Family plays an important role in the development of an individual. It is from the family that a person gets values such as love, respect, trust, hope, care, culture and good behaviour. These values are very important for the development of a person. There is someone or the other in every person’s family who influences him a lot. In my family, I am most influenced by my mother because my mother is the medicine for all my illnesses. Sometimes she scolds me and sometimes she hugs me. She absorbs the tears from my eyes in her eyes. My mother gets sad with me and showers me with the smile from her lips. Mother takes care of all of us the whole day and by joining in our happiness, she forgets her sorrows. Hence whenever I face a setback, I immediately remember my mother. Mother has given me the cool shade of her pallu in the heat of the world. No matter how tired she is, if I insist on eating something, my mother immediately makes it and gives it to me. Mother has taught me to maintain relationships beautifully. Hence today, by living in a joint family, I have decorated every relationship. My mother means more to me than even God.
Exercising is an integral activity for our body. But there are some exercises that we enjoy doing. My favorite exercise is Surya Namaskar. Since the sun represents energy, strength, and vitality, Surya Namaskar asanas are beneficial for both our body and mind. Surya Namaskar does not require any equipment, nor is there any limit of place or time. By practicing Surya Namaskar correctly, anywhere, anytime, one can get numerous health benefits.
Going to the moon is a thrilling feeling. But I have no interest in going to the moon. With this much money one can travel around the world. For me travelling to other places matters more.and In the end everybody has to go to the moon .
Food is an important part of our life. We all cook something or the other to make ends meet. I am also very fond of cooking. Today I am going to tell you that cooking Saffron Paneer is my specialty. Because I have made this recipe myself. And my close relatives, friends and acquaintances have made it and sent me comments. Come, let me share the recipe of making it with all of you today.
Cut 500 grams paneer in long pieces. Now in one cup fresh curd, mix half teaspoon salt, half teaspoon garam masala, half teaspoon black pepper powder, one teaspoon ginger garlic paste,some Saffron leaves and 2 teaspoons ground cashews. Coat the paneer with this mixture. Keep it aside for half an hour. Now put one tablespoon butter in a pan and put the coated paneer in it. Add some hot milk along with it. Now let the paneer boil a little on low flame. While taking it off, add some cream and take it off. Serve garnished with coriander leaves and Saffron leaves.
New events keep happening in the world every day. But we read the history of the country we live in. That is why we remember the events of that place. I remember, after marriage, for the first time I saw that in 2008, India launched its first non-human lunar mission Chandrayaan-1. Chandrayaan-1 was successfully placed in the orbit of the moon on 8 November 2008. It had told that there is steam on the surface of the moon and there can be water there. It worked in space till 29 August 2009, that is, for a total of 312 days. India has acquired many accurate information about the moon and Mars. Scientists estimate that living conditions for humans can be created on both these planets. Not only can human activities be promoted there, but efforts can also be made to solve other mysteries of space beyond the solar system.
Sushmita Sen created history by winning the Miss Universe crown in 1994. She impressed the judges with her answers and looks. After winning the Miss Universe title, Sushmita entered Bollywood and became famous everywhere. This was also a historic event for India. Indians were proud of it.
What’s the biggest risk you’d like to take — but haven’t been able to?
People who want success often take risks and sometimes they have to bear losses due to taking risks. How we react after failure is the key to success. Most people who take the risk of starting a new work fail but they also learn a lot from their experience.
I too wanted to take a risk in my life, but never had the courage. That is, I want to open a baby care unit. And for that I need skilled women. I talked to many people, but no one met my criteria. After listening to them, I felt that they want to do this work only for money. But here it is a question of small children, so I want to take care of the children with complete honesty. That is why till date I did not have the courage to do this work. Because nowadays every day we get to read news that the nanny did bad things with the child. I want that if I am taking the responsibility of someone’s child, then I should do it with complete honesty. That is why till date I have not been able to take this risk.
No matter how much a person achieves or does not achieve, he always has something that he can feel proud of. It can be anything, his friends, his children, his husband or wife, his abilities or the success of his life.
I am also most proud of my family in my life. I have a joint family consisting of 15 people including my in-laws. I consider my family to be complete. Because it is not important if you have a number of people whom you take in a family but it is more important that there is good understanding, mutual love and respect among the family members. What is important is how they behave in difficult situations and help each other when the critical time comes. If all these objectives are fulfilled then it can be called a sweet and happy family. This is the true definition of a complete family. In my family every person takes care of the family and every person proudly says “I love my family”.
My family members help me in every difficult phase of life. They motivate me whenever I fail in any attempt. They give me strength to walk in the difficult paths of life. We all eat food cooked in the same kitchen. I believe that family is the best friend in difficult times, it stands with us even when we are left alone by everyone. A strong and loving family is the strong factor behind the success of a person against all difficulties. With the love and support of the family, we can easily face any difficulty. Family is the invaluable treasure of every human being. Man is born in the family, grows and grows in the family. Family nurtures us from a seed and transforms us into a huge tree. No person can survive without his family. Family is the strength of a human being. Family is important for every human being. It is said that the human species is alive in this world because they are living in a family or community or a group. This is what differentiates a man from an animal.Family is the center point of our strength and our understanding. It is because of this that we get everything in our life. Family is of utmost importance in the development of any human being. Family is of utmost importance because it keeps each other connected even after thousands of problems.
Family is of utmost importance in human life because human is a social animal and society is formed first of all from family. When a child is born, he considers whoever he finds around him as family. This is because if there is someone closest to us in the world, then he is a member of our family in some way or the other. Family is closest to us. In the family, we can share our emotions and can also put our problems in front of them. Family is with us in all our situations. That is why family is of utmost importance in our life. That is why it is said that there is no wealth greater than family. There is no advisor greater than father and no world greater than mother’s lap, there is no better partner than brother and no well-wisher greater than sister. That is why it is difficult to imagine life without family. A good family always takes each other along. That is why family is a strong foundation for human development.
These days I am working to understand the children and parents of our society. Our children are becoming very rebellious, cruel, fearless and careless these days. Perhaps the reason for this is upbringing. A few years ago I saw a film “Dear Zindagi”. In the film Alia Bhatt has played the role of a rebellious girl ‘Kyra’ who is suffering from severe insomnia, who has a deep mistrust towards relationships. Who is angering the whole world due to her rudeness in behavior and is unable to overcome the guilt of this. Due to insomnia and anxiety she meets a psychiatrist. Therapy begins, the psychiatrist played by Shahrukh Khan, while talking to Kiara continuously, comes to know that somewhere behind all her problems are the bad memories of her childhood. There is emotional abandonment from her parents and lack of a healthy upbringing. Doctor Jahangir takes Kaira back to her childhood, touches the softest emotions of her heart and tries his best to make sure that Kaira does not mess with her future based on her childhood memories. And finally she forgets everything and forgives her parents. He explains to Kaira that it is not necessary to get everything in life in totality. People should not be judged on very difficult parameters and once we take a closer look at their world, it becomes easier for us to forgive them. Anyway, in this endeavour, both of them are ultimately successful at their own level. But in reality, is it so easy for people, especially children, to recover? Maybe yes, maybe no.
I am also very sensitive towards my children. This is not related to any specific memory of my childhood. But this film has left a deep impact on my mind, my psyche. When I look back at my childhood, I find that my parents were always aware of my needs and all ours. They hardly understood psychology but they gave priority to my emotional existence. They knew my emotional self very well. Maybe I also gave some hints, but since childhood, neither me nor my brothers were taken for granted. All the time of my parents was our time. If good parenting is a difficult task, then I believe that they did it very easily. We grew up, started going to jobs, we got rejections, we also got rebuked but our emotional ground was so strong that it did not affect us much. If there is a lack in upbringing, then its psychological impact is deep. Now that I am a mother myself, I am constantly finding that after spending a stressful and busy day, I am able to save very little time for the children. When I look at the world, I worry about their survival, but time seems to be flying by. I don’t know if my experiences will be able to shape their lives or not, but I think it is right to share them with them from time to time. Our time, our world was different, but I want their emotional ground to be as strong as ours. They should know that whenever they get disappointed, there is someone to whom they can return and share that disappointment.
Parenting is not a competition that requires a lot of preparation to win. I just try to see the world through the eyes of children, give them time, listen to them, cook their favourite food, be with them as much as I can, as much as possible.. even then if there is any shortcoming, I can forgive myself.. I know this much that there is no better therapy than love, affection and companionship. And by sharing this experience with the children and parents of my neighbourhood, I am helping them learn something too.
What’s something most people don’t know about you?
Every person is not what he is from inside in front of others. There is such thing about me too which most of the people do not know, that is, after reading this if any of you are following my path then please be careful. Because wife is your companion for whole life.
Today I want to share some of the mistakes I made in my life and also make everyone aware of its consequences. 20 years ago, my wife got married and came to my house as my daughter-in-law. I was the beloved son of my parents and my parents, siblings were everything for me. After my wife came to the house, my parents, siblings used to misbehave with her and make fun of her. She was kept as a slave of the house. I also used to fully support them in all this. I never gave my wife the respect of a wife. Rather, according to me, she is the daughter-in-law of this house, so she should do the work of all the family members and keep everyone happy. If anyone says anything, she should never reply back. Gradually, the situation became such that even though I knew very well that my wife was right, I still used to call her wrong and insult her in front of everyone. Sometimes, to make my family members happy, I even used to raise my hand on my wife. Due to which my family members felt very proud of me. My mother, sister and my brother used to look at my wife with mocking eyes and made her feel that see, your husband is in our hands. I also used to make my wife feel from time to time that my own people are only and only my blood relations.
Time was passing like this. With time my sister got married. But her dominance over her maternal house was still intact like before and she left no stone unturned in harassing Bhabhi. After some time my younger brother also got married, and when all this started happening with his wife too, he did not delay and separated from his wife. He started living a peaceful life with his wife. He knew very well what kind of relationship was there between me and my wife. Because he was also a partner in all this. That is why he did not want to spoil his relationship. My wife had gradually understood what her existence was in my house. That is why she became silent. She did not say anything to anyone. She just did her work and remained silent. Even if it was not her mistake, she accepted it silently. We all were very happy that she lived according to us, spoke very limitedly. Our attitude was still the same. Time was moving at its own pace. Both my sons had become 19 and 18 years old. One day, father said goodbye to this world. Everything was going on the same way. Mother started falling ill in the grief of father’s departure, and had become old before time. Now she wanted someone to sit with her and talk. I used to be busy with my work the whole day and came home at night. My mother’s beloved daughter did not have time for her mother at all. The younger son and daughter-in-law had distanced themselves from mother long ago. My wife had become silent. She was performing all her duties well, but did not open her mouth. Mother complained to me that tell the daughter-in-law to talk to me. I do not like it. I told my wife to talk to mother. Mother does not like it. Why do you remain silent? My wife looked at me silently and went away from there without giving any answer, as she often did.
I knew very well that I was responsible for her silence. But still I was a good son. I pulled my wife’s hand very forcefully and said, can you hear what I am saying? Now all your drama will not work. Mother is ill. You will not become a good daughter-in-law just by serving her. Entertain mother. Talk to her. Only then will she be happy. My wife again silently looked at me and my mother, but did not give any answer. As if she was saying in her mind, do whatever you want to do, I will never face you people. You people are responsible for bringing me to this condition. I was getting very angry and I raised my hand to slap my wife.
Just then my elder son came in front of me and grabbed my hand and pushed me back and said, enough Papa, now if you do anything wrong with my mother, no one will be worse off than me. By then my younger son had also come forward and he said, Papa, we have tolerated enough of your arrogance. You have ruined our mother’s life. If you make such a mistake in future, we will forget that you are our father. I could not believe that my sons could talk to me like this. Still I said, and you have forgotten that she is my mother and your grandmother, whom your mother, i.e. my wife cannot make happy even by saying a few words. My elder son said, we have not forgotten anything Papa, and whatever the situation is today, you and your family are responsible for it, not our mother. We have not forgotten anything but you have forgotten that just like the sick woman for whom you worry a lot is your mother, similarly your wife, on whom you shout and raise your hand without any reason, that woman is our mother, and we will not tolerate any atrocities on our mother now. Saying this both of them took their mother by the hand and took her inside the room. While leaving my wife was looking at me with her silent eyes. As if saying that the condition of your mother today, in old age she yearns to talk to someone, after some time the same condition is going to happen to you too. Today my wife had shown me my place through her eyes, and I was repenting, on all the mistakes I had done. For which I was not going to get any forgiveness now and I had realized this by looking at my wife’s eyes.
Do lazy days make you feel rested or unproductive?
Yes, lazy days make me feel relaxed or unproductive. I feel relaxed on lazy days. I am used to doing something all the time. But I feel tired on lazy days. I feel tired all day and I don’t feel like doing anything. I postpone every task. But after one or two days, I feel that I should not be lazy anymore. This thought of mine brings new energy to my body. And I become alert towards my work again.
Continuous workload makes us physically and mentally tired. There are some people who ignore this fatigue and keep doing their work. But such people have to face physical and mental problems later. Laziness is also an activity of our body. We should accept it. But some people are lazy forever. This is not a good thing, but sometimes accepting laziness and taking rest can be beneficial for us.
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