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It’s hard to recognize people’s true identity

September 9th, 2024

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

People believe that a good look or a good face can attract people very easily. There is no doubt that when people meet someone for the first time and do not know much about them, they start judging their personality just by looking at them, but the face is God’s creation and it is not that easy for humans to change it. Some signs can act as red flags, indicating potential challenges or incompatibilities in relationships.

1,,Lack of empathy and intelligence,,
People who lack empathy and intelligence may have difficulty understanding other people’s feelings and needs. This can result in misunderstanding, trust, and a decrease in kindness.

2,,Self-esteem,,Excessive self-obsession,,A person is overly preoccupied with his or her own interests, has a superior opinion of himself or herself, and is indifferent to the feelings and needs of other people. Such behavior can impede the development of relationships based on mutual respect and admiration. A person who brags about himself or herself all the time becomes a headache for others.
3,,Imposing one’s opinions on others,,If a person tends to control the behavior of others, then trust and autonomy in relationships can be lost. Recognizing and addressing these behaviors is essential to the process of maintaining healthy boundaries. Because in today’s world even a small child is the master of his or her own will.

4. Pessimism or Negativity

A constantly pessimistic attitude towards life is likely to affect the general atmosphere of relationships, which can result in emotional fatigue in the person. Enthusiasm is necessary in life to maintain every relationship. Due to lack of enthusiasm, our loved ones get left behind.

5. Positive attachment, whether the relationship is of friendship or any close relationship. Attachment is reflected from within. By speaking sweet words full of false pretenses, one day the other person understands the feelings of the heart. Therefore, it is important to be cautious of those who show too much attachment.

6. Those who speak ill of others behind their backs, their words do not remain hidden for long. Such people consider themselves to be very clever.

7. Those who show their help, many people have the habit that even if the other person is not asking for help, they try to help him from their side and then keep telling everyone that I helped him.

8. People who swear falsely in the name of God. Such people who are not even afraid of God. They keep swearing falsely in the name of God on every small thing. Only God can save us from such people. The qualities of all these people can become a sign of danger for others. These people do not look any different. But a person should learn to choose all these people with his intelligence.The world is full of people with dangerous attitudes, you just need to save yourself.
may first week my ideal week

September 8th, 2024

Describe your ideal week.

Although every day in a person’s life there is happiness and sorrow. But sometimes there are some days when we enjoy our life to the fullest. The first week of May was very memorable for me. Because that week we entered our new house. Our dream house which we are very happy to have. And that week was my birthday too. So I had invited my friends along with my relatives. Everyone came to our housewarming and congratulated us. And at the same time, they were wishing me a happy birthday. We didn’t even realize how that week passed in a jiffy. Because happy days pass quickly.
As is our attitude, so is our life

September 6th, 2024

We become what we think or think about life. Thinking that we are good and healthy keeps our body and mind healthy. On the contrary, if we start thinking that we are sick and weak, then we will really start feeling sick and weak. Similarly, thinking that we are poor, we do not have money, wealth and grandeur increases poverty in our life. We really become poor.

Undoubtedly, both happiness and sorrow come in every person’s life, but if a person wants, he can spend the time of sorrow with ease with a positive attitude. Never get frustrated seeing the happiness and prosperity of others, but understand the reasons for that person’s progress. Adopt his virtues and develop yourself. There is a lack of something or the other in every person’s life, so do not be sad or disappointed by it. This has a negative effect on both body and mind. Think with a positive attitude that what we have got, many other people in the world are deprived of that much. There are many people in this world who are more sad and troubled than us. The biggest difference between us humans and animals is our ability to think or in other words, the power of thinking for humans is like a boon or gift given by God, for which all of us human beings have always been grateful to God and will remain so in the future too.

Positive thinking increases the necessary energy in the body and negative thinking destroys energy. We should never forget that we are the best creation of the almighty, kind and benevolent God. God has created us to display his excellence in the world. He has blessed us with supernatural and unique qualities like ability, talent, knowledge, intelligence, wisdom, thinking power and insight. We should be oriented towards improving our lives by imbibing these invaluable qualities. How successful we are in life or whether we are able to achieve our goals or not, depends entirely on our thinking. Actually, our thinking is our real personality and behavior which comes out in physical form and appears in front of people and in the same way we get respect in the society. What we say, what we do and what is the reaction of the other person on them, depends on our thinking. Actually, our thinking is the reflection of our personality.

Our positive thinking is the belief that we can solve even the most difficult situations in life. Maintaining courage even in the most difficult times is the power of our positive thinking. We get the courage to do any difficult task only from our positive thinking. The more positively we do any work, the more accurate and successful the work will be. Due to lack of positive thinking in the adverse circumstances of life, many people lose their mental balance and cause great harm to themselves. The secret of success of all successful people till date is their positive thinking. Positivity is not only the key to our success but also to our good health. Thinking “I can’t do it” before doing any difficult task is called negative thinking. The work of people with negative thinking starts getting spoiled and negative thinking also has a very bad effect on our health. Negative thinking pushes us into the abyss of failure and makes us an example of a loser in the society. Sitting idle without facing the difficulties of life and running away from situations is a symbol of negative thinking. Guessing the bad result of any work without seeing its result is also an example of negative thinking. In any society, the position of people with positive thinking is always higher than the person with negative thinking. A person with positive thinking is free from fear and despair. He is always ready to do the most difficult task without worrying about its result and the effect of his positive thoughts is clearly visible in his life. How we will be seen in the society, how much respect we will get in the society, all these things depend on our own thinking and ideas. When we express our views in the society, what will be the reaction of the people and how much the people of the society agree with our words, all these things depend on our thinking.

We choose our happiness and sorrows much before we experience them. According to the principle of karma, we reap the fruits of our actions. The tree that grows from the seed we sow is the fruit we get. Some seeds are such that after being sown, they grow and bear fruits very soon. Whereas some seeds germinate slowly and grow slowly. Just as we definitely get the fruits of the seeds we sow, similarly, we have to bear the fruits of the seeds of our actions sooner or later. Any thought first takes shape in the mind. Only after this, it transforms into reality. Thus, the origin of karma is merely the result of our thoughts, our contemplation, our resolutions. It depends on the intensity of our thoughts or resolutions and the extent of our faith as to when our thoughts appear before us in the form of karma. Thoughts can be good or bad, i.e. positive or negative. Choosing this thought depends on the person, his environment and education . Actions generated from positive thinking help us in our material as well as spiritual progress, whereas actions generated from negativity lead us backwards in every aspect. This is how our thoughts take the form of reality.
I don’t rely on external means to relax

September 6th, 2024

How do you relax?

In today’s world, some say that meditation helps in relaxing, some say that exercising helps in relaxing. But all this happens only for a short while. It is difficult to relax nowadays. Continuous phone calls and social media are controlling life. It is not necessary that people did not live under stress before this. They too used to be stressed, but as there was no mobile revolution, they used to use the means to relax. We should also try to relax by keeping our electronic gadgets aside.

I don’t rely on music, dance, yoga, or anything else to relax. Unless you are relaxed from your heart, no one can make you feel relaxed. When we are stressed, our mind tries to figure out whether we should fight the problem or run away. This is when we find it difficult to decide on this subject. I decide to do what is right for you and your heart.

Anxiety and stress can affect mental, emotional and physical health. Being happy, that is, relaxed, reduces the risk of many mental illnesses. When we feel happy, we can also feel inner peace. I do not attend phone calls when I am eating. The insistence on doing multiple tasks at a time only puts us under stress. I do not do office work where I rest. I never get worried thinking that I could not prove to be the best for this job. I keep these feelings away from myself. I do not panic if the target is not achieved. Your job is to kindle a light within you. You have to show yourself that you are not panicking. I maintain emotional restraint and it relaxes me and makes me productive.

I believe that in everyday life, a person should stay away from things like jealousy, feeling of revenge, imitation, etc. and be satisfied with whatever he has. Then we will not have to resort to external means to relax.
If i had to give up one word it would be “Chhodo naa Yaar”

September 5th, 2024

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?

We speak so many words throughout the day. There are some words which we keep on speaking again and again. I too have got into the habit of speaking one word, if I had to leave it, it would be “Chhodo naa Yaar”means let it go friend.

Actually this word is enough to convince my mind. Because when the situation is against me, I use this word to calm myself down. But sometimes this word makes me laugh. Once my Guruji had come. He was telling me that you will have to do something in which you will have to put in your full effort. Suddenly it came out of my mouth, “Chhodo naa Yaar”. Hearing this word of mine, everyone there started laughing and Guruji also started laughing.
I complain about my life

September 4th, 2024

Are you holding a grudge? About?

There is no one in this world who would not be angry with someone or something. But I am angry with my life. I know that one should not be angry with life. Because your life is your own and it has your dreams and your happiness. You have your relatives, you have your family. But sometimes the circumstances force me to such an extent that I am unable to understand anything.

I am a woman, and being a woman is a boon from God. But sometimes this boon also seems like a curse to me, when I am unable to live up to the standards of others even after working hard all day.

A woman’s loneliness, unlike a man,

A woman’s home, love and caste, no one can tell her about her own land. After marriage, even a woman’s father’s house becomes alien. Then when she has to listen to taunts in her in-laws’ house, she does not understand which house is her own.
How does a woman establish and exile herself at the same time in her imagination?No one has ever tried to read a woman’s mind beyond the geography of her body. The boiling history within her spends her entire life sitting on the threshold of her silence, waiting for words.

But then when I think about myself with a calm mind, I think that perhaps this is the rule of nature. A woman can be compared to nature. Nature also gives us a lot but what do we give it in return? We play with it whenever we want. And the epitome of tolerance endures all this, and then when nature shows us its fierce form, even Gods tremble in front of it. Similarly, when a woman decides what she has to do, then no one can stand before her. Thinking this, I consider myself great. Because after all, I have given birth to this male-dominated society that harasses me. Then why should I have enmity with them? There must have been something lacking in my upbringing.
My journey far from home to Amarnath

September 3rd, 2024

Share a story about the furthest you’ve ever traveled from home.

I have seen many places in India and abroad. But the experience of Amarnath Yatra was quite thrilling. In other words, your trekking, adventure and religious hobbies are fulfilled at one place. It is a major pilgrimage center of Hinduism. It is located 135 km north-east of Srinagar, the capital of Jammu and Kashmir state of India, at an altitude of 13,600 feet above sea level. The length of this cave is 19 meters and width is 16 meters. The cave is 11 meters high. Amarnath cave is one of the major religious places of Lord Shiva. Amarnath is called the pilgrimage of pilgrimages because it is here that Lord Shiva told the secret of immortality to Mother Parvati. This story is called Amar Katha because it is said that listening to it leads to attainment of Shiva Dham. It is said that this is the most sacred story, those who listen to which attain immortality and become immortal. This story was narrated by Lord Shankar to Bhagwati Parvati in this cave. It was by listening to this story that Shri Shukdev Ji became immortal. When Lord Shankar was narrating this story to Bhagwati Parvati, a child parrot was also listening to this most sacred story and after listening to this, the child parrot attained the form of Shri Shukdev. Anyway, ‘Shuk’ means ‘parrot’ in Sanskrit and due to this reason, later on, he became famous in the world as Muni Shukdev.

As it is said that when Shukdev went to Naimisharanya, the sages and saints there welcomed him with great respect and requested him to narrate the immortal story and then what happened was that the ‘arrogant’ Shuk, happy with the qasidas read in his praise, started narrating the immortal story. It is said that as soon as the story started, Mount Kailash, Ksheer Sagar and Brahmalok also started shaking. Brahma, Vishnu, Shiva and all the gods reached the place where the immortal story was going on. Then Lord Shankar remembered that if the listeners of this story become immortal, then the functioning of the earth will stop and then there will be a difference in the prestige of the gods. That is why Lord Shri Shankar became angry and he cursed that the one who listens to this story will not become immortal but he will definitely attain Shiva Lok.

Every year the yatra commences on the day of Shravan Purnima, when Raksha Bandhan is celebrated with great pomp across the country. On the same day, thousands of pilgrims gather in the Amarnath cave to have the darshan of the self-created ice lingam of Lord Shiva. According to Hindu religious beliefs, the ice lingam shrinks during May to October and grows larger with the phases of the moon. Apart from this, there are two other icy shapes which depict Shiva and Parvati.

It starts from Pahalgam, nestled in the lap of nature. I saw locals helping pilgrims. They were carrying some elderly pilgrims on their backs through the dangerous hilly path. This path becomes very slippery during rains. The authorities had deployed security personnel on both the 48 km long Pahalgam and 14 km long Baltal-cave shrine. A lot of langars were set up on both the routes and at the transit camps and cave shrine. Helicopter services are also available for pilgrims on both the routes.

Some say it is the way to heaven and some say it is the way to attain salvation. But it is true that the darshan of the self-manifested Shivlingam of Lord Shiva, famous by the names Amarnath, Amareshwar etc., which is formed in its full form from snow every full moon, is in itself a heart-soothing sight. Since it is not an easy task to travel such a long distance and cross many obstacles to reach the Amarnath cave, every pilgrim who sees the ice lingam inside the cave considers himself blessed and very lucky because many turn back after seeing the steep climbs.

Those who are rich travel on mules while the rest travel on foot. It is said that the route from Pahalgam to Pavitra Cave is the route of the most beautiful mountain ranges in the world, which is literally true. It has glacial valleys, waterfalls falling from a height, snow-covered lakes, rivers flowing from them, and then snow bridges created by nature to cross them. All together, it presents such a wonderful play of nature that man watches all this with fascination. And roaming in the lap of nature, he enjoys the enchanting natural beauty and feels a strange peace in the environment.
Not getting success? Try this

September 2nd, 2024

Sometimes the curious mind asks whether dreams really indicate future events or do dreams have no connection with real life. To understand the world of dreams, it is necessary to know the science of the human mind. The main basis of dream science is the human mind. The human mind remains active even when the body becomes relaxed during sleep. The mind consists of many layers, in which the conscious mind, subconscious mind and semi-conscious mind have a major contribution.

To taste success, it is not only necessary for a person to dream but it is also very important to have a firm intention to fulfill that dream. Success remains miles away from those people who do any work with doubts in their minds. But no one can stop a person from being successful who dreams of success and works diligently to achieve it and continuously moves forward towards his goal.

We get success only when we move forward with positive thinking even after failure, keep trying. If the goal is big, then many types of obstacles have to be faced, failure can also be found in the first attempt, but one should not be disappointed and should not stop trying until success is achieved. In the present times, the thinking of most people has become negative. There may be many reasons behind this due to political, social and lifestyle changes. It may also be that a person has been with the wrong people since childhood or later he got into the company of wrong people. Many times films, web series or literature books also pollute our thinking. If you think like this, then there can be many reasons for thinking being negative.

There are two types of memory – inner and outer. Inner memory saves that data, which has had a deep impact on your brain and then that data never gets erased. The inner memory remains active while sleeping at night and the inner memory is awake even when you wake up early in the morning. Remove useless and negative data from your inner memory and move one step at a time towards health, success, happiness and peace. Yoga says that any thought that is constantly coming takes the form of a belief. The picture of this form reaches the universe and then when it returns to you again, according to that picture, such events are created around you and you get what you had thought.

Firm thoughts become things. This simply means that we create the future as we think. The mind is the most powerful thing. Naturally, 60 thousand thoughts flash in it in 24 hours or they flash like lightning and go away. Most of those thoughts are negative. It is said that if the scale of negative thoughts is heavy then the future will also be the same and if there are mixed thoughts then there will be a mixed future, but if the number of positive thoughts is more then the future will be bright. The formula for dreams to come true is that the first thing is that you should be firm about your dream or goal. Those who keep changing their thoughts or goals frequently do not reach anywhere in life.

To make your dreams come true, chase them. Make a plan to achieve what you want and start working. Trust God, not fate, and always be optimistic. If you are failing in the beginning, it means that the chances of your dreams coming true are increasing. When you are working to fulfill your dreams, during that process you should imagine the things that you will feel after your dream is fulfilled. You can write things that you will say or do after your dream is fulfilled. When you do this, your desire to fulfill your dream increases and you work more in that direction. When you dream of anything and want to fulfill it, you should know that no dream is fulfilled in a day. For that, you have to work hard every day. Many times it happens that you get so tired while working hard that you give up without fulfilling that dream. But if you want to avoid these things, then track your progress. When you see that you are gradually moving closer to your dream, you will try to fulfill it yourself. The formula for dreams to come true is that the first thing is that you should be firm about your dream or goal. Those who change their thoughts or goals repeatedly do not reach anywhere in life.

To be successful in life, it is important that you achieve your goals. Often people dream but are unable to take action to fulfill them. If you want to be successful in life, then you must take action to fulfill your dreams. You may have many reasons due to which you are not taking action.
My ideal home would be like a temple

September 2nd, 2024

What does your ideal home look like?

Home is a place where we live with our family members. Not all buildings are homes. Many things are required to make a building a home. Like mutual love in the family, mutual cooperation, respect etc. Every person has three basic needs for running the life smoothly and those needs are food, clothing and shelter. Home is a place where even a troubled mind gets calm. Own home is important for almost everyone. It brings stability in life. Every person has different desires for home and he gets the house constructed accordingly. Like some people like to live in big houses while some like to live in normal houses.

My dream is that my house should be in the middle of a big garden. My house will be very beautiful and attractive. My house will have four rooms, a kitchen, a drawing room, a pooja ghar and a bathroom.

The walls of my house will be painted in off white colours. There will be a small terrace on the roof of my house, where I will be able to see the stars. There will be a small waterfall in front of my house, where I will sit and sip tea in the evening.

The garden of my house will have different types of flowers, plants and trees. It will be a small garden but the nectar of love will keep flowing in it. There will be the humming of birds with a hopeful morning. My house will always be filled with loved ones. God will always reside in my house and the hands of my elders will be on my head. There will never be a dearth of food grains in my house. And guests will always be respected. My companion will be with me every moment. There will always be happiness and excitement in my mind. All my dreams will come true in my house filled with divine power. My loved ones will never be angry with me. Every corner of my house will be a mirror of love. There will never be any discord in my relationships. Everyone will live with love. There will be satsang of God in the morning and evening. We will always keep dancing and singing in the waves of devotion.
Teach your kids the differences between love and sex

September 1st, 2024

There may be different views on sex education for children, but one major opinion is that children should be given information on this subject in a timely and correct manner. The person giving this information should be someone who has a deep understanding not only of anatomy but also of the psychology of children. If a man goes to a woman and says, “I am close to you because I love you,” then this is cheating. This is wrong. If sex is a need of the body, then it is not wrong. But avoid the mistake of calling sex love. Be honest. If you want to have sex, then tell the other person in clear words. And before telling your partner, make it clear to yourself whether you are in love or lust. Now let us talk about the argument that with time all people learn important things related to sex on their own, like other creatures. Here there are some important differences between humans and other creatures which people ignore. For example, humans do not have a fixed time for sex. They have sex not for producing children, but for pleasure. Children are born by default. Humans have sex even during a woman’s menstruation or pregnancy. Even if a woman is not willing, she is ill, she is too young or too old, sex can still be had with her. All these things show that human sex life is not as simple as that of other creatures. There is also a view that just as other creatures develop an understanding of sex without any special education, humans can also do the same. Generally religious and traditional people think this. But as per my knowledge, there is no special arrangement for sex education in any religion. Some forms of sex education can be seen in some tribes, but no systematic structure of it is visible there either. Some people believe that if they behave naturally and normally in front of their children, so that the children become familiar with their bodies, then the children can develop comfort towards the opposite sex. But this is not an effective way of sex education. In many parts of the world, women wear swimming suits and there are children and men of all ages around them. But sex-based violence also takes place in those societies. It is clear that if teenagers see the body of a man or a woman, it does not develop any special comfort towards the opposite sex.

In non-human animals, if the female’s body is not ready for sex, then the male does not go near her. The female is also ready for sex only in a particular season or time. In this way, it is clear that the sex life of humans and non-human animals cannot be considered the same. A woman is as soft as a flower. And a flower is not loved by rubbing, scratching, making marks on its body or rubbing it inside and outside. The body of a woman and the nerves of her vagina are extremely sensitive. They are very fine. One of the reasons why women are going to the doctor today is that there is violence in their physical relations. Due to the force of lust, neither the man is conscious nor the woman has the courage to say ‘no’ to the man. And then thousands of diseases develop in the uterus. Terrible pain during menstruation, OCD, PCOD and God knows what else has to be endured.

Women’s sexuality has been controlled for centuries, which has distorted the sex life of humans. Although its complete cure is possible only in a just society, but until that happens, the positive and negative aspects of the matter of restricting the functioning of the genitals and social life of children should be discussed by subject experts. Men are active by nature and women are passive. Therefore, here men should understand that they should not spoil the body of a woman for a moment’s lust. Anyway, if sex is done with patience and method, and there is a pause within, then its results are pleasant for both the persons. And satisfaction is also achieved. But men who show their power in passion, never get satisfaction. Those who are married must have experienced that even after having sex for years, the desire for sex remains the same within them. The reason for this is that they have never understood this thing deeply. Before 45 minutes, the body of a woman does not open up so that she can take you in her arms, or allow you to enter inside her. That is why foreplay is so important. And in the same way afterplay also means that because of you I was able to enjoy life energy. Those who consider only penetration as sex are rapists. Taking away your own partner forcefully is rape. Today 70 percent of women are unaware of orgasm, the reason for this is ignorance of sex. Do not consider this as an attack on ego, rather try to improve yourself. Touch the feet of your female friend, take permission from her, have respect for her, and take care not to give her pain, but give her pleasure.

Even if you have sex for ten minutes or half an hour, the woman remains untouched by your touch, and you too return incomplete. Very slowly the body gets ready, very slowly those doors open when you get permission. And to understand all this, stability is needed within. And this is not possible without meditation. Without meditation, life remains shallow. If you want depth in life, then meditation is very important. Consciousness, stillness, stability, patience, love, faith – all these words will enter life only by meditating. Nothing will happen by reading books or listening to knowledge.

it is not right to call sex a sin, adharma or something like that, it is important to understand this. It is also necessary that the happiness and sorrow of family life is deeply related to a healthy sex life, so it cannot be ignored or neglected.