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Why should we be thankful to God for everything?

June 19th, 2025

My father also had a strange habit.
When he sat down to eat, he would break a morsel of food and move it around the plate and then keep it aside and bow to the plate and start eating. I used to watch him do this and wonder why my father does this? One day, gathering a lot of courage, I asked him, father, why do you break a morsel of food and bow to the plate every day?
My father looked at me and started smiling. Then he said that I thank God before eating. Thank you for the fact that I got food to eat. Thank you for the fact that he is worthy of eating food. Thank you for the fact that the food is worth eating. I was very young, I could not understand that the food has been cooked by my mother, then how did God come into it? Perhaps my father had read the question in my eyes.
He told me very softly that the food is very good, so when your mother comes here now, I will thank her too.

I shouldn’t have remembered this thing. But I remembered it.
Because on the day mother was dying, a few moments before that she had gestured father to come near her and said that you put a leaf of basil and some water in my mouth. Father did the same.As soon as father put water in mother’s mouth with a spoon, mother started smiling. She folded her hands and whispered thank you to father. Mother was leaving. The whole family was standing in front of mother’s bed. There was not even a trace of worry on mother’s face. Mother thanked father while leaving. Thank you for being with me for so many days. Thank you for serving me in a disease like cancer.

After my mother’s death, I was disillusioned with life. I was not able to understand what to do. I was very young. So young that I did not even understand the meaning of death properly. One day my father made me sit near him and said that you should not be sad. You should try to understand life. You should understand that your mother stayed with you for so many years.
Then my father started telling me that when his father died, he was three years old. When God decides many things, he has his own plan. We should accept every decision of God and thank him that he is thinking something for us every moment.I told my father that mother left us, what can there be to thank in this?

I do not remember from where my father got my diary, in which I had written that O God, give death to my mother. Father started showing me that page of my diary and he said that mother got relief from pain. You should thank him for this also. Many people in this world suffer a lot from this disease. They pray to God for death, in such a situation, no matter how much you regret that your mother is gone, you should be grateful to God.

The gist of whatever my father had explained was that we should develop a sense of thankfulness within ourselves. We should learn to say thankfulness.We are healthy. We get food twice a day. We have a roof over our head. We have many things that many people don’t have. We should say thankfulness for this. We should say thankfulness because there are many people in this world who don’t have what we have. Many people in this world have things that we don’t have. Instead of keeping regrets in the mind, it is more important to learn to say thankfulness for what we have.

I have never seen my father sad.I once asked him if he never felt sad, and he hummed a song from a film and explained the truth of life to me- “Mujhe Gham Bhi Unka Azeez Hai Ki Yeh Unhi Ki Di Hui Cheez Hai.” While humming this song, my father explained to me that life becomes much easier if we consider the events that happen as divine providence. This gives us more patience and peace in facing difficulties. This perspective helps us understand that every event has a reason, and even if we cannot understand that reason immediately, we can still believe that it is part of a higher power’s plan. This helps us avoid disappointment and frustration, and we try to remain positive in every situation. Apart from this, believing in divine providence gives us a deep sense of gratitude towards life. We feel that everything we have is a gift from God, and this makes us value our lives more.

However, it is important to note that this viewpoint is a matter of personal choice. Some people don’t feel comfortable with this idea, and that’s okay. Everyone has the right to freely choose their beliefs and attitudes.He used to explain to me that you can find goodness even in very small things. Once you get into the habit of finding goodness, life becomes easier.
An easy way to focus your mind?

May 16th, 2025

People tell us thousands of ways to focus our mind. Some say meditate, some say sit with your eyes closed. Some say you should do yoga. People spend so much money to get peace of mind and focus their mind. Mental stress has become a trending term in society today. The reason for this is that our mind is constantly restless. It either agonizes over the past or worries about the future. Unwanted thoughts dominate our mind and have a negative impact on our mental health. As we grow older, our mind wanders even more. Especially when we try to focus or complete a task. Our mind either goes into the past or the future. We are in both those areas where we shouldn’t be.

The restless and fickle mind keeps wandering for one reason or another. The yogi must bring it back and focus on the soul only. Bhagwan says that whenever the mind is restless, wandering, we must bring it back to the present and focus on our inner self. He advises us to be attentive to our thoughts. Sometimes we worry about small things because we are not able to think clearly. Nor are we able to work well throughout the day. This leads to delays in work or creates extra stress. All this has an indirect impact on our work-life balance and relationships. So we must learn to bring our mind back when it wanders. Since the present is your reality, whenever your mind becomes restless or agitated you must try to bring it back.

The mind has always been arbitrary. As long as we follow our mind, the mind keeps misleading us and keeps us astray. Till then the mind remains satisfied with us. But when everything starts going against it, then it becomes restless from being dissatisfied. Such situations sometimes occur in life when the mind becomes restless. The mind’s hold remains towards the world and its pleasures. This is a very old habit of the mind. This hold has been going on not only for this birth, but for who knows how many births. We do what the mind wants. Worldly thoughts do not affect us, rather the weakness of our own mind catches the thoughts of others. This makes our mind sad. Then we blame others for it. It is not easy for a mind engrossed in the world to turn away from it, but it is not impossible either. As you increase the practice of spirituality, the mind will gradually start becoming more concentrated. In reality, the mind goes into worldly thoughts due to its scattered nature. Whenever the mind gets involved in worldly thoughts, then connect it with your true nature. The more consciously we go into the world, the less the world will affect us. Then we will become aware of our actions. When meditation increases in life, then our inclination towards the world decreases. Then efficiency in work teaches us to get out of the world.

I remember a story I read in my childhood. Once a boy went to Gautam Buddha and said, “There is a lot of unrest in my life. Please guide me so that I can get rid of this unrest?” Gautam Buddha asked the boy the reason for unrest in his life. The boy replied, “Due to excessive thinking, many thoughts come to me, due to which my mind remains restless.” Buddha smiled and said, “Look up at the sky and tell me if you can see the sun.” The boy looked up and said, “I can see the sun.” Buddha asked him, “What will happen if you stand in the sun continuously?” He said, “I will feel very hot and my body will feel uneasy.” Buddha told the boy, “If you feel hot by standing in the sun, then whose fault is it? The heat of the sun or yours?” The boy said after thinking for a while, “You also tell me the answer to this.” Buddha said, “The work of the sun is to give heat and the work of heat is to feel hot.” In such a case, the fault is yours that you stood in the sun and felt hot. If you want to feel cool, you will have to stay in the shade.

Similarly, the nature of a restless mind is to awaken thoughts and feelings. Thoughts are for a moment, but the feelings born from thoughts last for a long time. But it is up to you to decide whether you want to go with the thoughts and feelings or take a different direction. Buddha says, the easiest way to calm the mind is to work on the dimension of the body. At the level of the body, we have karmendriyas (organ of action) and jnanendriyas (organ of knowledge). Karmendriyas (organ of action) are connected to action and jnanendriyas (organ of knowledge). With this, we can increase our sensitivity. That is, whatever work we do, do it with joy. Your mind will become calm only by moving away from the dimension of the mind to the dimension of the body. By doing this, you will move from the dimension of the mind to the dimension of the body. Just like you could move from the sun to the shade. By moving away from the dimension of the mind, your awareness will come to the body. When you work on the dimension of the body, then your mind will become calm. Therefore, by doing every work on the dimension of the body, the mind automatically becomes calm.
What kind of father do kids want?

May 10th, 2025

Everyone says a child needs a father as well as a mother.
And yes, that is true, but it is not that simple. Because a child doesn’t just need a man who is part of their DNA. They need a father who is present, who supports them, who protects them, who takes responsibility, who raises them with love, and who puts his child’s well-being above his own selfishness.

A child needs a secure father. A father who never lets the child question whether he or she is wanted, loved, or safe in his or her own home.
A father who does not control his or her child through fear, pressure, or intimidation. A father who is not a source of chaos, but a pillar of safety and stability.

A child needs a sensitive and protective father.
Children need not just money but also time, attention, experience, guidance, patience, love and discipline. A father who invests in their development, participates in school programs, teaches important life skills, and is present not just physically, but also in heart and mind.

A child needs a father who is always there, not someone who comes and goes as per his convenience, who showers love on festivals but is careless throughout the year. A child needs a father who is reliable, stable and constantly present, not someone who makes the child fear every day whether he will be angry or happy, whether he will be happy or angry, or not, depending on his mood. Because stability builds trust, and trust builds emotional security. And the truth is that a child needs a father who understands that his family is more important than his childish habits.

A father who leaves behind irresponsible living, parties, addiction and carelessness and chooses to be a father wholeheartedly, who puts his children above his ego, prioritises his family over stupid things, and values his home more than the streets. Because the truth is,

just because a man is a biological father, it does not mean that he is a safe or healthy father. And sometimes, the greatest love a mother can show is when she protects her child, even from his own father.A father’s first responsibility is his child’s safety and mental health.Sometimes that means distancing himself from toxic relatives.Sometimes that means setting boundaries with those who bring harm, confusion, instability, or neglect.
Whether that’s a parent, a grandparent, or someone else.Because love doesn’t mean access.And blood ties don’t give anyone the right to influence.Ultimately, every child deserves a safe environment.Where love is genuine, not manipulative.Where discipline is nurturing, not coercive.Where presence is constant, not arbitrary. Every child deserves to grow up in an environment where he or she finds healthy examples of love, respect, accountability, and safety. And if a father isn’t willing to provide those, a mother has every right to set clear boundaries. Because even though a child needs his or her dad, he or she doesn’t need to be trapped in poison, pain, or old toxic cycles just for the sake of having a “family.”
What is the significance of staying awake at night on Mahashivratri?

May 9th, 2025

Mahashivratri is not just a festival, but a special opportunity to immerse oneself in the devotion of Lord Shiva. This is the night when Shiva and Shakti met, hence it is also called the night of Mahanisha. On this special day, Shiva devotees observe fast with full devotion, worship, chant mantras and do Ratri Jagran. It is said that if any devotee worships Lord Shiva with a true heart at night on this day, then Bholenath fulfills all his wishes. Along with the worship of Lord Shiva and Mother Parvati on Mahashivratri, some remedies have also been told at night. It is believed that by doing these remedies, obstacles and troubles do not come in life and happiness and prosperity is attained. Although monthly Shivaratri is celebrated every month, but Mahashivratri of Falgun month has special significance. It is a religious belief that by doing the Abhishek of Mahadev on this date, all the wishes of the devotee are fulfilled. Along with this, happiness comes in life. By observing Mahashivratri fast, one receives the blessings of Mahadev. Mahamrityunjaya mantra should be chanted on the night of Mahashivratri. It is said that by chanting this mantra, a person not only gets relief from diseases and sufferings, but also gets the boon of long life. By staying awake on the night of Mahashivratri and chanting Mahamrityunjaya mantra, one gets a solution to every problem of life. While chanting this mantra, the seeker must use Rudraksha and ash. It is said in Shiv Puran that a person who stays awake on the night of Mahashivratri gets freedom from the sins of many births. Reciting Shiv Puran, bhajan-kirtan and chanting mantras on this night brings positive energy in life.

In Shiva Purana, the special importance of Mahashivratri dedicated to Mahadev has been told. It is a religious belief that Lord Shiva and Mother Parvati were married on the Chaturdashi date of Krishna Paksha of Falgun month. For this reason, this date is celebrated as Mahashivratri. There is a special significance of staying awake on the night of Mahashivratri. There is a religious belief that by staying awake at night and meditating on the name of Mahadev, there is always happiness and peace in the life of the devotee. One gets the blessings of Mahadev and Mother Parvati. But do you know why staying awake at night on the day of Mahashivratri is considered auspicious? There is a religious belief that Lord Shiva performed the Tandava dance on the night of Mahashivratri. This dance of Mahadev is seen as creation and destruction. By worshiping Lord Shiva and Mother Parvati properly at night on this day, the devotee gets their blessings. Along with this, happiness and prosperity increase. Apart from this, all the troubles coming in life go away.
What exactly is the definition of love?

May 8th, 2025

Love is not an emotion, love is your being. Beyond every personality is love. Personality changes. Body, mind and behaviour are always changing. Beyond every personality is the unchanging love, that love is you. When you lose yourself, you will find yourself. The phenomenon behind the phenomenon is knowledge. The object behind the object is infinity. The person beyond the person is love. Love that is born out of attraction is momentary because it is due to ignorance or hypnosis. In this, you soon get disillusioned with the attraction and get bored. This love gradually starts diminishing and brings fear, uncertainty, insecurity and sadness.

The love that comes through comfort brings intimacy but there is no passion, excitement, or joy in it. For example, you feel more comfortable with your old friend than with a new friend because he is familiar to you. Divine love is the highest kind of love. It is evergreen and always remains new. The closer you get to it, the more attractive and intense it becomes. It never gets tired and keeps everyone excited.

Worldly love is like the ocean, but even the ocean has its limits. Divine love is like the sky which has no limits. Fly high from the limit of the ocean to the sky. Divine love is beyond all relationships and includes all relationships. Often people experience love at first sight. Then as time passes, it diminishes and becomes corrupt and turns into hatred and disappears. When love is fertilized with knowledge, it becomes a tree. It takes the form of ancient love and remains with us from birth to birth. It is our own consciousness.

How to accept love?

Many times love seems complicated because people do not know how to accept love. Someone comes to you and says, I love you very much. In a short while you want to close your ears and say, ‘Enough, this is becoming too heavy for me, I want to run away from it.’ The thing is that that person starts feeling suffocated even in love. This is because we have never gone within ourselves. We have never realized who we are. We do not know that we are made of something called love. When we are not connected with ourselves, then connecting with others does not come so naturally. And that is why, when someone else wants to connect with you, you become so restless. Because you feel that you have not been able to meet yourself, so you do not understand how to accept love. Loving is an art. You should have the skill to give love. The skill of giving love is to be in love, not to just try. Love is not an act, it is a state of mind. You have to be in it without any conditions. See, I am here for you without any conditions. Now it is up to you to come here and accept it. People can understand you better because of your inner strength. Similarly, you cannot force someone to understand that you love them very much. You have to let some time pass for all this to happen because you know that forcing in such a case can create other problems. When people give you love and respect, you are forced to follow the etiquette because you do not want to hurt them. But when they do not give you respect and love, then they will not be affected by your expression. They set you free. So the next time when someone does not give you love and respect, do not feel sad, but know that you have become free from many formalities, you have become independent.

Why do you doubt love?

You only doubt the positive things in your life, you never doubt the negative things. You doubt someone’s honesty and believe in their dishonesty. When someone is angry with you, you don’t doubt their anger. But when someone says they love you, you start doubting and thinking, “What? Do they really love me?”

What to do when someone doubts your love? With whom do you really feel comfortable and free? With someone who does not doubt your love, who believes without a doubt that you love them. When someone doubts your love and you have to constantly prove your love, it becomes a heavy burden for you. They question you and want an explanation for everything you do. Explaining everything you do is a mental burden. Your nature is to remove the burden because you don’t feel at ease.

You are always a witness. You are as much a witness to your own actions as you are to the actions of others. When people ask you for an explanation of your actions, they are speaking from the doership and imposing that doership on you. This brings discomfort. Neither ask for an explanation nor give one.

A ‘sakha’ is a companion in life and death. It never leaves. A sakha only wants the beloved. It does not care for knowledge or liberation. Love is incomplete because of longing, desire. His love is infinite and perfection is never possible in infinity. His love is complete in infinite imperfection. The path of love has no end.
Why is fasting in the month of Savan beneficial for health?

May 8th, 2025

There are many fasts and festivals in the month of Sawan in which the tradition of keeping fasts has been going on for years. Fasts are kept on Sawan Monday, Sawan Shivratri, Mangala Gauri fast in Sawan, Hariyali Teej, all these dates. Worshipping Shivling in Sawan is considered to be the best. Because Shivling is the complete form of Shiva and Shakti. The soul engrossed in meditation in the formless form of Shiva attains salvation, it attains Parabrahma. The meaning is that Shivling is the medium to unite our soul with God. Shivling is the symbol of the formless and the real God which is indicative of God-soul-penis. Shivling means the symbol of Shiva. Male gender means the symbol of man, similarly female gender means the symbol of woman and impotent gender means the symbol of impotent. Shivling means the eternal form of Shiva, the symbol of void, sky, infinite universe and formless Param Purush. According to Skanda Purana, the sky itself is the penis. Earth is its base and because it is born from the infinite void and dissolves in it, it is called Linga. Shivling tells us that the world is only the dominance of man and nature and both are complementary to each other.

Shiva is called Nandishwar i.e. ‘God of joy’, not ‘God of bull’. Therefore, we should understand this symbol system by looking at Nandi bull. Similarly, all the symbols related to Shiva need to be understood. Trishul is our trigunatmak (sattva, rajas, tamas) nature which is concentrated on a stick. Bhutas-Ganas are nothing but the five elements of lust, anger, greed, pride and attachment which have been given a fierce form. These five elements cannot find a gentle form in the symbols. The Dhatura that we offer is an expression of offering the poisonous element within us, so that there is sweetness in life. As far as Bhaang is concerned; then it is the joy of the manifestation of the Supreme Being. When one worships the omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipotent, infallible, undivided, blissful, embodiment of happiness, bliss, destroyer of troubles, destroyer of evils, remover of sorrows, bestower of happiness, auspicious, repository of compassion, purifier of the fallen, Lord Shiva (Ashutosh); he becomes pleased very soon (Ashu). The upper part of the Shivling represents the soul form of Lord Shiva which is present in all people and the Yoni part below the Shivling symbolizes our physical form, the natural form, it shows how the conscious soul enters our lifeless body.

The month of Sawan has the most rainfall. Our digestive system becomes weak in the month of Sawan. In such a situation, if we do not observe fast, it has a negative effect on the body and health deteriorates. Eating leafy vegetables like spinach, fenugreek, bathua, cabbage, cauliflower in the month of Sawan is harmful to health, because the number of bacteria and insects increases in them. And these green vegetables are not eaten during fasting. Therefore, by observing fast, we can avoid these bacteria.

By not observing fast, your immunity i.e. immune system also becomes weak which is necessary to fight any disease. Fasting helps in formation of new immune cells.

It has been found in many studies that fasting for some time increases metabolic rate by 3 to 14 percent. This takes less time for digestion and burning of calories. If you do not do this, then after a certain age you can become a victim of many serious diseases. Fasting does not mean starving the body completely but giving rest to the body for some time and removing toxic elements from it. Animals, birds and all other creatures keep fast from time to time and make their body healthy. By keeping a healthy body, the mind and brain also become healthy. Therefore, fasting should be done on some special days in Chaturmas which removes diseases and sorrow.

The fat burning process gets faster while observing fast. Due to which the fat starts melting rapidly and if you do not observe fast then the fat keeps on increasing and this creates pressure on your bones. This has an adverse effect on our mental ability and peace of mind.

The main purpose of keeping a fast is to develop determination. Only a determined mind has positivity, determination and single-mindedness. Only a determined person succeeds in every sphere of life. A person who does not have determination or determination in his mind, words and deeds is considered as dead. There is no trust in the words, promises, anger, feelings and love of a person without determination. According to religion and belief, keeping a fast pleases the gods and goddesses and by removing the troubles and problems, they fulfill the wishes.

This is also because Sadhana has a very deep relation with diet. Sadhana will be fruitful only when the diet is pure and sattvik and it does not have any of the four defects of diet (swarup-dosha, sang-dosha, nimitta-dosha or artha-dosha). In this way we can say that it is not necessary to remain hungry during fasting or upvaas, it is necessary to remember the benevolent form of God.

Shivratri is the night of welfare. It is the night of awakening of one’s Shivatva. For this awakening, first of all the inner conscience is purified by means of sadhana, fasting, rules, fasting, discourses, saintly company etc. Awakening will happen only when this happens. When we talk about awakening of our Shivatva; then it is implicit that we are also a part of Shiva, we are also immortal (which cannot be destroyed). Since the soul is energy, it cannot be destroyed, hence we are immortal.
Do you love your wife like I do?

May 3rd, 2025

Today I want to share some of the mistakes I made in my life and also make everyone aware of its consequences. 20 years ago, my wife got married and came to my house as my daughter-in-law. I was the beloved son of my parents and my parents, siblings were everything for me. After my wife came to the house, my parents, siblings used to misbehave with her and make fun of her. She was kept as a slave of the house. I also used to fully support them in all this. I never gave my wife the respect of a wife. Rather, according to me, she is the daughter-in-law of this house, so she should do the work of all the family members and keep everyone happy. If anyone says anything, she should never reply back.

Gradually, the situation became such that I knew very well that my wife was right, yet I used to prove her wrong and insult her in front of everyone. Sometimes, to please my family members, I used to even raise my hand on my wife. Due to which my family members used to feel very proud of me. My mother, sister and my brother used to look at my wife with mocking eyes and make her feel that look, your husband is in our hands. I also used to make my wife feel from time to time that my relatives are only and only my blood relations. Time was passing like this. With time, my sister got married. But her dominance was still intact on her maternal house like before and she left no stone unturned in harassing Bhabhi. After some time, my younger brother also got married and when all this started happening with his wife too, he did not delay and separated from his wife. He started living a peaceful life with his wife. He knew very well what kind of relationship was there between me and my wife. Because he was also a partner in all this. That is why he did not want to spoil our relationship. My wife had gradually understood what her existence was in my house. That is why she became quiet. She did not speak to anyone. She just did her work and remained quiet. Even if it was not her mistake, she silently accepted it. We all were very happy that she behaves according to us, talks very limitedly. My attitude was still the same.

Time was moving at its own pace. My two sons were 19 and 18 years old. One day, father said goodbye to this world. Everything was still going on the same way. Mother started falling ill in the grief of father’s departure, and had become older than her age before time. Now she wanted someone to sit with her and talk. I used to be busy with my work the whole day and came home at night. My mother’s beloved daughter did not have any time for her mother. The younger son and daughter-in-law had distanced themselves from mother long ago. My wife had become silent. She was performing all her duties well, but did not open her mouth. Mother complained to me that tell the daughter-in-law to talk to me. I do not like it. I told my wife to talk to mother. Mother does not like it. Why do you remain silent? My wife looked at me silently and went away from there without giving any answer, as she often did. I knew very well that I was responsible for her silence. But still I was a good son. I pulled my wife’s hand very forcefully and said, can you hear what I am saying? Now all your drama will not work. Mother is ill. You will not become a good daughter-in-law just by serving her. Entertain mother. Talk to her. Only then will she be happy. My wife again silently looked at me and my mother, but did not give any answer. As if she was saying in her mind, do whatever you want to do, I will never face you people. You people are responsible for bringing me to this condition. I was getting very angry and I raised my hand to slap my wife.

Just then my elder son came in front of me and grabbed my hand and pushed me back and said, enough Papa, now if you do anything wrong with my mother, no one will be worse off than me. By then my younger son had also come forward and he said, Papa, we have tolerated enough of your arrogance. You have ruined our mother’s life. If you make such a mistake in future, we will forget that you are our father. I could not believe that my sons could talk to me like this. Still I said, and you have forgotten that she is my mother and your grandmother, whom your mother, i.e. my wife cannot make happy even by saying a few words. My elder son said, we have not forgotten anything Papa, and whatever the situation is today, you and your family are responsible for it, not our mother. We have not forgotten anything but you have forgotten that just like the sick woman for whom you worry a lot is your mother, similarly your wife, on whom you shout and raise your hand without any reason, that woman is our mother, and we will not tolerate any atrocities on our mother now. Saying this both of them took their mother by the hand and took her inside the room. While leaving my wife was looking at me with her silent eyes. As if saying that the condition of your mother today, in old age she yearns to talk to someone, after some time the same condition is going to happen to you too. Today my wife had shown me my place through her eyes, and I was repenting, on all the mistakes I had done. For which I was not going to get any forgiveness now and I had realized this by looking at my wife’s eyes.

A wife is the husband’s partner in happiness and sorrow. No one can take better care of a husband than a wife can. A husband feels his wife’s presence only in her absence. So if you are in my place, you must change.
I am happy when I find happiness by working hard

December 21st, 2024

When are you most happy?

It is important to always be happy in life. There are many people who remain sad throughout the day and many remain unhappy even after having everything. We try throughout our lives to be happy. We think about some things that if we get them, we will get true happiness, but we are proven wrong in this case. I feel the most happy when I work hard and get the fruits of my hard work. When we get something without hard work, we do not understand its value. When we keep getting something continuously without any struggle, we become lazy. This is the reason that prosperity and happiness do not last until we contribute our labor and hard work to it. When we have to struggle to get something, then its value is understood and we use it in the right way.

In true sense, prosperity, peace, happiness and satisfaction are things that we can get only if we earn them through our hard work. This thinking is also naturally associated with our life. If we believe that our specialty is only due to our birth, family or status, then we get out of the path of development. This thinking not only stops our progress but also takes us away from the true happiness that comes only from hard work.

We need to understand that whatever we want, we have to work hard to achieve it. If we earn something by ourselves, it is more valuable. Just like the real taste of water is obtained when we sweat by working in the heat. The real joy of celebration comes when we rest after a hard day’s work. Just like food is not digested properly without hard work. It is not absorbed in a better way and we do not get much energy from it. Similarly, prayer, sadhna and yoga are required for the satisfaction of mind, soul and life. Therefore, it can be said that only those who work hard can enjoy the festive atmosphere and they are also entitled to it.
The real joy of celebration comes when we relax after a hard day’s work.so I am happy when I find happiness by working hard.
Papa was a man, his positivity impacted my life

December 18th, 2024

Describe a man who has positively impacted your life.

Only those are successful in life who do something. You get the inspiration to do something when you think that you can definitely do this work. Sometimes this idea also does not come to us on its own. Sometimes with the help of someone or from someone we get the inspiration that we should always give priority to positive thoughts. But most people’s mind is surrounded by doubts, negative thoughts settle in our mind very quickly. In such a situation, it is positivity that sows the seeds of determination in your mind. With the help of which you climb the steps of success one by one. My father has the biggest hand in making a positive impact in my life. Since childhood, father used to teach us that happiness and sorrow are two aspects of life. And they do not always stick to one. It is their wish as to how long they stay with you. Therefore, when it is a time of happiness, one should not get too excited, and at the time of sadness, one should keep oneself under control.

Papa used to say that positivity brings with it the belief that you can do a task in a better way. Also, whatever you do, you do it with full concentration. You develop a desire to do the given task in a better way. This increases your productivity much more. Not only humans, but even God has experienced happiness and sorrow in this world. Therefore, humans should always remain positive. There is a power inside you that is unique, that is the power of positivity. Now you will say that this is just a feeling, then why are we calling it a unique power? This is because positivity is a feeling that can completely change your attitude towards life. When a person is positive, then every aspect of his life changes. Whenever we children were sad, Papa used to say that if you are sad, then the universe is also sad. You have no right to make others sad because of you. I remember this thing of his till date. Because in times of sadness, I get strength from these things of his.

Now let me tell you about my life experiences. When I was 5 years old, I used to think that my father is the strongest person in the world because he used to give me strong support. When I was 7 years old, I realized that my father is not only the strongest person in the world but also the wisest person because he always used to explain things to me in such a way that I do not have any questions in my mind. When I grew up a little more, I realized that my father has knowledge about everything in the world. But when I became 15 years old, I realized that my friends’ fathers are more intelligent than my father because then everything they said seemed like knowledge to me. When I was 20 years old, I realized that my father is from a different world and he cannot go along with my thinking. When I was 25 years old, I felt that I should not consult my father about any work because he has become in the habit of finding faults in everything.
But when I was 35 years old, I started feeling that I can take his advice even in small matters.
When I was 40 years old, I felt that I should definitely take his advice in important matters.
When I was 50 years old, I felt that I should not do anything without asking him because by now I had come to know that my father is not only wise and experienced, he is also my biggest well-wisher. His advice is like God’s advice for me. He will not think of anything except my welfare. It was my father who taught me to always stay bent because trees laden with fruits are bent.so Papa was a man, his positivity impacted my life.
My hardest decision is to make myself happy

November 28th, 2024

What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever had to make? Why?

Many times in life we take some decisions and many times we have to change them with the circumstances. Many times in our life we find ourselves in such a situation where it becomes difficult to take a decision. We are unable to understand what is the right thing to do. We get stuck in dilemma and keep wasting our energy in negativity. But when we try to take a decision, we get tied in a bond. I think we have to create positivity in ourselves for that thing instead of taking a decision. No decision in life is difficult. Actually you are connected to many things, that is why it becomes difficult for you to take a decision. Otherwise whether it is divorce or death, breaking a relationship with a loved one or adopting someone, or any other decision, it should not be difficult for us. No matter how much it matters. But this is just a next phase of life, which will definitely come in some form or the other. Before life forces you to do that work, you should do it consciously beforehand.

Decision making is not that difficult. The difficulty comes because you have a very deep attachment to the things around you. In Western society, people have a lot of trouble deciding whether to marry or not. Even if they have been living with someone for years. In Hindu society we get committed to it. But in Western society, making a commitment to marry the same person becomes a big struggle for them. Every small process of life is also causing suffering. If you have identified yourself with things that you are not and at the same time you do not want to be hurt from anywhere, it means that you do not want life to happen. You are creating a self-defeating situation for yourself. If you do not identify with your own body, you will not identify with any object or person. If we are committed to anything, our life will become boring.

When I started taking small decisions like I will wake up at 5:00 am, I will exercise everyday, I will not eat fast food from now on, I will not lie, etc. then sometimes I was not able to stick to my decisions, then I felt very guilty. That is why I stopped taking decisions now. Life is so short and I do not want to get bound by it. Yes, there are some decisions which I have taken. Like helping the poor, not to cheat anyone, not to interfere in the work of others, and to keep myself happy in all circumstances. This is the most valuable thing for me. Because those who cannot keep themselves happy cannot keep others happy either.