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  • How did the worship of Gangaur start?

    April 10th, 2024

    The word Gangaur is made up of two words, the word Gan is the symbol of Mahadev Shiva and Gaur is the symbol of Mother Parvati. Gangaur Mata is worshiped on the third day of Navratri i.e. on the Teej of Shukla Paksha of Chaitra month.  Gangaur Mata is worshiped as the incarnation of Parvati and Ishtar ji is worshiped as the incarnation of Lord Shankar.  Gangaur festival is a major festival of Rajasthan.  This festival is celebrated as a celebration of the marriage and love of Gauri and Shiva.  On Gangaur, married women worship Goddess Parvati and Shiva for the long life of their husbands and unmarried girls to get a good husband. Gangaur or Gauri Tritiya is a vibrant religious festival that celebrates the divine love of Goddess Parvati and Lord Shiva.  .  Gangaur Teej is also known as Saubhagya Tritiya.

    According to the legend, once Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati came to visit the earth.  That day was the third day of Shukla Paksha of Chaitra month.  As soon as the news of Shiva Parvati’s arrival was heard, some poor women of the village reached to serve her with water, flowers and fruits. Goddess Parvati and Lord Shankar were pleased with the service and devotion of those poor women.  At that time, Goddess Parvati took water in her hands and sprinkled the nectar of marriage on those poor women and said that the marriage of all of you will remain eternal.  After that, women from some affluent and rich families came with a group full of dishes to serve Shiva-Shakti.  Lord Shiva said to the mother, you have distributed all the nectar among the poor women, now what will you give to them? Goddess Parvati said that I will bless them with the same good fortune as me.  After this, Goddess Parvati cut one of her fingers and sprinkled a few drops of her blood on the rich women.  Under this, Mother Parvati had distributed Suhaag among rich and poor women.  After this, Goddess Parvati prepared a Shivlinga from a pile of sand on the river bank and worshiped it. Mahadev appeared from the Shivlinga and told Mother Parvati that on the day of Chaitra Shukla Tritiya, whichever married woman worships Shiva and Gauri, she will get eternal marriage.  .  Their husbands will have a long life and virgin women will get a suitable life partner.  Since then Gangaur puja started being performed.

    Married women keep the fast of Gangaur Mata for the long life of their husband, while unmarried girls observe this fast in the desire of getting a husband like Lord Shiva. It is believed that in old times, Mother Parvati had fasted to get Lord Shiva as her husband.  Had to do a lot of penance and fasting for this.  According to this, Mother Parvati had won the love of Lord Shiva with her devotion and love and after that Mother Parvati came to her house during Gangaur to bless the marital bliss of her devotees and worshiped Gangaur here for 18 days. After this  There was a big celebration on the day of farewell and Lord Shiva took him back with himself.

  • learned to remain calm

    April 10th, 2024

    Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

    Actually, I have made many positive changes in my life.  But now with age I have learned to remain calm.  Let me tell you how I learned to do this. It is very easy to say that learn to control anger.  Remain calm.  Don’t pay attention to what others say.  Keep doing your work.  It is very difficult to implement all these things in your life and follow this line.  Because when we feel insulted or disappointed by someone’s words, we get very angry.  Then the anger inside suddenly comes out like a broken dam.  This is called overreacting.  Most of us don’t know how to react.  We don’t know how to calm ourselves down in moments of anger.  When most of us experience a negative emotional response, our first response is often extremely reactive.  Our brain interprets negative emotions as a threat.  That’s why we feel that what the other person is saying is hurting our self-respect.  That’s why we react wrongly.  In reality, we achieve success only when we stop overreacting.  Learn to calm yourself.  Therefore, we have to learn to keep ourselves calm and composed. You notice that when you get angry, you are not able to stop it.  Instead of letting yourself get lost in your thoughts, do something that will immediately take your mind away from negative emotions.  When the person in front of you is saying something wrong, take a breath.  Drink a sip of water.  If it is possible to move away from that place, move away.  Take a walk for some time.  By the time you come to that place again, that thing will have gone from your mind.

    You can keep yourself calm and composed by giving words to your feelings. Just as you remember the birthdays and marriage anniversaries of your friends and family members, in the same way remember this lesson that you have to keep yourself calm and composed.  One should not lose one’s temper by unnecessarily replying to someone’s words. Only peace of mind and self-confidence can get a person out of big problems.  Therefore, trust yourself and work with a calm mind.  Only then can happiness and success be achieved.

    I learned that the brain of people who talk less works faster than the brain of people who talk a lot because people who talk a lot waste all their energy in talking unnecessarily and on the other hand, people who remain quiet work for a long time mentally and physically.  Feel fresher till now and are more successful in taking right decisions immediately amidst all the situations.  In comparison to those people who keep wasting their time by talking. Because when you start being quiet then you start listening and by listening you learn and from learning starts intelligence and wisdom.  So talk less and start listening.

    Positive change means such a change which is meaningful for the present and future of living beings, nature and environment and is capable of establishing harmonious harmony among all three.  Change is inevitable.  Mere change is not enough, but along with the change, our humanity, morality and materialism should move forward as a whole.

  • What is the importance of simplicity with age?

    April 9th, 2024

    We have been hearing from elders – peace is important in life and living peacefully is in our hands.  Peace can be found only when life is simple.  And really life is very simple but we are intent on making it complicated.  Anyway, in Indian culture, importance has always been given to simple life and high thoughts.  Anyway, no one wants to be disorganized, confused, confused and under pressure.  Crowding, whether of people or things, desires or expectations, breaks a person’s concentration and makes him indifferent to the more important tasks of life.  Effort to save yourself from getting lost in the crowd is the key to a simple life. It is very important to have simplicity in life because if we always remain artificial then we will never be able to take the right decision and by having patience, we can survive in any situation.  Are able to maintain the courage to succeed.  Simplicity is the beauty of life and restraint helps us in achieving success in any situation.

    Simplicity is to live comfortably, to balance between one’s needs and desires, to be happy with limited resources and to be natural.  Why not learn this way of living?  Simplicity avoids waste, teaches thrift, avoids complex value conflicts caused by greed, fear, peer pressure and a false sense of identity.  Simplicity leads to generosity and sharing.  Simplicity is putting others first, without expectations and conditions, with kindness, openness, and pure intentions. Simplicity is not sacrifice, nor is it a display of poverty.  This is a simple path, which can save you from many difficulties and stress.  If happiness was derived from money or accumulation, there would not have been stress, depression or heart problems in the rich countries of the world.  This can be understood with a small example.

    Women’s wardrobe is full of clothes, yet they think every day about what to wear today.  The reason for this is that there are too many options, which affects their ability to choose, that is, they find themselves unable to take decisions.  As bad as not having options is, having too many options is worse.  If there are limited options then it does not take time to think and the choice becomes easier.  This saves time and energy and does not put unnecessary pressure on the mind, whereas due to too many options, the person’s mind does not become stable and remains fickle.  The biggest benefit of simplicity is that it brings quality to a person’s work.  As soon as he becomes aware of what and why is important in life, he starts managing his desires properly.  This reduces dilemmas and brings clarity in outlook.  It is important to assess your needs and desires from time to time.  Many times it happens that the thing which feels convenient today, becomes the cause of inconvenience in future.  It may be someone’s desire to own a big house today, but with increasing age the same house may become inconvenient because he is unable to maintain it properly. As a person develops the habit of living in simplicity, the tendency to accumulate less.  It starts happening.  Due to this, the layers of stress and pressure which were increasing the burden begin to open.  Instead of thinking about what things can bring happiness, a person starts thinking about what things can be happy without.  Instead of getting trapped in the mirage of desires and accumulating resources throughout life, efforts should be made to change one’s thinking. Simplicity is a great virtue that one can follow in life.  We are rightly advised by the wise to believe in simple living and high thinking.  We should follow simplicity in our food habits.  We should have simple but nutritious food. We should have a simple life-style.  We should follow simplicity in our speech and manners.  We should be sweet, polite and courteous in our words.

    Today’s world is living a life of pretense.  Many very rich people only show off on the outside and are hollow on the inside.  By doing this, he is putting not only his own but also his family’s life and respect in danger.  If you stop pretending then no one will ask you why you don’t have this thing.  And if someone assesses your situation then so be it.  Don’t put your situation in jeopardy because of people.  Every person should know his age.  No matter how beautiful women, adorned with material resources, feel about themselves, a woman without makeup and dressed neatly is more attractive in her place.  So accept simplicity as you age.

  • dance is a great exercise

    April 9th, 2024

    What’s the most fun way to exercise?

    It is difficult for many people to find time for daily exercise.  There are many days when I don’t feel like exercising.  At the same time, some people do not have energy left for exercise.  Some people shy away from exercise due to laziness.  But exercise is necessary to keep your body healthy.  By not including it in the routine, the body becomes vulnerable to many diseases.  The exercise can be done easily by making it a little simple.  In this article we will talk about 5 such tips, with the help of which we can make exercise easier.

    Dance is an innate talent which is known as one of the best form of expression.  The ancient dance styles of India are an invaluable cultural heritage.  These dance styles have helped in keeping us connected with the rich traditions.  Be it the spirited Bhangra dance, or the graceful ballet dance, or the romantic Salsa – all these dances are unique and leave us with joy.  Whether you dance in a closed room or in public, whether you dance hip hop.  You become overwhelmed with joy and feel extremely happy and satisfied. Dancing burns calories, and dancing is fun.  This is a great exercise for both men and women.  So, if you need to add some energy to your workout, and you’re looking for a fresh, different, and fun way to exercise, you’ve got to start dancing. Yoga is a unique blend of physical exercise and breathing exercises that  It is helpful in keeping the body healthy and mind calm.  It is an ancient technique which gives the dancer the skill of expression of expressions.  This makes the body flexible and attractive and increases the confidence of the dancer.

    Exercise is a naturally helpful way to beat the blues and lower depression levels by promoting the production of endorphins in the brain, which in turn reduces stress levels in the body.  Dancing, as an aerobic exercise, is not only a great way to burn calories, but it also works as a great stress buster, especially when finding it difficult to motivate yourself to workout or move.

    The musical tones and scores used in dance classes are very rhythmic and soothing in nature.  Rhythm is, basically, one of the ways the brain learns to focus and strengthens neural connections.  Everyone likes to dance on fun beats in the club, apart from this many people also feel that they get immense pleasure from dancing.  You all will agree with this that whoever dances looks happy and comfortable.  Let us tell you that dancing, as an exercise, promotes physical health and comes with many benefits for your mental health.  It provides an increased supply of oxygen to the brain and releases stress-reducing neurochemicals that keep you sane.  That’s why a lot of people now like to indulge in a little dance therapy to ward off the blues.  Here are some ways dance can help you beat depression. Rhythm, the most basic of musical elements, gives our brain something to focus on, and certain tempos can even induce trance states.  Can.  Dance and music combine to relieve the brain from feelings of stress and anxiety.  One of the biggest hurdles of mental illness is that medicinal dosages can sometimes be too drastic or require long-term use to see results.  It also comes with a number of side-effects, which may not suit everyone’s needs.  This is why many people rely on alternative treatments to treat their pain.  Dancing, as a form of exercise, can be quite therapeutic, allowing you to discover your zone, remove negativity and fill you with lots of positive energy.

  • Srimad Bhagavad Gita

    April 8th, 2024

    What book could you read over and over again?

    Srimad Bhagavad Gita is my favorite book. I can read Srimad Bhagavad Gita thousands of times.Geeta has the highest place in Indian culture.  The verses of Gita jingle like the chimes of a veena in the innermost being of Indian saints and ascetics.  From story-sermons to door-to-door sermons on life improvement and whatever knowledge of rules and regulations is given, the light of Gita definitely falls somewhere or the other.  There is hardly any place on earth which is free from the influence of Geeta.  The land of India has become blessed by his touch.

    Geeta can be called a precious poetry that explains religion and spirituality.  If the essence of all the scriptures can be found gathered at one place, then that place is – Geeta.  The ignorant person attains good knowledge by taking bath in the knowledge of Gita – Gangotri.  The sinner is freed from the heat of sin and crosses the ocean of the world. Geeta is a short booklet that presents spiritual contemplation as well as instructions for public behavior in very simple and interesting verses, which teaches the art of living a stress-free life.  , explains the cycle of life-death, the verses of Bhagavad Gita tell us about our duties as human beings.  Reading Srimad Bhagavad Gita helps us understand the importance of self-control and how to practice it.  The teachings of Bhagavad Gita tell us how to practice selfless action or action without desire. Its essence is that all the gods in the world are manifestations of the same God, all the qualities and vices of man are the result of the power of God.  There are only forms.  The purpose of Geeta is to clarify the knowledge of God, knowledge of soul and knowledge of creation.  Geeta is actually the biggest and best scripture for character building.  Through this, God has said that character will be formed by living in the world like a lotus flower and by doing good deeds, and not by leaving home and doing renunciation of deeds. A person reading Geeta gets the knowledge of truth and lie, God and living beings.  Is.  He understands good and bad.  Reading Geeta increases a person’s self-confidence and the person becomes courageous and fearless and moves forward on the path of his duty.  Reading Geeta daily develops positive energy in body and mind.

    Why is Geeta called mother?

    Geeta has also been called mother.  This is because just as a mother shows the way to her children to reach the pinnacle of greatness by loving them and improving them, in the same way Geeta also provides peace to the devotees who sing its songs.  It gives good education to humans and inspires them to move forward on the path of becoming Narayan from a human being.  While singing Geeta, man enters that world of emotions, where he receives supernatural knowledge, light and infinite joy.  Because this has been said from the lotus mouth of Lord Krishna himself.  It has also been said that the more one studies Gita, the more one discovers new sources to make life great.  Whatever elements are necessary to make a human being perfect, all are present in Geeta.


    Geeta is like Kamdhenu which solves all types of problems and removes all sorrows.  That is why Mahatma Gandhi used to say – When I am troubled by problems, I go into the lap of Geeta Mata.  Where I get solutions to all the problems. In this way, Geeta is like a mother not only for Hindus but also for other sects, who solves the problems of every son who takes refuge in her.  It is neither a scripture nor a book.  She is the mother who gives shade to everyone and the light of knowledge.

    From Gita, a person learns not to lose courage in the face of unrighteousness but to fight fearlessly even with his own people when necessary to protect the religion. The life of a person who reads and listens to Gita carefully is not just a body but a ‘soul’.  One becomes one who lives at the level of a person. The great lesson that we get from Geeta about making a person selfless by making him understand the importance of karma is well known.  ‘Don’t worry about the results’, just do your work. This saying is easy to read and write but it is a difficult penance to implement it in life.  One who has completed this penance definitely ceases to be an ordinary human being and thus becomes a source of inspiration for others too.

    Probably every person knows this very well that a living being takes birth as a human being after wandering in eighty-four lakh species. In such a situation, it is our utmost duty not to get so engrossed in worldly activities that we forget the ultimate goal.  Human birth is higher than insects, birds, animals, trees and viruses, because in this we can make it successful by acting wisely.  There is no such problem of life, there is no such area where the importance of Geeta has been tarnished. From ancient times till today’s ‘modern’ era, this great scripture has established its influence everywhere. We often see that great people  Those who are not afraid of anyone, are always afraid of the immutable truth like death.  This fear keeps haunting them every moment that what if we die?  Sometimes not being able to fulfill responsibilities scares us, sometimes the wealth accumulated throughout life scares us.  The momentary relations of this world that are left behind after death, the sorrow of separation from loved ones, the prestige earned, respect, the worry of not being able to enjoy the happiness that comes from money and the sadness generated by it or in fact this fear is so much.  It becomes terrible that leave alone dying peacefully, many people are not even able to live peacefully.  If we take the basis of Geeta, we will find that it teaches us that death is inevitable, it is the only truth and it is the body that dies, not the soul. The soul is immortal, immortal and indestructible.  The lesson to make a person aware of this truth and to rise above the body and live life like a festival and to be fearless and ready for death at any moment, comes from Geeta only.

  • Sherlock Holmes

    April 7th, 2024

    If you could be a character from a book or film, who would you be? Why?

    I would love to be Sherlock Holmes. Because Sherlock Holmes is one of the most famous literary characters.  He is an intelligent detective who uses his keen observational skills to solve crimes.  Sherlock Holmes is a much-loved character because of his wit, intelligence and charm. He is renowned for his intellectual prowess and his astute observation, inductive reasoning and skillful use of inference to solve difficult cases.

  • How to change the values of children?

    April 7th, 2024

    Every parent loves their child very much.  Parents always want their child to be healthy and happy.  For the happiness of the child, he wants to fulfill almost all his demands.  Apart from this, we want to provide them good education for their bright future.  But often parents make some mistakes in the love of the child, which has adverse effects on the behavior of the child.  During the upbringing of the child, fulfilling his every need along with fulfilling the big and small demands, ignoring his mistakes, adopting his stubborn and angry attitude without stopping, the child starts deteriorating and his future also gets spoiled.  Seems like  In such a situation, parents should teach values and discipline to the child since childhood, so that the child can become an ideal human being, a good son and a successful citizen.

    Often children get spoiled due to not being able to stop themselves from making mistakes, not being scolded and being overly pampered.  At a young age, everyone likes it when children take the names of elders in small tongues.  But stop the child at the same age from calling the elders not by their names but by the address of their relatives.  Instead of laughing at the child’s mistakes or ignoring them, if the parents scold the child for the first time, he will not repeat the mistake. To teach values to children, the most important thing is to teach them to respect elders and younger ones.  If the child does not ask anything respectfully, cries, shouts or stomps his feet, do not change your decision.  Rather, explain to them that no such statement will be accepted.  Everyone should respect them for doing any work properly.  By teaching this lesson, the child can change his wrong behavior. Often small children shout and talk to get their point across.  Due to pampering, they learn to get angry and start talking angrily to anyone.  If you accept his words because he shouts or gets angry, then the child behaves in the same way every time.  This type of behavior can be controlled in childhood, but even as the child grows up, it can develop the habit of getting things done through anger and shouting.  Therefore, teach them to control anger.

    It is said that a child’s values decide not only the direction and condition of his own life but also of the entire society.  Most of the values in children come from their parents and they play a big role in developing the values.  The values imparted in childhood remain with a person throughout his life.  Therefore, it becomes very important to impart right values to children.  Apart from parents, there are many other things which determine the values of the child.  Sanskars are mainly formed from birth to 21 years.  The habits formed in this stage later on take the form of values.  From food to friendship and worship, every small and big thing has its own importance.  The values of the parents also have an impact on the child.


    Special care should be taken about the diet and eating habits of the child from birth to 5 years.  The eating and drinking habits formed at this age do not remain for the rest of the life.  Since thoughts and ideas are formed through food and drink, hence food should be given thoughtfully.  It will be necessary to protect children from non-vegetarian food, fast food, stale and oily spicy food.  6 to 10 years old
      As the child ages, auspicious and inauspicious habits start developing.  The child starts gaining knowledge about religion, God and behavior.  At this time, keep the atmosphere of the house pure and virtuous.  People of the house should maintain their behavior and conduct properly.  Teach the child the difference between right and wrong.  At the age of 11 to 16 years, the child becomes aware of education and knowledge.  The child starts worrying about subjects, career and success.  At this time the child should be told about mantras and asanas etc.  So that the child concentrates on education and his physical and mental development takes place properly.  Do not impose your interests on the child, let him choose the subject as per his wish.  Major chemical changes take place in children between the ages of 17 to 21 years.  All the values and good and bad habits become visible at this age.  At this age, let children take responsibility for themselves and help them.  Pay attention to their clothes, their lifestyle and their company.  Advise them to stay with the elderly and also develop the habit of fasting.

    Home environment plays an important role in the best upbringing of any child. If the environment of your home is happy and full of love, then the child will become strong, fearless and courageous.  Bad environment at home can create fear and anxiety in the minds of children.  Children should be loved pure and true, true love does not at all mean that you fulfill every wish of your children.  True love means that you do what is necessary for your children and that which helps them to move forward on the right path. The behavior of parents has a deep impact on children, so if you  If you appear happy, intelligent and have a fun-loving personality, then they will be attracted to you, they will not need anyone else except you.  They will even do everything after asking you.

    Because of children not being cultured?

    Earlier, in a joint family, children used to be brought up on their own and amidst the stories of grandparents, the loving rebuke of the aunt along with the caress of the elder mother would show them the right path and also make them cultured. In the last two decades, since globalization  Since then, children have increasingly moved towards resources that were not easily available earlier.  In these you can include mobile, internet, car etc.  They easily talk to people from all over the world.  Nowadays the ideal person for them is the one who has a lot of money, who wears branded clothes.  The structure of society is not based on ideals but on material resources.  This structural change has happened very rapidly.  The result of this change is that children are moving forward in a destructive manner.  They don’t even realize that they are destroying themselves.  Minor children are committing crimes because everything is easily available to them.  The freedom that has come in the environment has spoiled them.

    Whatever behavior children do has its roots in childhood.  Children’s mind is a blank slate on which we can write whatever we want.  This process continues from birth till four-six years.  Parents should take special care at this age.  If you want to make them cultured then you should not fail in your duty.  Values cannot be taught to children by preaching.  Children learn what they see their parents doing.  They will have to adopt those things in their behavior which are in the interest of the children.  Children will learn according to your qualities.  They will do whatever you do.  They will think that we should do more than our parents.  Every child is unique, everyone’s parenting style is different.  It cannot be kept tied to a fixed formula.  Not all children are the same.  All their habits are different from each other.  Some are more naughty, some less.  In such a situation, you will have to work a little hard to adapt them to your environment.  The biggest problem is with those women who are working.  Along with professional life, it is important for them to take out time for their children also.  You can give him the right guidance by giving him quality time.

  • How to make your children mentally strong?

    April 6th, 2024

    Every parent wants their child to be smart and talented.  Seeing the development of the child gives happiness to every parent.  Parents are worried about how their child will grow up.  They should know that it is the parents’ responsibility to decide what kind of nature the child will adopt when he grows up.  The lessons given by them help the child to progress. Not only bookish knowledge but also social knowledge is important in learning.  Knowing this, the child can understand his good and bad and stand firm even in challenging situations.  It is very important to make the child emotionally strong.  With this, children easily tackle every problem in life and move ahead. Explain to them that it is natural to experience different types of emotions.  And expressing them creatively is good for mental health.  When the child tells about his problems, give importance to his words and listen to him.  Then sit with the child and think about how to solve those problems. Emotional training is an important part of raising a child.  It is important for the child to be emotionally strong because through this the child learns to control his anger and greed.
    As a parent, you should teach your child to be positive.  If you feel that your child is afraid of every small and big thing, then teach him how to remain positive.  Children can learn all this only from their parents.  Apart from this, also teach the child to give importance to family and relationships.  Encourage your children to develop better relationships with family, friends and peers.  Teach to be considerate of big and small.

    To make your child a good person in life, it is important to teach him about many things since childhood.  You should make the child strong not only physically but also mentally and emotionally.  Mentally strong children can easily face the challenges of the world.  They face difficulties in life easily and are able to find solutions to problems.  When your child learns things from you and becomes mentally strong, then later on in life, they can easily come out of difficult and adverse situations. Failure and rejection are among the most frequent and unfortunate things in our life.  There is one.  But children must be taught ways to deal with it.  Teach him what he should do in this situation.  This will help your child deal with such situations in the future, and they will not get frustrated.

    Do not scold the child for his mistakes.
    Be it an adult or a child, until they make a mistake or gather bad experiences, they do not know what is good.  Whatever mistake the child has committed, instead of beating him, make him realize what mistake he has made and what harm has been caused by this mistake.  The realization of a mistake is more important than the punishment. When parents start scolding the child for everything, the child becomes emotionally weak instead of becoming strong.  Fear begins to develop inside him that he may get scolded again for any mistake.  His first emotion after being scolded is sadness and he does not understand when his tears start flowing.



    Many parents want their child to be at the forefront in every race of life.  In such a situation, they teach him to win but do not listen to the child’s worries and hesitations related to defeat.  It is important that parents listen to the child’s fear, explain to him that victory lies in overcoming fear and teach him to overcome fear.
    You have to develop confidence in your child that he can come to you and tell you everything that is on his mind.  When the child shares his worries and problems with you, you will be able to give him solutions.  This will remove the burden from his mind and he will understand how to deal with difficulties.  It is very important that you teach your child to express his feelings.  When children keep their emotions within themselves, then these emotions start affecting their child’s mind.  When he is sad, he keeps feeling sad within himself and when he gets irritable, he keeps suffocating inside.

    Being emotionally and mentally strong is something that even the best of people cannot control.  But, it is very important to be emotionally and mentally strong in life.  If a person does not learn to control his emotions, sits defeated, is unable to remove negative thoughts from his mind and feels defeated by every small and big difficulty, then it will be difficult to push the car of life.  In such a situation, the future and success of the person is also affected.  If you feel that your child is afraid of moving forward, shy and does not know how to control emotions like anger or sadness, then you can help him by keeping some things in mind.  Many children cry over small things and there are many who are afraid of facing defeat.  In such a situation, parents can teach children to overcome these difficulties.

    It is important to learn the lesson of self-respect since childhood.  If you do not want to see your child compromising his self-esteem even after growing up, then it is important to be trained not after he grows up, but from childhood itself. Respect the child’s feelings.  He will get respect only when he gets the same respect at his home.  Don’t be under the misconception that the child is small so he can be made fun of or there is no harm in making fun of him.  This behavior of yours can make the child angry and he can become a victim of the illusion that his feelings are not respected. Punctuality is very important to get anywhere in life.  Explain the importance of time to the child right from childhood, so that as he grows up, he remains responsible about time and avoids wasting it.



    Give children a chance to express their views. If you want that the child does not grow up to be timid, then take special care that he gets a chance to express his views.  If from childhood he has the belief that he is free to express his views, then when he grows up, he will develop fearlessness and will be in a position to express his opinion.

    We think that children do not have to face disappointments, difficulties and challenges but this is not true.  Children also doubt themselves and have negative thoughts.  These affect the child’s behavior and action.  Parents should explain to the child that they should not worry and should remain positive.  To instill self-confidence in children, teach them to live in reality. To make children mentally strong, you need to understand their emotions.  After knowing how their emotions affect their behaviour, you should control these things.  With this, the child will be able to handle situations where he feels emotionally weak. Before becoming successful, everyone makes many mistakes and reaches success only by learning from their mistakes.  You should also not scold your child for making a mistake, rather inculcate in him the feeling and tendency to learn from mistakes.  The child should know that it is okay to make mistakes. When you tell your child how you feel, then perhaps he too will be able to express his feelings to you.  Let your child speak his mind openly.  Do not treat feelings with anger and listen carefully to your child. This is a life skill that probably every child should know.  You should not stand by to help him but teach him to solve his problems on his own.  Gradually, the child will start understanding on his own what will happen by doing what and in this way he will start developing the skill of solving problems. If you are teaching the child something else and you are doing the opposite to it, then the child will also understand your  Don’t expect to follow the lessons given.  Children do what they see their parents doing, so you become a role model for them.

  • dog is a loyal animal

    April 6th, 2024

    What animals make the best/worst pets?

    Man is a social animal, despite this he has always had a special attachment to creatures other than his own.  Man feels a different satisfaction and happiness by keeping other living beings with him.  To overcome the emptiness of life and to keep themselves busy, humans keep animals, birds and other creatures with them. Pets are the closest to humans.  Humans can choose pets as per their convenience and need, according to their environment, attachment and busy life routine.

    In my view, if you want to keep a pet, then dog is a very loyal animal. The special qualities of dogs differentiate them from other animals.  Their sense of smell is very accurate.  Police also take the help of dogs in catching criminals.  Special training is given to dogs of special species for this.  For this reason, in case of natural disaster like accident, earthquake etc., they are helpful for the police and relief and rescue workers.  They help save lives by smelling people buried under debris.  Instead of calling dogs as humans’ pets, it would be better to call them man’s true friends.  Apart from always being the companion of the owner, they also play the role of protector very well.

  • Does overthinking arise from fear?

    April 5th, 2024

    The habit of overthinking becomes a big problem for many people. Overthinking is not a disease but a negative habit.  Its impact can cause mental health risks and also affect your emotional and physical health.  The habit of regularly overthinking makes you suffer from mental problems like anxiety, panic attacks and depression. Actually, overthinking slows down the activities inside your brain and affects its thinking ability.  Apart from this, it increases sadness and makes one lonely.  This thinking becomes deeper and then you may become a victim of depression.

    The habit of overthinking develops due to some fear or worry.  In such a situation, to prevent this problem, first identify fear and anxiety.  Think about what will be the outcome of the thoughts coming to your mind.  When you know the outcome in advance, you will feel normal when you face your fear. Competition is everywhere. Nowadays people have become so busy in the race to make themselves better than others that they overthink even the smallest things.  That they become victims of stress and depression.  In the age of social media, everything is cosmetic.  Many people apply things from social media to their lives which have nothing to do with life.  Competing to be better than an employee in the office all forces you to overthink. Striving for or attaining perfection can force you to overanalyze and think.  Overthinking can also affect your health.

    The fear of making mistakes or not meeting high standards often causes individuals to overthink every detail, preventing them from getting anything done. Overthinkers often have a deep fear of failure or negative outcomes.  They constantly replay certain things in their mind, trying to anticipate and plan for every possible outcome, which can be mentally tiring. Low self-esteem or lack of confidence in one’s abilities  Can contribute to overthinking.  Individuals may doubt their decisions and constantly question themselves, leading to a never-ending cycle of analyzing and questioning themselves. Past negative experiences or traumas act as a way to protect themselves from similar situations or situations.  A person can also overthink so that it does not happen again.  The mind may become hyper-vigilant and overthink potential risks or dangers.

    Overthinkers often struggle with being present in the moment.  They may dwell on past events or worry excessively about the future, preventing them from fully engaging in and enjoying the present moment. Holding on to something or thinking about it  Most people develop the habit of overthinking over a long period of time.  This habit appears especially in childhood.  For example, if a child breaks a toy, he or she feels that the parent will scold him or never give him the toy.  The child remains worried about this matter.  That is why this overthinking does not make him feel safe.  If he is actually scolded, he feels further intimidated.
    This type of thinking can be caused by events that have happened in the past.  Such as misbehavior with someone at home or an accident or financial problems or taunting by people etc.  Because of this, all this settles in the mind and then the same thing is seen again.  If someone comes late, it seems as if there has been an accident, when I think of planning a baby, I feel that how will be the good upbringing, even if someone praises me, I feel as if he is taunting me.  Whatever happened in the past comes with us. This problem is seen more in women that they think more about the next day.  What to make for breakfast in the morning, what to cook, what to keep in the tiffin.  There are no vegetables, children don’t eat these etc.  Due to this they keep thinking continuously and get worried.  Gradually this habit starts applying to everything.  Constant thinking affects daily routine as well as mental health.

    Negativity causes overthinking

    Some people overthink because it brings empathy and compassion that makes them feel comfortable. Overthinking can also be an excuse to procrastinate or avoid decisions. Overthinking can also be an attempt to change a decision that has already been made.  Like constantly giving new suggestions to manipulate something if you don’t like it.
    On receiving praise from someone, trying to find out the selfishness behind it or taking the praise as a taunt, etc.  Constantly thinking about all these things causes negativity and stress.  Because of this the mental health of the person gets affected.  There are many reasons for overthinking, the basic mantra is to concentrate on what is happening today.  Therefore, instead of being worried about tomorrow, learn to live today openly.  For this you will have to make some efforts.  Whenever unnecessary thoughts start coming to your mind, think about happy things, like what was the experience of driving a car for the first time or which ice cream was your favorite in childhood.  Eat your favorite chocolates, keep toffee-chocolates in the fridge.  This will keep your mind happy. Separate yourself from the worries of the world.  Do your favorite activities.  For example, if you want, you can cook your favorite food.  You can spend time in gardening i.e. taking care of trees and plants.  It is not that you have to do this the whole day, even by giving just 30 minutes you can save yourself from overthinking.  Remember when you move from thinking to overthinking, try to divide your attention.  Always make a habit of accepting your mistakes.  Give up your ego.  Consider everyone as your equal.  Whatever comes to your mind, resolve it immediately and leave it.  If you keep suppressing the things that come to your mind, then one day it will happen that everyone will come together and make noise inside.

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