Cheating has always been a sensitive issue and there is no simple answer as to how one can or should forgive a cheater. It is as old as the concept of marriage and monogamy. Most people would agree that cheating involves having a sexual relationship with someone other than your partner. However, the boundaries of cheating are not as well-defined as we think. For some people, emotional intimacy outside of monogamy can also be considered cheating, but for others it may not. Cheating is considered a violation of the implied contract of exclusivity in a marriage or relationship, and therefore, it is very painful, especially for the person who is being cheated on.But why do people cheat? Is cheating the beginning of the end of a relationship? Should you forgive people who cheat in a relationship? Are you unable to forgive people who cheat? How can you forgive someone for cheating? Let’s discuss these questions in detail.

requirements not being met,

Every person in a relationship has certain mental, emotional and sexual needs. It is important to know that these needs vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. Also, each person is stimulated through different physical or interpersonal characteristics that may disappear or change over time,  a partner may prefer work over sex or become distant after a child is born. Sometimes even when you are giving your 100%, your partner may feel distant or emotionally detached and it may not be your fault. But lack of attention, change in desires and lack of quality time spent together can be the primary motivators for a person to stray and indulge in a romantic relationship outside their current commitment.

Lack of mutual understanding

Feelings of loneliness can occur at any point in a relationship and can be caused by a variety of factors, such as a lack of love between spouses or being overly attracted to the other. If this happens and one person is too scared or anxious to express these feelings, it may be easier for them to seek comfort and intimacy elsewhere rather than confront their relationship.

Influence of social media

The rise of social dating platforms and communication has given us a window into the world and the opportunities that exist within it. New sexual partners are readily available and it is easy for anyone to seek out a new sexual experience at the mere click of a button. It is not uncommon to meet other people who want to experiment with the idea of sex. This is not just limited to sex, but can also lead to emotional cheating. Knowing that you can pursue someone else can seem attractive and even exciting, especially if you have been in a committed relationship for a long time. The thrill of the chase or doing something forbidden is unfortunately a very strong motivator for cheating in a relationship.

Differences in sexual desire

Everyone has different levels of sexual libido depending on their age and many other factors. Everyone has different sexual desires and the desire for intercourse can vary. While a relationship may start out with incredible sexual chemistry, it can change, evolve, or fade over time. If there is no communication on the subject, it becomes easy to ignore it and focus on other things or people. People often cheat because they want to have sex more often.

how to mend broken relationships?

Before anything else, try to understand your partner’s stance after cheating – is he apologetic? Is he indifferent? Is he blaming you? If he is not willing to make amends from the start, then sadly, it is not worth fighting over and it is something you have to accept and move on. However, if he is willing to work on the relationship, make sure that both of you are equally committed. Exchange of feelings and efforts is necessary to rebuild the foundation of the relationship and work towards a great relationship. There are a few other things you can do if you are trying to repair a broken relationship.The emotions that one might feel in such a situation can be hard to understand and it can be difficult to make any decisions. So, spending some time with yourself and reflecting can help gain some clarity, not just from the whole situation but also from yourself. It will also help you understand the situation in a more healthy way. Whether it is moving out or getting away for a few days/weeks, whatever you need, use this time to focus on your mental health and gain clarity.

Communication is the basis of any healthy relationship, whether it is a romantic relationship or any other relationship in your life. Talk openly about the root cause of the love-hate. Is your partner not giving you enough attention? Are your sexual needs not being met? What do you need to do to improve your relationship? Both partners should answer these questions independently and then focus on understanding the other’s point of view.Moving on can involve more than just working with your partner. Experiencing infidelity can take a toll on your self-esteem and make you question your self-worth. That’s why it’s important to take time to work on yourself and start focusing on your mental health to deal with any negative feelings. A healthy relationship with yourself can help rebuild trust not only with your partner but with yourself as well.