There may be different views on sex education for children, but one major opinion is that children should be given information on this subject in a timely and correct manner. The person giving this information should be someone who has a deep understanding not only of anatomy but also of the psychology of children. If a man goes to a woman and says, “I am close to you because I love you,” then this is cheating. This is wrong. If sex is a need of the body, then it is not wrong. But avoid the mistake of calling sex love. Be honest. If you want to have sex, then tell the other person in clear words. And before telling your partner, make it clear to yourself whether you are in love or lust. Now let us talk about the argument that with time all people learn important things related to sex on their own, like other creatures. Here there are some important differences between humans and other creatures which people ignore. For example, humans do not have a fixed time for sex. They have sex not for producing children, but for pleasure. Children are born by default. Humans have sex even during a woman’s menstruation or pregnancy. Even if a woman is not willing, she is ill, she is too young or too old, sex can still be had with her. All these things show that human sex life is not as simple as that of other creatures. There is also a view that just as other creatures develop an understanding of sex without any special education, humans can also do the same. Generally religious and traditional people think this. But as per my knowledge, there is no special arrangement for sex education in any religion. Some forms of sex education can be seen in some tribes, but no systematic structure of it is visible there either. Some people believe that if they behave naturally and normally in front of their children, so that the children become familiar with their bodies, then the children can develop comfort towards the opposite sex. But this is not an effective way of sex education. In many parts of the world, women wear swimming suits and there are children and men of all ages around them. But sex-based violence also takes place in those societies. It is clear that if teenagers see the body of a man or a woman, it does not develop any special comfort towards the opposite sex.
In non-human animals, if the female’s body is not ready for sex, then the male does not go near her. The female is also ready for sex only in a particular season or time. In this way, it is clear that the sex life of humans and non-human animals cannot be considered the same. A woman is as soft as a flower. And a flower is not loved by rubbing, scratching, making marks on its body or rubbing it inside and outside. The body of a woman and the nerves of her vagina are extremely sensitive. They are very fine. One of the reasons why women are going to the doctor today is that there is violence in their physical relations. Due to the force of lust, neither the man is conscious nor the woman has the courage to say ‘no’ to the man. And then thousands of diseases develop in the uterus. Terrible pain during menstruation, OCD, PCOD and God knows what else has to be endured.
Women’s sexuality has been controlled for centuries, which has distorted the sex life of humans. Although its complete cure is possible only in a just society, but until that happens, the positive and negative aspects of the matter of restricting the functioning of the genitals and social life of children should be discussed by subject experts. Men are active by nature and women are passive. Therefore, here men should understand that they should not spoil the body of a woman for a moment’s lust. Anyway, if sex is done with patience and method, and there is a pause within, then its results are pleasant for both the persons. And satisfaction is also achieved. But men who show their power in passion, never get satisfaction. Those who are married must have experienced that even after having sex for years, the desire for sex remains the same within them. The reason for this is that they have never understood this thing deeply. Before 45 minutes, the body of a woman does not open up so that she can take you in her arms, or allow you to enter inside her. That is why foreplay is so important. And in the same way afterplay also means that because of you I was able to enjoy life energy. Those who consider only penetration as sex are rapists. Taking away your own partner forcefully is rape. Today 70 percent of women are unaware of orgasm, the reason for this is ignorance of sex. Do not consider this as an attack on ego, rather try to improve yourself. Touch the feet of your female friend, take permission from her, have respect for her, and take care not to give her pain, but give her pleasure.
Even if you have sex for ten minutes or half an hour, the woman remains untouched by your touch, and you too return incomplete. Very slowly the body gets ready, very slowly those doors open when you get permission. And to understand all this, stability is needed within. And this is not possible without meditation. Without meditation, life remains shallow. If you want depth in life, then meditation is very important. Consciousness, stillness, stability, patience, love, faith – all these words will enter life only by meditating. Nothing will happen by reading books or listening to knowledge.
it is not right to call sex a sin, adharma or something like that, it is important to understand this. It is also necessary that the happiness and sorrow of family life is deeply related to a healthy sex life, so it cannot be ignored or neglected.
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