It is said that husband and wife are two wheels of a car. The vehicle cannot run without these two. If even one of these two gets damaged, the vehicle may overturn. But do you know why there is a distance between these two wheels? That is so that one wheel does not get entangled with the other. Similarly, there should be distance of viewpoint between husband and wife also. As a train moves, it moves absolutely straight. If his eyes fall on the oncoming train, it will definitely crash. Therefore, without looking anywhere, she keeps moving as per her signal. Similarly, husband and wife should also fulfill their respective responsibilities without keeping an eye on each other.

Not keeping an eye on each other does not mean not caring for each other. Not keeping an eye on each other means not seeing each other. In Hindu religion, many resolutions are taken at the time of marriage. But perhaps it is not possible to fulfill all these. Circumstances, time and mind are never the same. But the only thing husband and wife can do is to not blame each other. If for some reason one person gets angry, the other should remain silent. Peace is needed in every area of life. If your boss speaks ill of you, are you able to respond back? Have you ever shown anger to your teacher while studying in school as a child? Did your mother ever scold you and you scolded her in return? Do your friends sometimes say hurtful words to you and then you call them good or bad? And when you are not able to speak in all these places, then why do you feel so bad about hearing two things in front of your wife or husband?

Husband and wife get into a relationship sometimes with their own free will or with the consent of their family members. Not only two people get tied in the bond of marriage, but their families also get tied with each other. Their habits, their nature, their happiness, their sorrows and pains all get tied to each other. A new life begins for both of them. At that time both accept each other with great respect. But what happens in a few days that they don’t even like to see each other’s faces. In such a situation, many husbands and wives either fall prey to astrology or counselors. Both the places are just wasting money. If we sit peacefully and learn to solve the small problems of life on our own, then all these problems will not arise. After marriage, it becomes the responsibility of both husband and wife to take care of each other’s happiness. Now they have to think for both instead of thinking for one. If the wife finds her happiness in her husband’s habits and the husband finds his happiness in his wife’s habits, then there is no tension in life. The entire bond of marriage rests on the thread of trust. Both husband and wife should always maintain trust with their partner. When you suddenly get bored of each other while living with each other in love, then there is definitely a mistake in understanding each other. The quarrel between husband and wife is like a spark which gradually takes a terrible form. Therefore, husband and wife should extinguish its spark while it is still alive.

In this world, everyone’s wisdom is not the same. Not every person has the same knowledge. If both husband or wife look at their respective families, there are many types of people in their families. But both of them maintain harmony with those people throughout their life. Then why do husband and wife take this relationship so lightly after marriage? Is the relationship that we have seen since childhood the same one strong? Only if someone appreciates the journey taken as a witness to the fire will he be appreciated.

Whenever a fight starts between either of the husband and wife, one of them should remain silent. If you want to run your married life then there should not be a question as to why should I remain silent? If any one person becomes silent then the anger of the other person will automatically subside. And when the anger subsides, talk to each other lovingly. If either of them wants to repeat that thing, then just silence them by saying so. And then meet each other lovingly. The most important thing in a husband-wife relationship is to love each other. You should love your partner’s inner beauty without paying attention to his/her external appearance. Only when you love your partner without any selfishness will your relationship become an ideal relationship. No matter how big the mistake is? If you stand with your partner without blaming him even in difficult situations, then you are an ideal partner. Put yourself at that time and see if you had made that mistake, what would you have done? What do you expect from your partner? Forgive your partner’s mistake and take the initiative to correct it.

Always respect each other. Who doesn’t like respect? When it comes to the relationship between husband and wife, there should be more respect for each other. Even if your partner is less than you in terms of money, education, skills or job, still respect him for his good qualities. It is enough that you are each other’s life partner. Therefore, in an ideal husband-wife relationship there should be respect for each other. Do not speak good or bad about each other in front of anyone else. The husband wants his wife to be happy, and he also wants to confirm this. Therefore, keep telling from time to time how happy you are with them. Knowing your happiness increases their happiness manifold. The husband wants his wife to trust him. A good wife is one who is completely devoted to her husband. One who is of good character, virtuous, well-mannered and cultured, accepts her husband’s happiness and sorrow as her own and stands by her husband with full devotion in every storm of life. Who can understand her husband’s feelings without saying anything.