes of people. He doesn’t get good roles to act on this stage. In other words, he is declared useless. Such an actor never gets a good role again. The reality is that this world is a theatre. All of us living beings are sent here to play a special role. Some are kings and some paupers, some rich and some poor, some police and some thieves, some judges and some criminals, some saints and some fraudsters, some leaders and some actors. In this way the owner sends all kinds of characters, good and bad, on this stage. He determines our role in this birth according to the deeds done in previous births.

We get only those co-actors i.e. our relatives and friends with whom we had transactional relations in our previous births. If we live up to his expectations, then the Lord will give us a better role in the next birth. Resends. In which we get happiness and prosperity. We get fame, we get applause from all sides. But if for any reason we do not prove to be true to the expectations of that Lord, if we prove to be worthless, then He does not send us as good characters in the next birth. Then He gives such roles to those who are going to live in sorrows and troubles all the time. It is He who decides when a person will be born or die, whether he will get happiness or prosperity or not, when happiness or sorrow will come in his life. Even if a man wants to, he cannot sit somewhere hidden because he remains under the eyes of that master every moment.
Man is free to act. If he makes good use of this freedom then his next birth will be full of virtuous deeds. If humans misuse it, it sends them to the lower worlds as punishment. But this does not mean that man should rely on luck.
Like we praise and reward our children for doing good work and punish them for doing wrong. We always warn our children before doing any work, similarly they also keep warning us through their conscience. If we agree then we do not commit any wrong act and if we ignore it after listening then we suffer.

If you are not able to do something in life, then do not put the responsibility for it on anyone else. Don’t do things you don’t want to do, but don’t force them on others. Do not hold your parents responsible for your failures. Take responsibility for your life in your own hands. If you are not happy within yourself, you will never be able to keep the environment around you happy. Earning more money or working more will do no good if you are not happy with yourself. This happiness will come when you take the reins of your life into your own hands. When you want to do in life, you will do it yourself. Where fate left us, we fell there and started asking what should we do, luck does not support us, everyone is against us, bent on rivalry, times have come very bad. Is. These are manless thoughts indicative of human ignorance, which have spoiled many lives. Man is a puppet in the hands of fate, he is a toy, he is clay which can be crushed from time to time, these feelings are symbols of ignorance, attachment and cowardice.
Sow the seeds of life in your conscience and make the plants of courage, effort and good resolutions flourish by watering them with water. Also, sort out and uproot the weeds of inaction. Make waves in the air of enthusiasm and joy. The key to your happiness is with you, you just need to find it. If control is internal i.e. self-discipline, then life is happy. If it is external, it is called coercion and makes life miserable. The thing is as simple as that if you want happiness and satisfaction, then keep the control of your actions and thoughts in your own hands. Your ability to achieve happiness is what determines your success in life. It is the true measure of success. There is nothing more important than this. Nothing else can take its place. If you achieve every material thing but are not happy, it means that you have truly failed to reach your full potential as a human being.

When you feel in control, you make your own decisions and you often decide most of the things that happen to you in life. When the control center is internal, you realize that the reins of your life are in your hands and you are driving your own car. You feel that you decide most of the things that happen to you, so you feel powerful, purposeful, and happy. On the other hand, your center of control is external to the extent that you feel that You are not in control or have little ability to direct your life. For example, if you feel that a biased or critical boss is controlling you, but you are afraid to quit your job, you experience stress and anxiety. This causes you to do poor work, which also increases the likelihood that your boss will fire you and the same circumstances that you fear will be created.

Many people feel that they are controlled by their personality. They are absolved of the responsibility of exercising the necessary discipline and willpower by saying, ‘That’s just the way I am.’ Will have to do.
So decide to take complete control of your life. Realize and accept that you actually make your own decisions and are the reason you are where you are today. If there is an aspect of your life where you are not happy, discipline yourself as necessary to do whatever is necessary to change that situation. Only then will you be able to change your situation. You may feel that certain conditions must exist to be happy. Often the difference between your desired circumstances and your current circumstances determines whether you are happy or unhappy. It is largely a matter of your own evaluation and decision. Success means getting what you want, happiness means wanting what you get. When your income and life are in line with your goals and expectations and you are satisfied with your situation, you are happy. On the other hand, if for some reason your current situation differs from your desired situation, you remain dissatisfied and unhappy.
You are the creator of your own destiny, circumstances, opportunities in your life. You yourself can elevate or degrade your life. When you strive for happiness and satisfaction and live in the same mental state, then satisfaction and happiness overflow on your face. When you remain sad and tired, your life withers and your strength diminishes. Think about power, love, strength and masculinity, create circumstances for yourself like the best brave men of the world. You have the ability to overcome your poverty, deficiency and weakness. Just ignite your inner strength.
O God, may your love remain mine

April 19th, 2024

Jot down the first thing that comes to your mind.

The first thing that comes to my mind is, O God, today is dedicated to you, you will do something good for me. May you participate in all my sorrows and happiness. May there be happiness on the faces of all my relatives. May there be no sin from my hands for which I have to repent. May my behavior be good with everyone today. May no one be sad because of me. May I do whatever I can for everyone. No matter how people behave with me, may I be able to forgive them. May I always feel your blessed hand on my head. Oh God, if you are with me then I don’t need anything else in life. May your love remain with me.
learned to ignore what people say

April 17th, 2024

Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

Decisions made in my past that helped me learn or grow are ignoring what people say. I believe that in this world there are 80 out of 100 people who think of doing something big and leave their idea there as soon as they think of people. They feel that what will people say if I fail? Sometimes what people say makes us feel so bad that we are never able to free ourselves from that pain. Leave aside the aim of moving forward in life, we even forget our everyday happiness. People who pay more attention to the bad things of others remain restless in their lives. If we want to find happiness and peace in our life and want to do something, then we should ignore the bad things of others.

Similarly, when I started writing a blog, my family asked what would happen if I did it. It is useless to work so hard for so much money. But I didn’t listen to anyone. I was fond of writing. And I wanted to fulfill my hobby. We come across many things which we do not like at all but we have to live with them. You can’t change bad things, you just have to figure out how to avoid them. Just as there are thorns on every branch along with flowers, similarly there are all kinds of people in society. In this society, some good things happen and bad things are also seen. If you fight every evil, you will waste your precious time in it. All your energy will also be wasted in this. Positive attitude is the most important thing in the world. All our goodness comes from how positivity we look at life. Any person fails in the outside world on many occasions and there are dilemmas within him too, but in every situation, only a positive attitude towards life helps. A positive attitude means ignoring things in a big way.

We come across many things which we do not like at all but we have to live with them. You can’t change bad things, you just have to figure out how to avoid them. Just as there are thorns on every branch along with flowers, similarly there are all kinds of people in society. In this society, some good things happen and bad things are also seen. If you fight every evil, you will waste your precious time in it. All your energy will also be exhausted in this.

The idea of fighting evil is like plucking all the thorns from a rose plant to get a rose without thorns. After a few days the thorns will emerge again. If you plant another rose plant, it will also have thorns. So we have no control over this. What we cannot do is to create a new variety of rose which has flowers but does not have thorns. Exactly similar is the case with human society also. The same thing happens here that there will always be someone who will make you angry. It will create an unpleasant situation and you cannot be completely free from it, it will always be there. You should find a way to avoid it. When you learn to ignore, you will be able to come out of such situations. The whole point is that we get angry, emotional and get entangled with things. People think that if problems are eliminated then peace will come, but peace will never come by eliminating problems. By the time you solve one problem, another one will arise. This sequence will continue and you will keep moving in this circle. Therefore, if you want to get out of the problem then learn to ignore it.
Israel never

April 16th, 2024

What place in the world do you never want to visit? Why?

I have always wanted to come and travel a lot in this world. And I have also traveled to many places. I have liked every place I have visited till date. But I would never like to go to Israel. Because when we leave the peaceful environment of our home and go for a walk, the hope is to remain free from all kinds of worries. And come back with a good experience from where you are going. Looking at the current situation in Israel, I feel that I will never try to go there.

Israel is one of the richest countries in the Middle East and Asia, as we all are seeing in the news there is a fight going on between Israel and Hamas. Because of which the whole world has been divided into two parts. And Israel is the only country in the world where it is very important for women to serve in military service. Many women roam around here with big guns in their hands. They have been deployed from the border to every corner of the country. It is very scary for me to see this scene. There are many places to visit all over the world. Any tourist who is going on a trip after spending so much money would like to be able to return home safely.