Life is a drama in which a man plays many roles, like mother, father, brother, sister, friend, and many more. He does not find happiness in every role. The role in which he does not find happiness does not give him thrill either. There are many roles which require security too, because a man can invite enmity from someone else with his tongue at any time. Here, many stunts (meaning fights) may also have to be done. Hence, both security and adventure are important for a man.
If you could host a dinner and anyone you invite was sure to come, who would you invite?
If I organize a dinner, I will invite my special friends. Because we get a chance to sit and eat with family members every day. But friends never come to eat without being invited. The most important thing is that when all the friends come, it will be a different kind of gathering. Laughter, fun, jokes, and many such things that will refresh my mind and heart. I am fond of cooking and serving food like this. If my friends come, I will cook their favorite dishes and feed them. Sometimes when I invite friends to my house, then we all form a circle in a big plate and eat together. That day my happiness knows no bounds. We eat a lot of food while talking.
Growing old is a reality that everyone should accept. Sometimes we start to shudder at the thought of growing old, but scientific evidence shows that life gets better with age. Not all thinking skills and patterns peak at the same age. For example, teenagers may have a lot of energy, but older adults have the best vocabulary, creativity and the best ideas to solve problems. With age comes more understanding and experience. It is not necessary that every person’s mental state improves with age, but some people can say on the basis of their experience that their mental state is better than before or they are able to think and understand more than before. That is why whenever we have to take any advice, we want to listen to the experience and words of an older person because with age the maturity level increases and your mental condition is better than before.
Older people make better decisions.
Older people make better decisions. Are more emotionally stable and less impulsive than their younger peers. Older people better understand the importance of each decision because they know the value of their time, energy and happiness. Pay less attention to the little things, and enjoy life more. Invest in the emotionally important parts of life, hence are happier day to day,
People with growing age know how to fight the circumstances.
People with growing age know how to fight the circumstances.As you grow older, your responsibilities increase, which can cause depression, but the right way to fight depression also comes with age. As you become more mature, you realize that there is a lot of difference in the way depression is dealt with. If you rewind time, this time the way to deal with depression will be much better than the last time.
have a good mindset
Creativity, athletic prowess and imagination are often associated with youth. But research shows that older people are most adept at ‘experimental’ thinking which reflects years of accumulated knowledge, education and experience. Their skills peak in the mid 50s. They are able to think out of the box and generate lots of possibilities for different situations.
People who feel themselves young, they too become more honest with increasing age. They learn to control their emotions. Anyway, these qualities come with increasing age. People become calm with the experiences of life. It is not that people who remain young at heart remain childish in their thinking. Their mental health is better than others. They are less prone to forgetfulness. Older people can think about the welfare of a healthy society and country with their experiences.so I think Growing age is a treasure trove of experience.
Since childhood, we have been hearing ‘Early to bed and early to rise’, that is, sleeping early at night and waking up early in the morning is beneficial for both health and wealth. But due to busy lifestyle, people now sleep and wake up as per their convenience. The habit of waking up early in the morning and sleeping early at night can get rid of many health problems. But due to busy lifestyle, it becomes very difficult to follow it.
I wake up every day at 6:00 am. Morning walk and exercise are part of my daily routine. After that I work for the whole day, and then go to bed at 11:00 pm. On Saturday night we sleep a little late and wake up late on Sunday morning. Waking up too early is not my cup of tea. Because by doing this I don’t get enough sleep. And then I feel tired all day. I have been following this routine for many years. Perhaps I will continue to do the same in the coming days as well.
What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?
Everyone performs different activities in their daily routine like bathing, eating, cooking, grooming, cleaning etc. Such activities help us to function effectively in life. But apart from these we should also do something that can make our daily life organized.
I believe in keeping a clean mindset to increase comfort in my day to day life. For this I wake up early in the morning and do exercise and meditation. Meditation makes me aware of both my weaknesses and strengths. By doing this, I feel a simple attitude and satisfaction throughout the day which helps me in carrying out my responsibilities both at home and outside.Meditation can give you a sense of peace, relaxation and balance that can benefit your emotional health and your overall well-being. You can also use it to relax and deal with stress by focusing on something that calms you.
We meet so many people throughout the day, some of them make us happy and some make us sad. By meditating, I am able to balance myself with all these things very quickly. And exercise helps me to work harder. It also helps me to spend a pain-free day.
Apart from this, I also like to spend some time with friends. Friends are such balm, which sometimes heals your wounds easily. But for this, true friendship is necessary.
In our religion, we are taught to follow the path of religion from childhood. In childhood, we are excited to study and become a successful person in our future. We work hard and achieve our goals one day. Then we enjoy all the comforts while living with family. But sometimes, apart from all these things, there is a longing in our mind to do something else. Similarly, I also want to do something in my future which will give peace to my mind. I am most excited about walking on the path of enlightenment and gaining complete knowledge. I am eager to study ancient spiritual texts to deepen my understanding and knowledge. I believe in Hinduism. I want to study all the many books written in our religion, about which I have heard from my father. I have a hobby of going to libraries in India and abroad and reading them. I am also very fond of traveling. In this way, both my hobbies will be fulfilled.
For the future, I am most excited about social contribution. When I get retired then I want to do a lot for my society. I want that our society should be such where all people get equal rights and respect. Here all people should be united and support each other, whether they are poor or rich, there should be no discrimination on the basis of caste, religion, or gender. There should be a feeling of justice, equality, and cooperation in the society, so that everyone can develop and everyone has a good future. I pray to God everyday that he should make my future dreams come true.
What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?
Harmony is vital to personal growth and professional success. It enhances your overall quality of life, mental health and concentration performance, as well as promotes personal and professional satisfaction. In today’s fast-paced world, prioritizing harmony is not just a choice but a necessity. Harmony is a state of social behavior where an individual partners with other individuals / beings to pursue self or social satisfaction. The individual maintains a strategic distance from situations that create unnecessary conflict. Harmony is unity in diversity.
I also believe in living a life in harmony. If I need to, I am ready to do anything to promote harmony. If I find any of my close relatives to be an obstacle in this, I am ready to break off relations with them. If someone wants a small amount of money from me in exchange for harmony, I may be ready to give that too. Because I like to live a peaceful life. I can turn away from all those friends or relatives in my life who disturb me with their words. Negative people not only take away your peace but also have an impact on your family. I will not let their shadow fall on my family members like my wife, children, parents. People who live in harmony always maintain their prominence in the society due to their influence. Such people are true workers.
Media has the biggest role in influencing harmony. We should not run after media all the time. Some things are right and some are wrong. But none of us understand this and by seeing media we take enmity with each other. The problem which cannot be solved by fighting can surely be solved by love. The experience of satisfaction in life is very important. In its absence, man wanders from door to door and becomes like a mirage. God has sent us empty handed and will call us back empty handed. Then why should we not live our life peacefully. For me, harmony is as important as two meals a day. Because without it everything is futile.
Just like there are some types of singing styles, similarly in today’s modern era there are some words, some methods, ways of playing or in other words some styles. Different musicians (singers, lyricists, instrumentalists) have their own styles. But if their music is timed differently and put under different emotions, then those styles are called sangati styles.
I like Hindustani music very much. And in that too the Dhamar-Hori style. This style has a lot of similarities with Dhrupad except the Dhrupad taal. It is a very organized style and has a cycle of 14 taals, which are used irregularly. Its compositions are generally devotional in nature and are related to Lord Krishna. Some of the more popular songs are related to the Holi festival, due to which many of its compositions have Shringar Rasa. Dhamar compositions are mostly related to Holi and the Leelas of Radha-Krishna, but due to the development of this style in the medieval period, the compositions also included subjects related to the praise and prestige of kings and rulers. Dhrupad is considered to be the highest class song type of Hindustani Raga-Darbari music. Dhrupad singing is based on elements like purity of raga, correct pronunciation of notes and words, gamak, rhythm and harmony etc. Perhaps the formation of the basic elements of this style is possible only through the proper use of swara, shabd, taal and bhaav. In Dhrupad style, a song based on Dhamar taal is also called Dhamar. The text of Dhamar is related to the antics of Krishna teasing the cowherd boys during Holi, the festival of colors in the spring season. It is considered relatively light, soft and romantic music. It feels great to listen to these songs during the festival of Holi.
Due to the hectic lifestyle, spending time with family is becoming very special. Everyone wants that their hard-earned vacation should be spent in a memorable way.
Similarly, my husband and I had planned to go to Dubai ten years ago. Our flight was from Kolkata. We were very excited about our trip. The flight was at 11:30 pm. And it was going to go via Hyderabad. But the flight was so late that we reached the place where we were supposed to reach in the morning at 3:00 pm. Our mood was completely spoiled because we had only three days. As soon as we reached, we freshened up and went out for sightseeing. Due to lack of time, we could not see some places that we wanted to see.
Now read carefully the incident of our return. Our flight took off from Dubai at 10:00 pm. On the way back, our flight had to come to Delhi. I find flight journeys very stressful. After flying for 2 hours, suddenly the pilot signaled us to fasten our seat belts and said that we are going back to Dubai because there is some technical problem in the flight. I have not been able to forget till date what was the condition of my heart. Those 2 hours were like two ages for me. Anyway, thanks to God, we reached Dubai airport again. After reaching, we came to know that the windshield of the flight was broken. And the next day we read this in the newspaper as well. Anyway, we were kept at the airport. The airline people arranged for our food. Our flight back was after 6 hours.
The next day morning we again left for Delhi. This time we were thankful to God that we reached Delhi. When we reached Delhi and got ready to collect our luggage, the airline people said that some of our luggage was left behind. Now when the next flight arrives, our luggage will come in it. We held our heads. Because we had already missed a flight to Kolkata. The airline people were saying that they will get the luggage delivered to our home. But all of us friends thought that since the flight has already been missed, we will take the luggage with us. The airline people kept us in a hotel there. Morning turned to evening but there was no trace of our luggage. We had done a lot of shopping in Dubai but now we were not happy about that shopping. At night when we again went back to the airport to check our luggage. Then they said that it will come in the morning. Here I must tell you that this flight was of Air India. Anyway, we got our luggage the next day. They asked us to check our luggage. We opened it and saw that everything was fine. Then we returned back to Kolkata by afternoon flight.
When we reached home, we were completely exhausted. The enthusiasm with which we had gone for the trip had now cooled down. My husband had to take two days off from office because of the flight. He had an important meeting which he could not join. We were very tensed for two-three days about all these things. Then gradually we got busy with our work. This was our experience of visiting Dubai. Which we will probably never forget in our life. Now whenever we go out, there is a fear in the mind. One day my friend said that whenever you go out, you should ask God to come with you. After that, while going out, we ask our God to come with me and come back with me. You too should listen to me and see, he will always be with you.This was my scary Dubai tour.
There are many people in the world who consider themselves experts in their field. But in my view, if there is anyone who is an expert then it is God. I do not consider myself an expert in any subject/subjects. Because I believe in learning. There is no end to learning any subject. When we consider ourselves experts, then we are not able to learn anything new. And we are deprived of further knowledge of that subject.
I have interest and experience in many things like cooking, painting, embroidery, writing bhajans, poetry, interior decoration etc. But I do not consider myself an expert. Because I feel that the day I consider myself an expert, a feeling of ego will develop within me.so no authority no proud.
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