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My best habit is not to compare myself to others

August 3rd, 2024

Describe one habit that brings you joy.

Whatever we do in life, we do it to find happiness, but unfortunately being happy seems to be a very difficult task. We think that to be happy there should be certain conditions, only then we can be happy. But it is not so. Every person has some habits that can make him feel happy in himself. When we were children, we were happy by default. The source of happiness is within us, we can make it a living experience forever.

I also have a habit that always makes me feel happy. That is not to compare myself with others. In my childhood, when I used to insist on buying something after seeing it from others, my parents used to teach me that not everyone can have everything. That is why I have now developed this habit that I have learned to be happy with whatever I have. When I see others being sad, I think that this habit of mine is no less than a gift for me.

We always feel that our own qualities are less in comparison to the qualities of others. We feel jealous of the other person or his successes under the influence of the other person and many people change this habit considering it as their weakness. People always keep comparing themselves with others. This process is not from today but has been going on for centuries. People think that if others have something then you should also have it. If someone else’s house is big then you should also have a big house. But is this comparison pleasant? If you are getting inspiration from any comparison then it can be right. But if you look at this comparison in a wrong way then you will always consider yourself less and smaller than others. This increases negativity in your mind. According to an old saying, “Be sad at the happiness of others instead of being sad at your own sorrow.” In such a situation, your achievements always seem less than others and that is why you start considering yourself inferior.

I have a very big circle of friends, but I consider myself my best friend. No one can be a better friend than yourself because you know what is right and what is wrong for you. When you compare yourself with yourself, you never get disappointed and it also inspires you to become better than before. That is why you should spend some time with yourself. Only then will you know how good a person you are.
I am eager to bring a change in society

August 2nd, 2024

What are you curious about?

Every person has a desire to do something or the other. But if the curiosity in the mind is given dimension, then one day the person can achieve something. I am eager to bring about a change in my society. The world is developing but Indian society is still stuck in bad customs. Many such evils have taken birth in the society, which if not resolved in time, will leave a big stain on the nation. For this, people of every section of the society need to come forward.

There should be change in society, but the kind of change that is happening is worrisome. It is said that change is life. If there is no change in the country, society and the surrounding environment, then a person will get bored very soon. It is not possible to eat the same thing every day, no matter how delicious it is. Even a person who wears the same colour and shape of clothes all the time is looked at with strange eyes. Change can be good as well as bad. I experienced how the environment has changed in the gap of one generation, when I met a close friend of mine a few days ago. He has a small business. Two daughters, a son; wife and father. His mother had died a few years ago. After that, keeping in mind the future of his children, he left his village and came to Delhi. He bought a big house in the village and a three-room flat in Delhi. His elder daughter is doing MA and the second one is doing BA. He was worried about the marriage of his elder daughter. Everywhere the car would get stuck on questions like how much cash, how much goods and what kind of hospitality would be given to the wedding procession. He also wanted my help in finding a good family where the matter could be settled in less money.

During the conversation, we started discussing the changes taking place in society. Today, wherever he talks about his daughter’s marriage, it is said that at least two lakhs in cash, one lakh worth of goods and one-and-a-half lakhs should be spent on the hospitality of the wedding procession. That means five lakhs rupees are required for getting a daughter married. He was worried about this arrangement. He had two-two and a half lakhs rupees; but what could be done with that amount? His hair was flying in this worry. He was cursing this change taking place in society.

My mind started spinning. Are the changes in society taking place only in the wrong direction?

I looked at my family and the families of my close relatives. Nowhere there are less than four children; but when I looked at the next generation, I noticed that this number is nowhere more than two. And on thinking, I realized that along with Hindus, there is some change in this area in the Muslim society as well. Where their older generation used to have eight to ten children, today’s Muslims have come down to four to five. They have also started paying attention to educating their children and cleanliness. Earlier they were satisfied by educating their children in madrasas for four to six years, now when they are capable, they have started sending them to good schools. Although Muslim girls are still rarely seen there; but they have also started coming in large numbers to the schools located in the Muslim colony. Similarly, awareness has also come in the poor section of the society. But I want it to move a little further. Because when you educate a man, you educate a man. When you educate a woman, you educate a generation.

India is a country rich in tradition and cultural values, where women have a prominent place in the society. There is a large population of women in the rural scenario. Unfortunately, during the foreign rule, many evils and distortions arose in the society, which led to oppression of women.

After independence, the respect of women increased in the society, but the pace of their empowerment remained slow for decades. Poverty and illiteracy have been a serious obstacle in the progress of women. Women can be strengthened economically by encouraging them towards business through quality education and skills. Social and financial empowerment of women can be started especially with the help of agro-processing industries, banking services and digitalization.

Indian women are full of energy, vision, lively enthusiasm and commitment and are capable of facing all challenges. In the words of India’s first Nobel Prize winner Rabindranath Tagore, for us women are not only the light of the house, but also the flame of this light. Women have been a source of inspiration for humanity since time immemorial. From Rani Lakshmibai of Jhansi to Savitribai Phule, India’s first female teacher, women have set great examples of change in the society at large.

Our culture is our heritage, we have to preserve it. In the last few years, due to the race of modernity and nuclear families, we are getting away from our culture. But in the meantime, the pleasant aspect is that in this fast paced life of modernity, special work is being done by various social organization to connect the new generation with our traditional culture and to make them aware of the importance of festivals. This is an effort to take our culture and civilization forward along with maintaining our customs.

Before taking the society towards positivity, we have to improve our own conduct. Positive thinking is the biggest strength of the society. At present, negativity is increasing in the society. To stop this, positive people will have to unite and run a campaign. We have to follow the teachings and ideas given by great men. We have to start this from ourselves. At the same time, we have to give up the evils and some bad practices spread in the society. The youth have to be made aware about prevention from drug addiction. Our great men are our heritage. We have to follow the teachings given by the great men. We have to create a society that distributes sweets in our homes on the happiness of others. For this, casteist mentality has to be overcome and social brotherhood has to be strengthened. To create a positive environment in the society, first of all we have to start from ourselves. After this, we have to unite our home, family and our village. Only then will our goal be accomplished. We have to become active by forming an organization of positive people. Our parents have brought us here by keeping a positive thinking. At that time the family environment used to be positive and strong. In the present time, due to single families, the values have diminished. Now there is a need to follow the footsteps of elders and great men. I hope that the curiosity in my mind will definitely be fulfilled.
How should a birthday be celebrated?

August 1st, 2024

In ancient times, there was a tradition of celebrating birthday as a ritual. Following rituals not only builds personality but also paves the way for a happy life. According to Hindu tradition, the person whose birthday it is, goes to the temple with his friends and family and lights a lamp in front of God and does collective worship and Aarti and wishes for a bright future. The way happiness is celebrated on the birth of God, similar happiness is also celebrated. According to Vedic tradition, lamps should be lit on the auspicious occasion of birthday so that the future life remains auspicious. The number of years of age completed should be the same number of lamps lit in front of God, this protects from evils throughout the year. It is believed that on the birthday, one more year of life has passed which will never be returned, so the same number of candles are lit and extinguished, but in Hindu tradition, lamps are lit on the auspicious occasion of birthday to wish for long life.

In ancient times, there was a tradition of celebrating birthday as a ritual. Following rituals not only builds personality but also paves the way for a happy life. According to Hindu tradition, the person whose birthday it is, goes to the temple with his friends and family and lights a lamp in front of God and does collective worship and Aarti and wishes for a bright future. The way happiness is celebrated on the birth of God, similar happiness is also celebrated. According to Vedic tradition, lamps should be lit on the auspicious occasion of birthday so that the future life remains auspicious. The number of years of age completed should be the same number of lamps lit in front of God, this protects from evils throughout the year. It is believed that on the birthday, one more year of life has passed which will never be returned, so the same number of candles are lit and extinguished, but in Hindu tradition, lamps are lit on the auspicious occasion of birthday to wish for long life.

Use of sesame seeds on birthday increases life span. Take bath with water containing sesame seeds and Ganga water, donate things made of sesame seeds and eat.

On birthday, offering prasad in temple, food, clothes etc. to orphanages and poor needy people brings blessings.

On birthday, get worship done by a learned person; good wishes through Vedic mantras like Swasti Vachan etc. protects from calamities throughout the year. After worship etc., feed Brahmins and donate as much as you can. According to learned people, on the auspicious occasion of birthday, worship of Shasthi Devi has special importance; worshipping her brings good fortune.

In the birth chart or yearly horoscope, whatever malefic planet or its condition is there, its special worship, donation and pacification should be done through homa. To avoid the inauspicious results of malefic planets in birth or yearly horoscope, it is auspicious to get the chanting and donation of Surya, Mangal etc. done by yourself or by a qualified Brahmin.

According to Indian culture, the right way to celebrate birthday is to start the morning with blessings and worship of elders. It is believed that worshipping fire and lighting fire during auspicious occasions drives away negative energies and evil forces. Lighting fire inculcates Satvik qualities in a person. Also, evil eye and fierce anger are pacified due to the effect of fire. This is the reason that in earlier times, according to Indian civilization, it was a custom to light a lamp before God on the birthday. This would give positivity to the person, God’s blessings would also remain and according to astrology, the planets would also remain calm and happy.

At the same time, now there is a trend of extinguishing candles which is wrong and inauspicious according to astrology. Burning a candle ignites a fire. In such a situation, extinguishing that fire means promoting negative energy and also disturbing the planets. Birthday should always be celebrated at sunrise instead of at night. After sunrise, one should take a bath and offer water to the Sun God. Birthday must be celebrated as per the Hindu calendar, on the date of birth, one should drink milk with sesame seeds from the mother’s hand. Nutritious food items should be eaten on this day. Birthday is a festival in itself. By celebrating it happily, you can make the coming years happy.
I didn’t help anyone, I paid off my debt

August 1st, 2024

Write about a random act of kindness you’ve done for someone.

Helping is very important in human life. Helping reveals a person’s humility and his values. Helping gives a person ultimate happiness. When we help someone, we feel happy. Perhaps we do not know that we too may have to take help from someone someday. We do not think that when someone asks us for help and we refuse, how bad he must feel? In life, the process of giving and receiving continues continuously and at many levels. The circle of those who help keeps forming and growing by holding hands from one person to another, from another to the third. When needed, sometimes we get help from those whom we help, and sometimes the hands that help are from others.

One day I was going to the market and I saw a small boy walking barefoot in the sun carrying a bundle weighing 8-10 kg on his head. I stopped him and asked him where he was going barefoot and what was in the bundle. The boy said that his mother was ill and his father was not there. There was some rice in his bundle which he had bought from the market. But that small child was unable to carry the load. That is why his voice became tearful. I put the children in my car and went to drop him home. I saw that his mother was lying on a cot in the hut. On seeing me, his mother got scared thinking that maybe her child had done something wrong. She started looking at her children with wide eyes, as if asking them why this woman had come with them. Then the child told his mother that he was unable to carry the load, so this aunty had helped him. The woman was telling her child to at least give them water. But I made an excuse of urgent work, gave some money to his mother and went away from there. I had helped that child a little. But even today I sometimes meet that child on the road. And he starts smiling as soon as he sees me. Even today, whenever I meet that child, I do not forget to give him some money. His smile helps me forget my thousands of sorrows.

Sometimes we accidentally do such good deeds which we have never even thought of. But do you know that good deeds cannot be done without God’s help.We are able to help someone only when the time comes to repay the debt of our past life. Sometimes we cannot help anyone even if we want to. And sometimes we unknowingly do something that brings a smile on someone’s face. It is said that wise people have two hands. One hand to help themselves and the other to help others. And this wisdom comes when we understand that helping others is also good for us. Not only are the needs of others fulfilled, but there is no shortage for us too. So help others. Not because it is a virtuous act. Not even out of fear that someday you may need the help of others. Help because it is good for you too. Helping is good for your own mental health. The mind gets that happiness and peace which is not available even with medicines and therapy. But never let this pride come to your mind that I helped someone. Rather think that I did not help anyone, God helped me. Because you do not know which birth’s debt you have paid.
He who cannot see can see everything

July 31st, 2024

How would you describe yourself to someone who can’t see you?

Communication has developed a lot in the world to talk to people sitting far away. There was a time when we used to imagine that if only we could see the photo of the person we are talking to on our mobile. Science has now made this possible. But for those who cannot see, the situation is still the same. Sometimes such a situation arises that we have to tell about ourselves to someone who cannot see us. Something similar happened to me a few days ago when my grandmother wanted to talk to me. She has become very old. Now she can see very little with her eyes but she can hear a little with her ears. So I used such methods to talk to her.

I put the phone on speaker mode. And now I started asking my grandmother about her well being. She also asked about me and I told her that I am absolutely fine. When I saw that she was able to hear me, I made a video call. Now I could see her face clearly. She also tried to look at me and she was very happy to see my face.

My maternal grandmother lived in a village near mine. After a few days, I felt like going to meet her. And one day when I went to meet her, she became so happy that she held my hand in hers. My touch brought tears to her eyes. She held my hand after a long time. That warmth of love told the whole story. The trembling of her old wrinkled hands was making me restless. My maternal grandmother was becoming uncontrollable with happiness after getting the fragrance of my body.I did not need to tell anyone about my condition. Her experienced eyes and mind had read everything, whether I was happy in my world or not.

After that day, I understood that to know and understand someone, one does not need only eyes. If a person wants, he can sense the expressions of the outside world with his inner eyes. because He who cannot see can see everything.
Salutations to the eternal tradition

July 30th, 2024

What traditions have you not kept that your parents had?

Everything changes with time but some of those changes are beneficial and some are harmful. Sanatan Dharma is full of traditions. Our ancestors always used to tell us that we should do this and that. Some of those traditions have become a part of our daily life even today. Like getting up in the morning and leaving the bed only after taking the name of God, worshipping God daily and offering Prasad, keeping fasts according to religion, obeying the husband, etc. There are many such things which Indian women are following even today. But there are some traditions which our parents used to follow and we are not able to do.

Touching the feet of elders every morning. In childhood, our parents used to tell us that touching the feet of elders brings blessings. Our school bus used to come but we could not go to school without performing this daily routine. After marriage, when I came to my in-laws’ house, I touched the feet of elders every day for a few days. After that, due to the confusion of life, I gave up this tradition.

Brushing our teeth with Neem: In childhood our grandmothers used to teach us that we should brush our teeth with Neem. Now it is popular only in a few villages to break the bark or stick of Neem and clean the teeth with it. Sometimes teeth were also cleaned by mixing salt in 4 drops of mustard oil. The advantage of doing both these daily rituals was that while it kept the teeth and intestines clean and strong, it had other astrological benefits too. Scientists say that because of strong teeth and gums, your eyes, ears and brain also remain healthy. But today, it has been replaced by toothpaste.

Paying obeisance to the rising sun every day,, I remember in my childhood when my mother used to wake us up for school and she used to say, look the sun has also risen. Get up and first of all pay obeisance to the sun. Mother used to say that when the rays of the sun fall on our body then it brings with it many skin benefits. In Hindu religion, the sun is considered a god. Today’s life is different, staying up late at night and getting up late in the morning has become a routine for today’s generation. Even though we know that this is wrong, we cannot stop ourselves. Late night parties were not a tradition of Hindu religion. In Sanatan Dharma, even eating after sunset is prohibited.

Applying kajal or surma in eyes daily, in childhood our mothers and grandmothers used to apply kajal or surma in our eyes daily. And also a black mark on the forehead. Surma is of two types- one white and the other black. Kajal is made from black surma. Applying surma has been prevalent in Central Asia as well as in India. Both types of surma are basically found in the form of stone. Gems are also made from it and kajal is also made from it. Sometimes, while applying surma cures all the diseases of the eyes, some people also use it for Vashikaran. There are many miraculous benefits of wearing its gem. While applying surma saves a person from the evil eye, his eyes also remain healthy. We still apply kajal but only when we have to get ready to go somewhere.

Applying Vermilion in the parting of hair every day, when I got married my mother had said that daughter apply Vermilion in the parting of hair every day. And when I came to my in-laws house my mother in law also said the same. According to Hindu tradition applying Vermilion in the parting of hair increases the lifespan of the husband. But the scientific reason behind this is that Vermilion keeps our head cool. I followed this tradition for a few years. But now according to the changing fashion I have given up this tradition.

Watering the Peepal tree every morning: In childhood we were taught that we should water the Peepal tree daily. Because the Peepal tree produces the maximum amount of oxygen. While other trees and plants emit carbon dioxide gas at night, the Peepal tree releases a lot of oxygen even at night. This is why the elders have laid special emphasis on its conservation. In olden times, people used to forbid going near the Peepal tree at night. According to them, evil spirits reside in the Peepal tree, while the truth is that due to excess of oxygen, the person feels suffocated. The people of the house near which there is a Peepal tree, remain healthy.

Consumption of Tulsi and Panchamrit, when our mother used to worship, she used to give Tulsi and Panchamrit to all of us children. I also worship God today, but life has become so hectic that I do not have time for all these things. Mother used to say that Tulsi and Panchamrit should be consumed every day, that is why there used to be a Tulsi plant in the courtyard of ancient houses. Although even today it can be found in many people’s homes, but people consume it less. They offer Tulsi to God, while keep its leaves in a copper vessel and after a few hours drink that water and eat the Tulsi leaves. By doing this, there will never be cancer in life nor any other disease. Tulsi plant is an antibiotic medicine. Its consumption increases the immunity of the body, diseases go away and the balance of body fluids remains. Apart from this, if there is a Tulsi plant in the house, then there is no danger of mosquitoes, flies, snakes etc. Even today, whenever there is a cold and cough, I make a decoction of Tulsi and honey and give it to the children.

There are thousands of traditions in Sanatan Dharma which are difficult to maintain in today’s life. There are many traditions which we know are beneficial. But in today’s fast-paced life, these have been left behind. But I can say with confidence that All this has scientific benefits too.Salutations to the eternal tradition.
What is the scientific reason for less consumption of onion and garlic?

July 29th, 2024

Some people like to eat food without garlic and onion. Whereas, some do not eat food without garlic and onion. However, this is just a matter of taste and liking. But according to Sanatan Dharma, garlic and onion should not be consumed in food after any fast or special worship. If you want to get the full benefit of fasting and worship, then you should avoid consuming it. Tamasic food is not consumed during any fast or worship. It is said that onion and garlic are related to the cruel planet Rahu. In such a situation, there are five such dates in a month, when the blessings of the gods can be obtained by not consuming onion and garlic. Let’s know.

Why should we not eat onion and garlic in the month of Savan?

Actually, monsoon starts in the month of Sawan, which brings many diseases with it. During this time, our immune system slows down due to which the body easily falls prey to diseases. Garlic and onion are hot in nature, which works to generate heat in the body, so both of these are prohibited to be used in food in the month of Sawan. According to Ayurveda, garlic and onion are a medicine which is consumed to improve the body. But people include it in the daily diet, which causes harm instead of benefit. Ayurveda does not recommend including garlic and onion in the diet regularly because its excessive consumption also kills the good bacteria formed in the body. Onion and garlic are very hot which generate heat in the body. Therefore, people who meditate etc. do not consume it. Its consumption also increases anger and anxiety. According to Ayurveda, not eating onion and garlic can benefit your body in many ways. Actually, both onion and garlic come under the category of rajasic food due to their characteristics like pungent smell. Rajasic food awakens rajasic quality, which increases anger, jealousy, pride, desire for publicity, self-centeredness and desire for worldly pleasures in the mind. Apart from this, it belongs to the Allium family and is very rich in phenolic phytochemicals, which act as androgenic, i.e. sexual stimulants in the body. According to Ayurveda, both of these i.e. onion and garlic are used to increase sexual power and overcome infertility. Eating them directly stimulates the central nervous system. By giving up onion and garlic for a month, your body goes into detoxification mode and then it uses more of the fat and energy stored in the body. In a way, it works as a scrubbing and cleansing for the body. This keeps obesity, sugar and stomach problems under control. Apart from this, it also changes your thinking, you become calm and you feel better. When there is a change in the season, some changes should also be made in the diet.Actually, in the rainy season we need special nutrition to increase the immunity of the body and to remain free from diseases. Actually, garlic and onion have been placed in the category of Tamasik food. Because it is considered hot. It is said that eating these two things causes up and down of blood circulation. This leads to anger, ego, excitement, laziness and many other things. Therefore, garlic and onion are prohibited first of all in worship. It is also prohibited in the rainy season so that the stomach does not become hot and if there is a disturbance in the stomach, then health will be bad. Therefore, it is often forbidden to eat it during changing weather, rainy season or monsoon.

On which days should you not eat onion and garlic?

According to religious texts, Amavasya date is related to ancestors. On this day Pind Daan, Shradh of ancestors are performed. On this day onion-garlic should not be consumed. Poornima date is on the last day of every month. Hence, this day is also considered to be of special importance. On this day Poornima is considered to be related to the moon. Hence, on this day one should avoid eating onion-garlic. Ekadashi date is dedicated to Lord Vishnu. Fast is observed on this day. This is the reason why onion and garlic should not be eaten at all on this day. Also avoid non-vegetarian food on this day. Ganesh Chaturthi festival is celebrated twice every month. On this day Ganesh is worshipped. On this day also do not consume garlic-onion in the food. Pradosh fast is observed on Trayodashi date of every month. Lord Shiva is worshipped on this day. Some people also observe fast on this day. Hence, on this day consumption of garlic and onion is prohibited.
Today was a normal day by God’s grace

July 29th, 2024

Was today typical?

Days, months and years are passing by like this. Some of these days bring a lot of happiness and sadness for us. But sometimes normal days pass by doing our daily chores. But we should always keep ourselves prepared to deal with all this.

Today was a very normal day for me. Like every day, I woke up in the morning, completed my daily chores and then went to sleep again. Because today is Sunday. Today, husband and children are all at home. We all had our early dinner and watched a good movie. We had our early dinner today because we have brunch on Sundays. And after that, we started playing indoor games. Me and my husband love to play badminton. Also, my children play badminton.It was very hot today so we were not in the mood to go out anywhere. After playing, we all took bath and then sat in front of the TV and had dinner together. And then like every day, I thanked God for today. And now after writing the prompt, I will go to sleep.good night.
Is there any scientific importance of Hariyali Teej?

July 28th, 2024

Hariyali Teej is also mainly a festival of women. Hariyali Teej, which encompasses the colors of lush nature and love, is a fast observed for unbroken good fortune and the well-being of the family. The festival of Hariyali Teej falls in the month of Sawan, which is considered to be a very holy month for worshiping Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati and fasting dedicated to them. The festival of Hariyali Teej is a symbol of the reunion of Goddess Parvati and Lord Shiva. On this day, married women worship Goddess Parvati and pray for a happy married life. Hariyali Teej is usually celebrated two days before Nag Panchami i.e. on Shukla Paksha Tritiya of Shravan month. This festival is celebrated to commemorate the union of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati. According to legend, this is the day when the Goddess accepted Parvati as her wife after spending 107 births in Shiva’s penance.

Hariyali Teej, also known as Sindhara Teej, Chhoti Teej, Shravan Teej or Sawan Teej, falls on the third day of the new moon of the month of Shravan. On the day of Hartalika Teej, married women observe a fast for the long life of their husbands. This fast is also observed for a happy married life and to get children. This fast is also observed by unmarried girls to get a suitable groom. On the day of Teej, married women observe a waterless fast and worship Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati with 16 adornments. By observing this fast, married women get the blessing of always being fortunate. This fast is considered important for the long life of the husband and the happiness of the family. According to mythology, if a girl’s marriage is getting delayed, she must observe the Hariyali Teej fast. It is believed that fasting on Hariyali Teej leads to early marriage. It is mentioned in the scriptures that Goddess Parvati did a rigorous penance to get Lord Shiva as her husband, pleased with that, Shiva accepted Goddess Parvati as his wife on the day of Shravan Shukla Teej. Since then, this day, a symbol of unbroken good fortune, has become a festival in the Indian tradition to strengthen the love between husband and wife and to maintain faith and trust between them. Apart from this, this festival also gives the message of sacrifice to husband and wife for each other. On this day, unmarried girls keep a fast and pray for a husband like Shiva, while married women pray to Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati to keep their marital life intact.On this day, women worship Goddess Parvati and Shivling by making them out of clay or sand. In the worship, all the Suhaag items are collected and decorated in a plate and offered to Goddess Parvati while praying for unbroken good fortune in their minds and listen to the story of Teej Mata. After the worship, these idols are immersed in a river or any holy reservoir. Along with this, there is a tradition of worshipping trees, lush green crops, Varun Dev and animals and birds on this day.

Why is there a tradition of swinging on Teej day?

Hariyali Teej festival is celebrated with great pomp in Rajasthan, India. Swings are put up at various places. In which the daughter-in-laws and daughters of the house go to swing with great pomp and show along with their friends. If you also remember your childhood days, then you will understand how special swinging is for you. How you forget all the things while swinging and you do not worry about anything. Swinging works like an exercise for our brain. During this, we use our muscles, legs, hands and the lower part of our body completely, due to which the body remains active. During this, the fat accumulated in all the muscles is also burnt and blood circulation also improves. So, for all these reasons, you should swing this Hariyali Teej without looking at your age. According to experts, the happiness and excitement that you feel while swinging, works to reduce your cortisol hormone. It is like a mood booster which makes your mind happy. Apart from this, it promotes the production of happy hormones in your body and also increases serotonin which improves sleep. In this way, it can help in improving your mental state. Swinging increases your focus and helps in alerting the mind. What happens is that some part of your brain which is less used gets activated. Apart from this, it speeds up the neural activities of your brain and then becomes an exercise for all the nerves. Therefore, on this day, women keep fast for their husbands, worship Shiv-Gauri, swing and sing Sawan songs-Malhar in melodious voice.

How is the first Teej celebrated after marriage?

This festival of joy and enthusiasm along with worship and prayers fills new colors in life as a traditional festival. It brings intimacy in the married life and also binds the family and society in the thread of affection. Shravani Teej is a festival steeped in the colors of nature. On this day, wearing green bangles, green clothes, doing the sixteen makeup and applying mehendi has special significance. On this festival, newly married girls are called from their in-laws to their parents’ house on the first Sawan after marriage. According to popular tradition, Sindhara is sent from the in-laws’ house of the newly married girl on this festival, in which clothes, jewelry, makeup items, mehendi, Ghevar-Fani and sweets etc. are sent. In the first Sawan, girls stay at their mother’s house for a month. This was the custom in the olden times, because in those times girls did not have much freedom to roam around. Therefore, in the first Sawan, girls were called to their mother’s house so that they could relive their childhood with their friends. And then on the last day of Shravan, on the day of Rakshabandhan, she used to go to her in-laws’ house after tying Rakhi to her brothers.

What is the scientific importance of Hariyali Teej?

According to the scriptures, Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati have blessed this day to be a day of good fortune for married women. It is believed that married women who worship Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati with sixteen adornments on this day, attain happiness and good fortune. On this day, floral ornaments are given more importance than gold and silver ornaments, so every woman should adorn herself with flowers on this day, apart from this, applying mehendi on this day is very auspicious. It is believed that applying mehendi provides coolness to the body and if someone is suffering from skin related diseases, then one gets relief from them too. On the other hand, the sindoor applied on the forehead is a sign of marital bliss on one hand, on the other hand, applying it also leads to the flow of positive energy. The same belief is about Mangalsutra, wearing it stops the flow of negative energy coming into life. Therefore, wearing ornaments on the occasion of Hariyali Teej is of greater importance. Actually, along with beauty, one benefit of wearing gold ornaments is that it does not cause heart related diseases. Apart from this, wearing bracelets or bangles in the hands is also believed to keep blood circulation right. On the other hand, scientists believe that wearing silver anklets strengthens the bones of the feet. Wearing jewellery in the ears on the special occasion of Hariyali Teej relieves mental stress and ear piercing improves eyesight.

What to do on Hariyali Teej?

According to religious beliefs, on Hariyali Teej, yellow clothes should be offered to Lord Shiva and red clothes to Maa Parvati, along with this, the sindoor offered to Maa Parvati should be applied in the parting of hair as prasad. It is said that this increases the lifespan of the husband. Apart from this, it is very important to listen to the fasting story related to Hariyali Teej, in the evening, light a mustard oil lamp near the Peepal tree and donate something to the girls according to your capacity. Apart from this, there is a rule that every person observing the fast of Hariyali Teej should keep in mind, do not let anger enter your mind at all on this day.
I am a human like everyone else but different from others

July 28th, 2024

How would you describe yourself to someone?

Every person is simple, straightforward and good in his own eyes. God definitely sends everyone in this world with some quality.

Similarly, if I talk about myself then I am a very hard working woman. If I decide to do any work then I do not sit in peace until it is completed.

In my childhood I was a simple, shy, timid and weak girl. On the contrary, after marriage I became a strong woman. Time filled me with all the experiences.

I know how to live with love but only if the other person behaves with me with love. I have learnt how to behave with ill mannered people. Even if people speak rudely to me it does not make any difference. But now I do not let myself get hurt.

I am always ready to help everyone but the person who asks me for help without fulfilling any of his selfish motives. Now I have also started to understand who really needs help.

I have never peeped into what people do in their lives. And I don’t like people giving their opinion on my life. I have removed such people from my life. Even though the circle of my fans is very small, I have no regrets.

I am a religious woman and I share my sorrows and pain only with my God. I ask for help and courage from him only and not from humans.

I have complete devotion towards my work and I give priority to my work. I believe that if any person wants to achieve something without hard work then he is lazy.

I love travelling, and coming back home after travelling refreshes my mood. Small joys make me feel very energetic.

Apart from cooking, embroidery, knitting, painting, there are many other things which I am fond of doing and I can do them very well.

I never consider myself perfect. I get angry very quickly and I also do not calm down very quickly. It was not like this in childhood, but perhaps time has made me stubborn.

But I can definitely say that I am a compassionate woman. If I have to give something to a poor or sad person, I am not greedy at all.

In the end I would just like to say that I do not know how to praise myself, nor do I know how to falsely praise others because I hate those who praise in front of others and later pull their legs.I am a human like everyone else but I am different from others.