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What to do after being cheated in love?

August 26th, 2023

When someone loves someone, he spends the whole universe on him. He hands over all his day’s peace and night’s sleep to that person. No matter how important a work may be, nothing is important because of it. He is not worried about his future. He lives only in the present. In such a situation, if a person cheats someone, then he does not live anywhere.

As long as you keep thinking about the person who betrayed you, it won’t matter. When you beg in front of him to ask for love, then you will have no value in his eyes. The one who values your love will never cheat you and the one who cheated doesn’t love you at all. You may have fallen in love with him but he only had a bond of attraction with you. Often the same people cheat more on whom we trust blindly. The same false love betrays us one day or the other. If someone has true love towards you then he can never cheat you.

If ever you have loved a person who repeatedly humiliated you. Still you were vying for his love. You are bound to be cheated in life. Because that person did not love you from the heart, you gave him so much value. That’s why he was making a false show of love by taking pity on you. You were so madly in love with her that you did not understand this false love. If you had ignored that human being at this time, you would not have been in this condition today. If you tried to forget him, you would probably feel sad for a few days. But there is no such big stumbling block in life. The person who values love also values the love of others.

The one whom a person loves, he settles in the heart and mind. Such a deep layer of love sits in his heart and mind that it becomes difficult to remove it. A person is immersed in his remembrance all the time while sleeping, waking up, laughing and playing. But is it okay to make yourself so vulnerable for the person who betrayed you? The one who has cheated must be making more new plans in his life. And must be playing with someone. Whatever happens happens for the good. It is better not to be with such a deceitful person. As the leaves of the tree fall according to the time, and then when the time comes, the tree becomes green again. Similarly, our life turns many pages. When the right time comes, everything goes back to the way it was. The wound of time does not always remain a wound. The more wisely you take less, the sooner your wound will heal.

Sorrow and happiness are two sides of our life. Those who are more weak, they have a lot of effect on them. The person who is strong with his feelings does not care about big or small sorrows. Everyone has trouble when they have come into this world. Some get scattered in trouble and some get sparkled. It is your own decision whether you have to shine by fighting such trouble, or you have to scatter in life by remembering the one who cheated you.

Love does not mean only between a boy or a girl. Brother’s love, sister’s love, friend’s love, and also love with family members is love. Where love is not true, there can be betrayal in any relationship. And when there is cheating in the relationship, we break ourselves. We must understand that the world does not stop for anyone. If we try to forget someone, we will remember him more. So put your mind somewhere else.

Was a very handsome scholar boy. He fell in love with a girl during college days. He didn’t understand that girl, the girl loved him to fulfill her needs. And when her needs were met, she left the boy. In this condition, the boy was not able to make himself comfortable. He thought what would I do by living in this world now. And he got up very early in the morning and left the house to commit suicide. Reached the bank of a pond, and sitting there started thinking for a while. Only then a saint came to bathe in the pond. When he saw that young boy there, he asked him son, what are you doing here so early in the morning? I come here everyday to take bath, I have never seen you. The boy did not say anything on the words of the saint, he was just looking towards the pond. The saint understood his condition. The saint put his hand on his forehead and asked, son, will you tell me your problem? After getting the love of the saint, the boy started crying loudly and narrated the whole story to the saint. Then the boy said to the saint, let me die because I cannot forget him.

The saint explained to the boy, our mind and mind is our slave. When you had kept him in love with that girl with love, till then he was supporting you with the same love. Now when you will scold them and say that leave me in my condition, I should not remember anyone. So he will definitely listen to you. God has filled us with so much strength that we can heal the wounds of our mind with the ointment of our own thoughts.

Will the mother who gave birth to you ever die, will you go with her? Whose father himself by facing difficulties and fulfilling your every need made you worthy that you can be his support in old age. Will you repay their favor like this? To commit suicide is a coward. With whom will you fight when you destroy yourself? You have to fight the situation and make yourself happy again. It is necessary to keep yourself alive for your family, for your society and for your country. You are not so cheap that you give your life for someone. Your life is priceless. You have a golden future in front of you. Don’t know how many pebbles and stones will come on the rocky path of life, how many times you will get thorn in your feet. So will you sit down with your feet together? When we get hurt by stones once, then only we walk carefully.

That’s why one should slowly try to remove the person who cheats from his thoughts. As many times as you remember that person, use the word cheater for him and calm your mind in your mind.
Why is struggle necessary for life?

August 26th, 2023

Nothing in life without struggle. When we struggle, a force is born in us. On the basis of that strength, we are successful in achieving our destination. When gold turns into ornaments, it is melted in a burning hot fire. He doesn’t know how much he is beaten to turn iron into a tool. How much heat does coal take to become a diamond? Similarly, the personality of a man also shines through struggle. The people who do not struggle always remain backward in life. Not seeing their shortcomings, they keep blaming fate.

He was a very hardworking farmer. He would grow crops in the fields with all his hard work, but sometimes his crop would become completely useless. He does not get any benefit from his crop. The reason for this is sometimes dryness, sometimes too much rain, sometimes too much sunshine, and sometimes so much hail used to fall without any season. One day looking towards which sky he started saying to God. Lord I am very angry with you. All the people of the world consider you omniscient. I have heard that nothing can happen here without your consent. Everything in this world is made by you. Not even a leaf can move without your consent. But being so knowledgeable, why don’t you pay attention to small things. Whenever you change the weather. Don’t you know that this has a big impact on agriculture. Perhaps you do not know because you do not have to do farming. But why have you taken the right to do the work which you do not have to do. Do one less God, hand over this right to me. Then see how I take the weather in my hands. I will do what is right for the farm.

God laughed after listening to the farmer. God thought that I should give him a chance this time so that he can understand the importance of the laws of nature. In front of whom did God appear? To whom did God say that after today you can do everything according to your wish, I give you this boon. Saying this, God left from there. To what extent was he happy? He was thinking that now he will grow food on his own will. For the first time, the farmer planted wheat seeds in his fields with great enthusiasm. Now the weather was in his hands. The sun would come out when he wanted. He would have stopped the rain when he wanted. He started taking care of the farm as per his convenience.

After a few months, large ears of wheat started waving in his field. The farmer was very happy in his heart that he had never seen such a full field till date. Now God will also see how the crop is grown. Seeing my crop this time, they will have to change the rules of their nature. After a few days it was time to harvest the crop. As soon as the farmer started harvesting his crop, his head became dizzy. There was no wheat at all inside the wheat ears. The farmer started crying sitting there and started calling God. Oh God how you cheated me like this. Did I take the weather in my hands, because of that anger you did not put wheat in my ears? Then what is the difference between you and an ordinary person.

Hearing the words of the farmer, God started laughing again. God came and started saying, why would I be angry with you? I gave you what you asked for me. You still have a complaint with me. The truth is that you didn’t even give your plants a chance to struggle. Neither did you let him fight with the storm, nor did you rain hail, nor did you let the sun shine for a long time. You kept them as per your convenience. It is only after bearing these laws of nature that the power to grow in food comes. We also have to suffer hammer injuries to sit in temples.

After listening to God, the farmer started asking for forgiveness from God. The farmer has started saying that God, what I had considered so simple, there is a big secret behind it. Struggle is the first step to our success. Struggle strengthens both our body and mind. The storm in our life is a challenge for us. If we try to save ourselves by being afraid of all this, then our fate will be like the wheat of the farmer. We will not be able to develop. A person who does not struggle is a doodle. That’s why struggling is our life. To be afraid of struggle is cowardice.
How strong is loneliness?

August 26th, 2023

Weakness and strength are two sides of a coin for humans. Loneliness does not just mean that we are not surrounded by a crowd of people. Loneliness means behind the millions of questions arising in our mind, our sadness, the disturbance of our mind, the fear hidden inside us. When a person does not consider himself capable, then he feels that he is the only fool in the world. Loneliness is not just physical it is a cause of mental disturbance. Loneliness with mental disturbance makes a man’s mind like a blank paper. In which the victim goes on writing the feelings arising in his mind.

The problem of loneliness happens to a person when he gets too attached to something and that thing goes out of his hands. Or someone plays with our feelings. A person struggling with the problem of loneliness can turn his life in two directions. If he turns his life towards positive direction then he can make himself capable of achieving anything in the world. And if a person’s mind goes towards negativity, then he can also commit an act like suicide. A person struggling with loneliness remains full of strength. At this time, if that person finds someone to show him the right direction, then that person can do a lot.

Being alone, a person can weave the fabric of his future very well. A single person can change the whole world. All you need is courage. Anyway, no one belongs to anyone in this selfish world. We waste our time by falling in the trap of false relationships. When a person is alone then only he is able to take the right decision for something. Victory in life and everything becomes our thinking, the one who accepts that he will lose, he loses, the one who is determined that he will win, he wins. Being alone means you are not alone but with yourself. You can never be alone if you have that powerful mind with you.

Your mind is like a crazy child. You have to keep him under control either by intimidation or by love. Do not always weaken your state of mind by thinking that I have no one in this world. I have no friends, no one talks nice to me, etc. We did not bring all these people with us. We came into this world alone. And God has given us so much strength that we can single-handedly lift the whole world on our heads. Then why do we get disheartened about loneliness every now and then.

There was a sculptor. He used to make idols out of stones. One day he went to find a big stone in the forest to make an idol for the village temple. He saw a very big stone in the forest, he was happy that this stone is perfect for me. There were also many smaller stones lying there. He took out the tools from his bag. And as soon as I hit the stone, a sound came from the stone, I am feeling very pain. Leave me for God’s sake. The stones lying near him also started saying please leave it. Nothing like this had ever happened to him. He left that stone. Then when he started moving forward, he found another similar stone. That stone was all alone. This time again he took out his weapon, as soon as he hit the stone again there was a sound. This time he thought that maybe the same thing happens in this forest. He did not hear any sound from the stone, he continued to do his work. After a few hours he made a beautiful idol. And he brought that idol to the village. The villagers kept that idol in the temple. All the villagers used to worship him a lot. One day a person said that there is no stone in our temple to break coconut. So that sculptor said that I will bring the stone to break the coconut.

The sculptor went back to the forest and brought back the stone he had left behind while making the idol. He brought it and kept it in the temple. Whoever came to the temple used to hit the coconut with a stone. One night the idol stone and the coconut stone were talking to each other. The coconut stone said how lucky you are people worship you. I am so unlucky people break coconuts on my head all day it hurts me so much. After listening to his words, the idol stone spoke. When this sculptor came to pick me up I was in pain too

The work which the world always stops us from doing, you will not be able to do it, if we muster the courage to stay alone, we will definitely be able to do it. We have already heard that on whom the world laughs, he creates history. Don’t consider yourself less than anyone. The tour of loneliness is such a journey for you, by walking in which you can get new information. Even if there are difficulties in your journey, it will increase your courage. If someone blocks your way, then your courage will increase. If you surrender yourself in defeat, then at that time your value will further decrease.

People who live alone have knowledge of every field. Because they have to do every small and big work on their own. They do not care about the things of the world. They harden themselves by bearing the taunts of the world. He is not ashamed of doing any small or big work.
When should we keep calm?

August 25th, 2023

Being calm is a very powerful medicine for our body. When we are calm, the hormones in our body also become calm. When we are excited, they also start doing their work very fast. By sitting quietly, the cells of the brain work deeply. There are many occasions in our life when we should remain calm.

When we do not have the facts of something, we should be calm. If we keep on talking without any reason about things that we are not aware of, then we may be made fun of. People will never give value to our words again. People will feel that he keeps on speaking like this. Some people have a habit of putting their foot in everything. Such people unnecessarily become the reason for jokes.

Sometimes such a situation comes, that everyone is making fun of a poor or helpless person. In such a situation, you should remain absolutely silent. The man who is poor today may be richer than you tomorrow. But when you together with people will call him good or bad, then you will fall in his eyes. When any of your relatives or family members are insulting you, then you should be completely silent. Even if you are right, don’t say anything at that time. The person in front will definitely realize his mistake. If you are getting very angry on his words, then you go away from there. And sit quietly in one place and take long breaths. Your anger will calm down.

Always pay attention to your words while speaking. If your words are harming someone then shut up immediately. Even if someone is talking bad about another person in front of you, it is okay to remain silent. Because the one who is doing someone else’s harm today will harm you tomorrow. Sometimes such an occasion comes when we are very sad, at this time if someone is not understanding our feeling, then we should be very calm and talk to ourselves. Because when you are sad and someone shows you a little sympathy, then you may say all the things to your mother, which you should not tell anyone. Those who are intelligent, they kill someone with words. Are there and save someone too.

Just like we do not like the sound of a crow, and the sound of a peacock is sweet. Because crows always talk. And the peacock speaks only when it is about to rain. Similarly, we should not chatter all the time. Those who speak sometimes, their words have power. And people listen to their words with attention. That’s why your words should be spoken very seriously.

We should not speak at all while eating food. If you get involved in a discussion while eating food, you may have an argument with someone, the food eaten in such an environment becomes poison in your body.

When there is a quarrel between two people and you have no relation with them, then you should remain completely silent. At such a time, your speaking can cause a lot of trouble. That’s why keep yourself quiet. There is great power in silence. The person who has recognized the power of silence, that much happiness gets included in his life. Silence is such a weapon that the biggest controversies can be avoided. The truth of life is that in bad times a person loses his power to think and understand. And assumes that nothing good will happen in his life now. In such a situation, his mental condition starts deteriorating. And the man starts babbling unnecessarily. That’s why always keep yourself calm. Don’t unnecessarily put any pressure on your mind.

Sometimes a person is sharing his/her sorrows with you, at that time listen to him/her very calmly. Do not give any argument for your words in his words. If someone speaks his mind considering you as his well wisher, then keep his words limited to yourself.

When we wake up early in the morning, then for some time we should do our daily work in silence. Due to which our mind remains calm throughout the day.
how cocky are you?

August 25th, 2023

Among the thousands of diseases of the human body, there is one such disease whose name is ego. If a man says that he has no ego, then it can never happen. Everyone definitely has ego of something or someone in some form or the other. To a certain extent this is true, so long as men keep it in their minds. But when a man starts showing his ego in front of everyone, then it takes a very bad form. Our ego sometimes takes such a big form that behind it we put the happiness of our whole life at stake. Our ego does not allow us to learn anything new. Because we consider ourselves the most knowledgeable. Our ego sometimes separates us from our loved ones too. Because even in relationships it comes forward that I am the best. No one is as rich as me. My sons are the best. My children are more successful. I have a lot of respect in the society. I am very good at reading or very good at playing. Whatever you succeed in, you are not isolated from the world. You don’t need to think so much in your mind. Ego is the belief that you are the best.

Often people consider the person who speaks bitterly, the one who shows arrogance in every talk to be arrogant. But this is not always the case. Sweet speaking people are also egoistic. His words do not understand the ego inside him. We cannot know how ego is born inside a man.

There were many stones lying at one place. Children came there playing, one child picked up a stone and threw it upwards. No one had ever thrown such a stone before. The flying stone got a big impression that I am going upwards. The stones that were below also started praising that stone. That today our friend is going to fly up. Hearing the cheers of the friends, the stone flew up and swelled up with joy. He was saying from above that among friends, he is coming after visiting the sky for a while. In the meantime, he collided with a glass window. The glass of the window shattered as soon as it collided. Now he got more ego, he said, how many times I have told you, don’t come in my way. Have you become shattered? The stone did not understand that it was hard and the glass very weak. He was just full of his ego. Passing through the window, he went inside the house and fell on the carpet. After going there, he took a cold breath and started thinking in his mind, in the happiness of my arrival, they have also spread the carpet. Perhaps they knew that I would come today. How nice people are, how welcoming they are to me. The stone swelled with more pride.

Meanwhile, the servant of the palace came running. He probably heard the sound of breaking glass. When he came, he saw that the glass of the window was broken and there was a stone lying on the carpet. The servant picked up the stone in his hand and looked around. Even in this the stone was feeling proud. He was thinking look I am being watched. The servant threw it back down the window. Seeing the stone while going down from the window, his friends started shouting loudly. As if he had come from space. When the stone came and fell down. All his friends gathered there. Everyone asked him about the above scene. He was telling everything by offering a big stone. He was thinking that what the people below know. He was speaking when I went upstairs how many glasses did I break. Then I was sitting comfortably on the carpet of the palace. He told everyone by applying one to four.

Such is the nature of a man. People who are egoistic keep on telling their words to everyone in such a big way. We are also a stone created by God. Everything in our body is given by God. Still we keep doing me and mine. We have no control over the day we are born. Still we say my birthday. Were we born that day by our will? Nothing is ours on this earth. What we are sitting considering as our own is a momentary pleasure. For this we keep fighting and fighting all our life. If we understand this thing that we have nothing here, then maybe we will never feel sad about losing anything. We will never have ego of anything in our mind. Our breath is also an oxygen cylinder given by God. Which will be felt by someone other than us.
Do you worry all the time?

August 25th, 2023

Many types of incidents happen in our life. Some give us a lot of happiness and some give us a lot of worry. There is a secret behind every incidents. But knowing this secret is not in the capability of a human being. Whatever is not in our interest gives us worry. But we do not have that much understanding that we cannot fix his destiny by worrying. Whatever is going to happen will happen. That’s why don’t spoil the present by worrying about the future. Whatever happens, happens only for the good. But it is not possible for us to see the goodness behind it.

Once God of hell said to his messenger of Death , a woman has died in the world of death, bring her soul. messenger of Death went to the earth and saw a woman with three very small girls crying. A very small girl is lying on his chest. One is crying holding her mother’s hand and the other has fallen asleep while crying. Yamdoot got very scared seeing this. He felt so sorry for those girls that he could not take their mother’s soul. messenger of Death went to God of hell and said, how are such small girls, who have no one else in the world, lamenting with their mother, whatever you say, I cannot bring her mother’s soul. God of hell said that whatever is destined will happen. You have disobeyed my order, now I will throw you on the earth itself. When you go there and laugh three times at your stupidity, then only your punishment will be fulfilled.

God of hell threw messenger of Death on the earth. The messenger of Death was sitting on the earth as an ordinary human being. It was very cold and he was shivering with cold. Only then a cobbler came out from there. The cobbler was going to get warm clothes for his children. Seeing him fit the man, he bought warm clothes for him and forgot his children. Then the cobbler told him to the man, come to my house, you seem hungry for many days. If my wife gets angry with you, don’t say anything, because I didn’t buy warm clothes for the kids.

The cobbler came to his home with the messenger of Death. On seeing the man, the cobbler’s wife became more angry. She started abusing her husband. She was saying that your children may die of chills in the cold, but you have to keep this man alive. messenger of Death laughed out loud for the first time after listening to the cobbler’s wife. Seeing him laughing, wife became even more angry. The cobbler asked, are you laughing even after seeing so much anger of my wife? Then messenger of Death said when I laugh three times then I will tell the reason.

Both the cobbler and his wife did not know that he was a messenger of Death. And with his arrival, their house will be filled with wealth and grains. messenger of Death started learning to make shoes with the cobbler. Gradually he became very skilled in cobbler’s work. The cobbler’s business had now increased so much that even the King Maharaja used to get his shoes made from him. One day a man from the palace came and gave some leather and said to make shoes for king with this leather, not slippers. Because there was a rule in that state, if any person died, he would be sent to the crematorium wearing slippers. The cobbler had repeatedly told the Yamdoot not to make slippers out of this leather even by mistake, otherwise we will be hanged. But messenger of Death made him slippers. Seeing the slippers, the cobbler’s anger reached the seventh sky. He said very bad things to him. messenger of Death started laughing again after listening to the cobbler. The cobbler asked the reason for his laughter. He again repeated the same thing, when I laugh three times then I will tell the reason.

Meanwhile, the man of the royal court came running. He said that the king has died, he needs slippers. messenger of Death had made slippers only, so gave them to him. The cobbler apologized to Yamdoot. And said you are definitely not an ordinary man. After a few days, an old woman brought three young girls to the cobbler’s place. Seeing the girls, messenger of Death understood that these are the same girls because of whom I am being punished here. He asked the old lady who are these girls. Then the old woman replied that these are my neighbor’s girls. Its mother had died leaving these people very young. She had no one in this world because she was also very poor. I didn’t have any children, so I brought up these three girls. Now these three are going to be married to princes. This time he laughed out loud for the third time after listening to the old lady. He made very beautiful shoes for all the three girls.

Then the cobbler asked him, now you have laughed three times, now you tell me the reason for your laughter. Then he told his whole story to the cobbler and said that now my punishment is over. The little girl for whom I am being punished is going to marry the prince today. Had his mother been alive, she too would have been living in poverty.

Now I understand that I was worrying unnecessarily. God of hell had rightly told me that whatever God does, he does it for good. That’s why even if the biggest sorrow comes to a man, he should not panic. One should be patient thinking that God is definitely going to do something good for him. Always trust your God, he will never let bad happen to you. Often we blame God while bearing our sorrows. But we do not know that both sorrow and happiness are given by him. Always do not forget to thank them in happiness. And be carefree in sorrow. Leave everything up to them.
Do people make fun of you?

August 24th, 2023

In today’s era, out of 100 people, 80 people are sad that if I do this work, people will make fun of me. Will criticize me I will become a laughing stock for everyone. If I don’t get good marks in the exam then everyone will say bad things to me. People spoil their present by worrying about the future. The secret of not being successful in life is a fear sitting in your mind. If we get out of this fear then probably we will be able to do a lot. To get out of this, we have to stop caring about people. You have to stop listening to people’s words. You have to make yourself fearless. Only then you will be able to succeed in your goal.

He was a very intelligent boy. He was also very clever in reading. But he was very poor. Due to poverty he had to do every small work. Seeing this, his friends would sometimes make fun of him. When he thought of appearing in any competitive examination, his friends would say, go son, that job has been kept for you. He was very troubled by all these things. One day he went to the forest to cut wood. He saw that a saint was doing penance under the tree nearby. When the saint’s eyes opened, the saint called him. The boy sat in front of the saint with folded hands. The saint could understand that the boy was very sad. He asked the boy what is going on in your mind? The boy told all his words to the saint. The sage took him with him to his hut. Both the people slept at night.

When the boy woke up in the morning, the saint said to the boy. Son, will you pluck a flower from a distant garden for me? But the path from my cottage to the garden is full of ferocious dogs. That dog is very ferocious. You have to go very carefully. Otherwise they can attack you. The boy said to the saint, okay, I will try my best to bring flowers for you. When the boy went out to fetch flowers, as soon as he went a little further, he saw a pack of dogs. He was starving to see her. The dogs were looking so scary that he didn’t dare to go ahead. He came back to the saint and said, I am not strong enough to face these dogs. I’m sorry I was unable to bring you flowers.

The saint called one of his disciples who was blind and deaf. The saint told the disciple to go and bring flowers for me. The disciple left silently. He was moving towards the garden with his slow steps. The boy was watching the disciple leave. The dogs were barking at the disciple too. But he was going at his own pace. After a while he came with flowers for the saint. The saint told him to the boy, see, he does the work of bringing flowers for me everyday. And it has been doing this for many years.

The saint explained to that boy. If we want to reach our destination, we should become completely blind and deaf. When you will not look at anyone else, then it will not matter to you, how much people are hungry. You should stop listening to other’s words. People try to mislead you from your destination by taunting you. If you continuously ignore their words then people themselves will get upset. You also have to live in this world with your head held high You have every right. Make yourself tough. Let people change, don’t change you. Make up your mind that you will remain the way you are. You don’t need anyone’s opinion.

Never do as people do to you. They will automatically regret one day or the other. Never consider yourself weaker than anyone in any sense.
How to control your anger immediately?

August 24th, 2023

Getting angry is a nature of the human body. Like laughing, crying, being happy, being sad, irritability, etc. are verbs, similarly anger is also a verb. But all these actions also have a limit. Excess of anything is not good for our body. But sometimes it happens even against our wish that it is not in our control. When we get angry, we don’t see anything back and forth. But the reason for all these things is always other people. When someone makes you very angry, then you get angry. You don’t get angry when you are alone, do you? You are able to laugh when someone makes you laugh a lot. You become sad when someone hurts you. Means all these things just have nothing in us. All these things are gifts given by people. We have become so much under the control of others that we have no control over ourselves.

There was a young boy who used to get very angry. Everyone in the neighborhood knew that he gets very angry. When everyone came to know about this, people started making him angry more and more. He would get angry due to the misdeeds of the people and everyone would enjoy it. His parents explained a lot to the boy that he should not get angry like this. But he doesn’t understand anything. When he was very angry, he used to do a lot of damage to himself. He would have thrown whatever was in front of him. If he had younger brothers and sisters, he would have killed them. When his anger subsided, he felt very sorry for himself. He himself was very troubled by his anger. But there was no way to calm it down. One day the boy was going somewhere on the way. His friends threw stones on the way. He got entangled in them and fell. When he woke up after falling, his mercury was on the seventh sky. He was abusing the boys. Only then a saint passed from there. He saw the boy screaming and crying like this. So he asked what happened son? But the boy was very angry, he said worse than the saint.

Then the boy got up from there and went ahead. His foot fell into a pit. Then he got angry again. And started shouting loudly. Which scoundrel has done all this to me today. I will not leave him. That’s why that saint was again passing him on the way. The saint asked back, what happened now child, why are you shouting now? The boy was already angry, he said to the saint, what do you mean? The saint said, it is okay to get angry, but open your fists once. And take a deep breath. The boy said what is all this drama, I will not do it. The saint said to him, listen to me once, son. The boy thought it’s okay, I’ll do it. The boy opened his clenched fists and took a deep breath. The boy found that his anger had completely subsided.

The boy said to the saint, I am very upset with my anger, what should I do? The saint said to the boy, will you walk with me for a few days? I want to see your anger, where does your anger come from. The boy said okay let’s go. The boy went to the saint’s cottage. Now the saint used to tell the boy daily to show his anger. The boy says, I am not getting angry here. 10 days passed while doing this. The boy did not get angry even for a day.

Now the boy was missing his home. Then the saint explained to him, the breath that is going on inside us is a very precious thing of our body. Without it we have no life. When we get angry, our breathing becomes fast. Even when we are happy, our breathing becomes fast. It is very important for us to pay attention to our breaths. God has given us such a precious thing, so we should spend it very little. No matter what the situation may come in life, we have to control our breath. When your breath moves fast, then only your thoughts start running. When you slow down your breath very slowly, then your thoughts also stop. That’s why great wise people ask to meditate. When we are in meditation, our breathing is very normal.

The saint said to the boy, come on, I will drop you at your home. When the saint and the boy were going on the way, a person said bad things to the saint. But the saint did not give any answer to his words and he smiled and went ahead. The boy asked the saint, didn’t you get angry on this person’s words? On this the saint replied, why should I waste my breath by getting angry on his words. My mind will follow my way. No one has any control over this. No one can hurt me with their words. No one can make me angry. My breath is a priceless heritage given by God. When I lack it, people will not give it to me, will they? That’s why it doesn’t matter to me.

The words of the saint had ended the anger of the boy forever. The saint has said absolutely right, people should not have so much power that they should hurt us with their words.
Do you have a fight in your house?

August 24th, 2023

If there is happiness and peace in the house, then this house is heaven. If there is a fight in the house, then this house is hell. In today’s era, it has become a very common thing. No house is untouched by this. There are some problems in every house. If there is peace in the house, then the family members become the cause of unrest. So what should we do?

First of all, let us make our mind void. No matter how good and bad someone tells us, we have to be absolutely zero. When we are silent, the person in front will automatically be silent.

A husband, wife and mother-in-law lived in a house. Wife and mother-in-law used to fight all day and fight. One day the wife went to her maternal home after losing. After going there, he told his father, Father, now I will not go back to the in-laws’ house. I have no respect there. My mother-in-law calls me good and bad all the time. Father asked his daughter when she keeps calling you good and bad, what do you do? The daughter said that I also get angry, I also answer them. The father said to the daughter, I will give you such a thing that there will never be a fight between the two of you. But don’t look at it by opening it for 1 year. And from now on your mother-in-law tells you anything, don’t give any answer. Do the same as you used to serve them earlier. The daughter said okay, and the next day the daughter came back to her in-laws’ house. After going to her in-laws’ house, she hid the thing given by her father. She went to her in-laws’ house and started doing all the work as before. Now her mother-in-law would say anything, she does not give any answer. After a few months, the mother-in-law stopped speaking. Now mother-in-law started feeling that how much I abuse it, yet it does not give me any answer. Slowly now mother-in-law’s mind started changing. She fell in love with her daughter-in-law. According to the father’s instructions, after 1 year when the daughter opened the thing given by the father. She saw that there is only a little bit of clay in a paper. She had no idea what her father had given this.she said to his father on the phone, what have you given me, father. Father asked her first tell me how is everything going? The daughter said to her father, father, everything has changed. Now my mother-in-law has started loving me. This magical soil of yours was very useful for me. Then the father said daughter, there is no magic in this. This is just a simple soil. When you stopped answering in front, magic has happened with that thing. The daughter was very surprised to hear this. The daughter thanked her father for how intelligent you are father.

In order to live in the family like this, we need to keep ourselves silent. But keeping silent does not mean that you tolerate injustice. You must have so much conscience as to whose fault it is. When you are very angry, you do not see your mistake. Then you feel that the person in front is wrong. But when your anger subsides and you feel that the fault is yours, then never hesitate to apologize to the person in front. Ego has the biggest role in the rift of relationships. Being ego in the relationship leads to the downfall of the relationship. If the person in front tells you that I have made a mistake, then forgive him. But if this happens again and again, it is not forgiven. In such a situation, both should sit and solve their problem.

Giving too much importance to each other in relationships is sometimes overwhelming. That is why it is said that have a normal attachment with everyone. Sometimes the person in front does not understand your value in having more attachment to each other. In such a situation, you should pay more attention to yourself. If you try to keep yourself happy for a few days, then the person in front will start understanding your value. You will start feeling the lack of happiness given by you.

To improve your home environment, try to improve it if you have any problems. But if you are absolutely right, then never be afraid of the other person. Never let your happiness be. Don’t think what I will do after separating from this house. God has sent man alone in the world. Every person is capable enough to do anything, to live his life.
What is the cost of your happiness?

August 23rd, 2023

You are an angel sent by God in this world. You have every right to be happy. If someone wants to hurt you, then face him with great courage. The one who called you bad without any reason, or gossiped about you behind your back, then you should go straight to him and say, why did you say this about me? Don’t be afraid to expose the truth at all. When you fight for yourself, no one will have the courage to say anything to you again. You will tell the person in front of you that these actions of yours do not matter to me, I just wanted to tell your actions to everyone.

Never do to others what you don’t want to be done to you. Always keep your principles strong. So that no one can make false allegations against you. If people are making fun of you, then you also laugh with them. And tell them that it is okay if you laugh because of me. Tell them that you will be better than me, but I will remain as I am. I don’t see any flaw in myself. Due to this action of yours, one day the person in front will definitely get upset. If you learn to speak directly to everyone, people will fear you. Will not try to tamper with your happiness.

People never give respect to those who consider themselves less than others in their own eyes. Whether you have something or not, even a little bit of knowledge, but never consider yourself small. Otherwise people will dominate you. Will play with your mind. Never let this happen. Your happiness means a lot to you. Do not tell your sorrow to everyone. Whoever is your very own, who understands your feelings. Just tell him what’s on your mind. If you tell your sorrow to everyone, then people will not fail to make fun of you.

Keep your joys and sorrows to yourself. Because people will not tolerate your happiness. If any of your dreams are not coming true then change your path. But don’t let your failure affect your mind. When the path is not visible in life, then remember the fog. If you keep taking one step, then the path will be found automatically. Never hurt yourself to be good in the eyes of others. Never expect people to do good to you if you treat them well. If you are useful in their sorrow, they will be useful in your sorrow. Do whatever makes your mind happy. Nature will automatically perfect you.

If you have too much attachment with your family, relatives and friends, you will never be happy. People will depend on you for every little thing. You will remain serving them your whole life. You will never be able to find two moments of peace for yourself. And when their meaning is fulfilled, will they even remember you or not. No one will think for you that you have sacrificed all your happiness for them. That’s why try to keep yourself happy always. Try to do whatever you want.

In today’s time there is no need of human being. People have their own needs. Never be sad thinking that people remember you only in times of need. Because a candle is needed only in darkness. If a tree gives very sweet fruit, then its fruits are awaited in every season. Don’t do bad to anyone from your side. Make yourself like flowing water which can decide its own path. Not like a pond, which becomes small and big according to the wishes of the people. Your happiness should be in your hands. You don’t need any time to reveal it. No other people are needed. Let your happiness be revealed to you in solitude. Learn to celebrate alone with your happiness.

To be happy in life, stop paying attention to small things, things which leave their mark on your mind. The things you remember make you sad. Get them out of your mind. Remove those people who are the cause of disturbance in your life from your mind. Turn your back on everything that is hindering your happiness. Take care of your happiness in any situation.