In this struggle-filled life, some moments are easy and some are difficult. Sometimes suddenly we feel so happy that we think, are we so lucky? And sometimes there is such a shower of sorrow as if I have committed the sin of the whole world.
Like this, there are ups and downs in life. Sometimes I worry about my children’s education, sometimes I worry about my husband’s earnings, sometimes I worry about maintaining my relations, and sometimes I worry about listening to people even while doing everything. But I feel most restless. One of these things happens when people keep an eye on someone else’s house instead of looking at their own. The conduct and behavior of other people are the core of their thoughts. That’s why peeping into other people’s houses is the main purpose of their thinking, understanding and living. I strongly hate such people. I remember a poem I read in childhood about such people.
People overestimate the shortcomings of others, People look less into their own backyards. Whose character smells foul, But people judge the character of others. Those who have lies and deception in their veins, People examine our veins by guess.
Describe a random encounter with a stranger that stuck out positively to you.
Many people meet and part on the path of life. But there are some faces with whom we become lifelong friends. It was in 2019, when my husband and I had gone to visit Dubai. There we met a couple. We started talking and they became our friends. From then till today we talk to him on phone. He was a resident of Darjeeling. Once when we went to visit Darjeeling, we told them that we were coming. They did not let us stay in the hotel. For three days we were living in his house as if we were his own family members. Now he will come to our house in a few days.
There are some relationships in the world which are not given to us by God but we choose them for our own lives. One of those relationships is that of unknown friendship. We choose our friends ourselves. But one thing that is different from all these is that not everyone can be a true friend. Because making friendship is very easy, but maintaining it is equally difficult.
When I get some time after working all day, I like to share that precious time with my family, especially with children. Because in my view, spending some time with children creates a stronger emotional bond between me and them. Who can help me deal with the challenges of my life. Helps children perform better in school. Builds confidence in all family members. Teaches about conflict resolution and problem solving.Spending time with family is one of the most important things in my life, far surpassing other personal priorities.
Setting boundaries to separate my work and personal life not only increases efficiency at work, but it also reduces stress in my personal life. Family love is the most important love of all. Family love is different from any other love experience.
I believe that if people look at you as a superwoman, then it is very important for them to know how you balance the responsibilities of your home and your career. When I first started blogging, I used to love my profession very much but when I was about to get married, many people in my family suggested me to leave blogging so that I could live in my in-laws’ house. Be able to take care of everyone. After this, this thought came to my mind that is it necessary that women should take care of the house after marriage, even if they have to leave their career for this? I thought about this and decided not to leave my hobby. When I got married, I faced many problems in managing home and work but I decided to leave those problems behind and move ahead. After marriage, I told my in-laws about my passion for my career. After which my husband fully supported me. My family members did not support me then, but when I started handling my career and household responsibilities properly, my mother-in-law encouraged me. I started taking out time for my household chores and also focused on small happiness so that I could spend time with my family members. After having a child, I also took a break for some time, but after a few months, I Continued my job. At that time I had seen many problems but I did not let my confidence diminish and did my work with full dedication. I still love writing as much as I did before. For me, my hobby is as important as my family. Because my hobby gives me a different identity for which I left even the challenges behind. Because I am a super woman and a mother
Nowadays, most of the people use social media. Social media plays an important role in the life of every human being. It is often easier and more convenient to access information, provide information, and communicate through social media.
I also use social media. Mostly Instagram. I like to see people’s posts etc. I get to know about a lot of fashion. And I also get to know about many new clothing boutiques. People also describe many recipes of food prepared by them, which I like to see. I enjoy them by following the pages of my choice.
After opening my eyes in the morning and while closing my eyes at night, I keep checking social media accounts many times throughout the day. Even during work, many times my mind is thinking what would be trending on Insta? Who might have commented on my photo and who knows what else comes to mind. If we go somewhere, the first thing we do is share photos on Facebook and Instagram. Thousands of photographs are taken in order to get a perfect picture. There is no peace unless you upload reels and stories. If I have eaten something good, seen something, read a book or spent time with friends, I keep posting that too. It brings back memories every time I see that post. I use social media to collect my memories. Even if I get less likes or comments on my photos, I follow my favorite or inspirational pages. This helps me achieve the goal of being happy.
It is okay to use social media to some extent, but excessive or wrong use of social media can create problems for you.
The first thing that comes to my mind is, O God, today is dedicated to you, you will do something good for me. May you participate in all my sorrows and happiness. May there be happiness on the faces of all my relatives. May there be no sin from my hands for which I have to repent. May my behavior be good with everyone today. May no one be sad because of me. May I do whatever I can for everyone. No matter how people behave with me, may I be able to forgive them. May I always feel your blessed hand on my head. Oh God, if you are with me then I don’t need anything else in life. May your love remain with me.
Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.
Decisions made in my past that helped me learn or grow are ignoring what people say. I believe that in this world there are 80 out of 100 people who think of doing something big and leave their idea there as soon as they think of people. They feel that what will people say if I fail? Sometimes what people say makes us feel so bad that we are never able to free ourselves from that pain. Leave aside the aim of moving forward in life, we even forget our everyday happiness. People who pay more attention to the bad things of others remain restless in their lives. If we want to find happiness and peace in our life and want to do something, then we should ignore the bad things of others.
Similarly, when I started writing a blog, my family asked what would happen if I did it. It is useless to work so hard for so much money. But I didn’t listen to anyone. I was fond of writing. And I wanted to fulfill my hobby. We come across many things which we do not like at all but we have to live with them. You can’t change bad things, you just have to figure out how to avoid them. Just as there are thorns on every branch along with flowers, similarly there are all kinds of people in society. In this society, some good things happen and bad things are also seen. If you fight every evil, you will waste your precious time in it. All your energy will also be wasted in this. Positive attitude is the most important thing in the world. All our goodness comes from how positivity we look at life. Any person fails in the outside world on many occasions and there are dilemmas within him too, but in every situation, only a positive attitude towards life helps. A positive attitude means ignoring things in a big way.
We come across many things which we do not like at all but we have to live with them. You can’t change bad things, you just have to figure out how to avoid them. Just as there are thorns on every branch along with flowers, similarly there are all kinds of people in society. In this society, some good things happen and bad things are also seen. If you fight every evil, you will waste your precious time in it. All your energy will also be exhausted in this.
The idea of fighting evil is like plucking all the thorns from a rose plant to get a rose without thorns. After a few days the thorns will emerge again. If you plant another rose plant, it will also have thorns. So we have no control over this. What we cannot do is to create a new variety of rose which has flowers but does not have thorns. Exactly similar is the case with human society also. The same thing happens here that there will always be someone who will make you angry. It will create an unpleasant situation and you cannot be completely free from it, it will always be there. You should find a way to avoid it. When you learn to ignore, you will be able to come out of such situations. The whole point is that we get angry, emotional and get entangled with things. People think that if problems are eliminated then peace will come, but peace will never come by eliminating problems. By the time you solve one problem, another one will arise. This sequence will continue and you will keep moving in this circle. Therefore, if you want to get out of the problem then learn to ignore it.
What place in the world do you never want to visit? Why?
I have always wanted to come and travel a lot in this world. And I have also traveled to many places. I have liked every place I have visited till date. But I would never like to go to Israel. Because when we leave the peaceful environment of our home and go for a walk, the hope is to remain free from all kinds of worries. And come back with a good experience from where you are going. Looking at the current situation in Israel, I feel that I will never try to go there.
Israel is one of the richest countries in the Middle East and Asia, as we all are seeing in the news there is a fight going on between Israel and Hamas. Because of which the whole world has been divided into two parts. And Israel is the only country in the world where it is very important for women to serve in military service. Many women roam around here with big guns in their hands. They have been deployed from the border to every corner of the country. It is very scary for me to see this scene. There are many places to visit all over the world. Any tourist who is going on a trip after spending so much money would like to be able to return home safely.
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.
Family are those people who stay with you all your life. And who will always be there for you. Often these people are blood relatives. Family members support each other in every happiness and sorrow. Many times, there is some squabbling and bickering among the family members regarding certain matters, but after all, family is family. Everyone wants to give love and happiness to each other. Of course, this feeling is there in everyone’s mind, but after some argument or because of shy nature, it seems difficult to express this love.
Recently I lost my father a month ago. My joint family has supported me a lot in this hour of grief. Everyone took care of me all the time. Fed me with them and recognized the value of my tears. Very soon my wound got healed. Because family shapes our life. Plays a paramount role in giving. Therefore the importance of family cannot be underestimated. Family is extremely important because they are the people who care about us the most. They help us grow, learn, and feel loved. They are the people who support us, help us socialize and teach us important things in life. Family plays a big role in making us happy and successful. Having a family is a special gift that not everyone gets, but sometimes people don’t fully appreciate this blessing. Some individuals choose to spend time away from their families to achieve independence, not understanding the importance of this precious bond. Families play a vital role in our development, molding us into well-rounded individuals with our own unique identity. They provide us with a sense of security and a nurturing environment to grow. Individually, we consider ourselves fortunate to belong to a family that has played an important role in making us a better person.
My favorite restaurant is my mother’s kitchen, where food is prepared for me with love. The food cooked in mother’s kitchen is fresh. In my house, food is prepared at different times for all three meals and the practice of eating stored food is not in our culture. That’s why we all try to cook as much food as we can eat at one time. Eating freshly prepared food provides our body with more nutrients than eating stale or packed food. When cooked food is reheated and eaten, a large number of its nutrients are lost. Preservatives are used in outside food, which are food grade chemicals. But these are not nutritious for health. We do not use any kind of preservatives in home cooked food. Therefore, this food is more nutritious and does not contain excess of unnecessary chemical elements. Everyone takes full care of hygiene while preparing home-made food. To prepare it we use oil, ghee and spices. This makes this food completely pure.
Whereas restaurants, hotels or street food etc. all come under business food and while making business food, profit is always considered first. Therefore, you cannot trust this food as much in terms of purity as you can trust your home-cooked food. Problems like food poisoning usually occur due to eating outside food. Because we know the shelf life of home cooked food and when it gets too old, we do not eat it. Whereas the food cooked outside tries to hide its old and stale taste by making it tasty with spices and gravy. While preparing food at home, my mother takes full care of the amount of oil, fat, spices and vegetables in it. Must be in quantity.
Homemade food is not just food, the way it is cooked also shapes our values. Many times, there is an argument between family members over some issue. In such circumstances, unless we talk, the conversation does not start. Whereas if we sit together and eat food, then in some way or the other the conversation starts. Every family has a different atmosphere which cannot be understood unless we spend time together. While eating, we talk about many topics and also try to understand what is going on in someone’s life. Therefore, in my view, it is better to try making those dishes at home rather than spoiling your health by eating restaurant food.
If you want to achieve heights or goals in life, then for this you will have to embrace passion. The struggle of life will give you the strength to live. Will spread a smile on your face. Hard work and struggle are most essential for satisfaction in life. No matter what you do, without struggle the boat of your life will not find shore. When the most valuable truth of life is struggle then each one of us should not try to avoid it.
In 10 years I want to see myself there which is my dream.I want to be the smile on the faces of old people I want to serve the very poor, helpless, helpless and old people who live their old age on the roadside by keeping them in a big house. In this modernity In the changing environment, people are forgetting the relationships. Due to the decline of morality and humanity in our society, the affinity of children towards their old parents is decreasing, as a result of which the number of old people in old age homes is increasing day by day. A large number of parents are being neglected by their families due to lack of emotional, physical and financial support. These elderly people are facing many problems due to lack of adequate social security. This clearly shows that old age has become a major social challenge and there is a need to meet the economic and health needs of the elderly and to create a social environment that is sensitive to the emotional needs of the elderly. The biggest challenge for me is to ensure that they Not only live a long life but also live a safe, dignified and creative life. My desire is to provide the basic needs of the elderly, especially food, shelter and health care, to the destitute elderly persons.
In this world, we all keep running after wealth, honour, glory and prestige. Even if life gives you everything you wanted at one go. Money, power, friends – they will go away from you after some time. And you will again be dissatisfied and want something more. But service is something that can never be boring for you. This is the inner feeling that every person is searching for. By attaining this joy within yourself, you will attain the storehouse of everlasting and inexhaustible bliss.
The period of study is that important time when all the values and abilities of life are formed in us. The “knowledge” we get in this state makes us cultured, gentle and restrained. Helps us to fight the crises of life. Knowledge is not limited to degrees only. Learning continues throughout life. One who stops learning remains incomplete. Getting a degree in itself is a big achievement in life, but to achieve success, it is very important to have the right ethics and values.
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