Redefinewisdom

  • Before getting divorced, you must read this true incident

    June 23rd, 2024

    The husband and wife had copies of the divorce papers in their hands. Both were silent, both calm, both expressionless. The case had gone on for two years. In the end, what everyone wanted was going to happen  divorce. It was just a coincidence that the relatives of both sides sat at the same tea stall and had cold drinks. It was also just a coincidence that the divorced husband and wife sat opposite each other at the same Wooden bench and both of them were sitting face to face. Congratulations, what you wanted has happened, said the woman. “Congratulations to you too, you have also achieved victory by giving divorce, said the man. “Is divorce a symbol of victory????” asked the woman. “You tell me?”

    The woman did not answer the man’s question. She kept sitting quietly, then said, “You called me characterless, right? It is good that you are now free from this characterless woman. It was my mistake, I should not have done this’ the man said. I have suffered a lot of mental stress”, the woman’s voice was flat, neither sad, nor angry. I know that a man attacks a woman with this weapon, which bleeds the woman’s mind and soul, you are a very character full person. I should not have said such dirty things about you. I am very sorry, said the man. The woman kept quiet, she looked at the man once. After remaining silent for a few moments, the man took a deep breath and said, you also called me a greedy person for dowry. You were wrong, said the woman looking at the man. She remained quiet for some time, then said, I would have made some other allegation but I did not want to.

    Tea arrived in a plastic cup. The woman picked up the tea, a little tea spilled. The hot tea fell on the woman’s hand. A painful sound came out. The man’s throat made an ‘Oh’ sound at that very moment. The woman looked at the man. The man kept looking at the woman. “How is your back pain? It is like this, sometimes Vovron, sometimes Combiflam,” the woman tried to end the conversation. “You don’t even exercise.” The man said this and the woman laughed faintly. “What is the condition of your asthma? Are you having an attack again????” the woman asked. Asthma? Doctor Suri has asked me to reduce mental stress, the man informed. The woman looked at the man and kept staring. As if she was reading the tension  on the man’s face.

    You keep taking the inhaler, don’t you?” the woman took her eyes off the man’s face and asked.Yes, I keep taking it. I forgot to bring it today, the man said.That is why your breathing seems short-lived today, the woman said in a sympathetic tone.Yes, partly because of this and partly… the man stopped while saying. Something?… partly because of stress,” the woman completed the sentence. The man kept thinking, then said, “You have to pay four lakh rupees and six thousand rupees per month also. Yes… then?” the woman asked. The price of your flat would be twenty lakh rupees??? I only need four lakh rupees, the woman clarified.

    When the daughter grows up, there will be expenses, the man said. You will keep giving me six thousand rupees a month, the woman said. “Yes, I will definitely give it. If you don’t have four lakhs, then don’t give it to me,” the woman said. There was dust of old relations in her voice. The man kept looking at her face. How kind and beautiful was the woman sitting in front of him, who used to be his wife. The woman was looking at the man and thinking, “What a simple nature this man has, who used to be her husband. He loved her so much. Once in Haridwar, when she was taking a bath in the Ganga, the chain slipped from her hand. Then like a madman he came to save her. He himself did not know how to swim and he kept trying to save me, he is so good… I kept finding faults in him.

    The man was staring at the woman and thinking, “She took so much care of him, she would boil water for steam and put it in a jug. She would always buy an inhaler for him. Seretide Accuhaler was very expensive. Every month she would be frugal, save money and buy an Accuhaler. Who cares about others’ illness? But she did care, never let it become public. She had so much compassion. I was intoxicated with my manhood. I wish I could understand her passion.”

    Both were silent, very silent. Free from the sounds of the world, silent. Both kept looking at each other with moist eyes. “I want to tell you something,” there was hesitation in the voice. Say it,” the woman looked at him with moist eyes. “I am afraid,” said the man. “Don’t be afraid. It is possible that what you are saying is what I am thinking,” said the woman. “I have been missing you a lot,” said the man. “You too,” said the woman. I still love you. “Me too.” Said the woman. The eyes of both had become more moist. Both their voices were emotional and their faces were innocent. “Can’t we both give a new turn to our lives?” asked the man. “Which turn? We should start living together again, together… as husband and wife. As very good friends. This paper?  The woman asked. “Should I tear it?” the man said and tore the divorce papers with his own hands. The woman did the same. Both stood up. They smiled holding each other’s hands. Relatives of both sides were shocked and confused. Both husband and wife walked towards the house holding hands. The house which belonged only to the husband and wife. Love and quarrel between husband and wife are two sides of the same coin. Don’t take any decision on a small matter that you have to regret for your entire life.

    No person in this world is perfect. Even God has been found flawless by humans. If you have any complaint with your partner then sit down and solve it. There is no problem in the world which has no solution.

  • I always keep my inner storage neat and clean.

    June 23rd, 2024

    How do you practice self-care?

    Self care is something that every person should do. Those who do not do this remain immersed in despair and sorrow. They get various diseases at a young age. Because of them, their family has to face a tragedy. It is not necessary that only a person who has a lot of resources takes self care. Even a poor person can improve his personality by taking such good self care. Self-care means taking time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. This can help you manage stress, reduce your risk of illness, and increase your energy. Even small acts of self-care in your daily life can have a big impact.

    I take better care of myself because taking care of ourselves allows us to better care for and connect with others. Proper nutrition, a healthy sleep and exercise routine, and making sure to make time for rest help me maintain the energy I need. Constant stress and not taking care of yourself can take a toll on your physical health. It can lead to problems like insomnia, cardiovascular issues, and a weakened immune system. Not taking care of yourself can also affect your mental health. Anxiety, depression, and feelings of being overwhelmed can become more prevalent. Taking care of myself gives me new energy. It improves my approach and gives me more resources to tackle my tasks. Consciously taking time for myself, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes of my day, helps me feel balanced. Additionally, I am less likely to feel tired.

    Following normal routines and taking care of myself is as important to me as my work. Maintaining friendships, pursuing hobbies and interests, and doing things I enjoy. Eating regular, balanced meals, trying to make mealtimes family or social time, exercising regularly, sleeping at regular times, and avoiding alcohol and drugs are my habits.Taking time out for my spiritual or religious needs gives me great solace. Spending some time in a temple or engaging in some religious discussion has been taught to me since childhood.

    Keeping yourself happy in all circumstances is such a medicine which can help you to live a long life. I never forget to take this medicine. Sometimes it happens with me too that I get hurt by something. But I take care of it immediately. If I have not made any mistake then I do not fear to say anything to anyone. Many of us keep suffocating inside, due to this their mental health gets affected. Due to which diseases surround us. I always keep my inner storage neat and clean. You should also try this trick. 😂

  • I waste the most time with my dog lio

    June 22nd, 2024

    How do you waste the most time every day?

    Not everyone is busy all the time. If somebody has a hobby, he manages to find time for it. Like I spend most of my time with my pet dog Leo. Leo is a German shepherd dog. We have raised Leo since he was one month old. Now he is 18 months old. Whenever I am free from household chores, I play with him. He loves playing ball. Leo’s antics are a delight to watch. Whichever ball he likes the most, he does not let go of it easily after catching it. I like his cleverness very much.

    In Hinduism, the dog is called the messenger of Yama. The dog is considered to be the servant of the Hindu god Bhairav . Bhairav  is pleased by feeding the dog and he protects the devotee from all kinds of sudden crises. It is believed that by keeping the dog happy, it does not let even the messenger of Yama come near you. That is why I try to keep my Leo happy.

  • Ahh, childhood!!! Those were the days

    June 21st, 2024

    Which food, when you eat it, instantly transports you to childhood?

    Childhood, ahh!!! Those were the days. No worries, no worries. I came back from school, threw my bag and went straight to play. Not only me, all my friends used to do the same. When water collects on the road, I feel like jumping into it or sailing a paper boat. When the old man with hair rings the bell, even today my feet move towards the balcony. Or even today if a child blows soapy bubbles around me, I burst them. Along with all these traditional dishes, I miss another dish very much, with which many memories come alive, a small bread sandwich. Spicy potato sandwich, green coriander chutney freshly ground on a stone grinder and hot tea. This used to be brunch almost every second Sunday at our house. At that time, we did not eat sitting on chairs and tables, but a sheet was spread and food was served on it.  Sandwich and tea would be finished in 10 minutes but after that there would be useless licking of the bread crumbs from the plate to make it shine and gossip for two hours.When I put sandwiches in the children’s tiffin, I sometimes remember the sandwiches of our times.

    The special vadas (made from ground moong dal with some spices) made at our home on Holi were very delicious. And the taste of sweet pakodas and papdis was just amazing. Even today, when I make these myself, I remember when mother used to make them, all of us children used to sit nearby and eat them hot. And moong dal halwa was so delicious that it is beyond words. When I remember the halwa made by my mother, even today its taste melts in my mouth.

    When we used to go on the way from home to school, there used to be a competition to watch Ramu Halwai make hot Jalebi. And we used to keep on saying Round Round and Stop. Then sometimes we used to eat Jalebi from our pocket money. Today, when I eat Jalebi, I start laughing involuntarily. And there is one dish called Mirchi Bada. Which I used to eat with great fondness in my childhood. Thick chillies are made by filling them with potato stuffing and wrapping them in gram flour. I used to eat the gram flour stuffing on the top and my father used to eat the chilli. Even today, when I go to Rajasthan, I definitely eat Mirchi Bada. And I refresh my childhood memories.

    Today when I go to buy vegetables, the sight of many vegetables reminds me of my childhood. Our house in the village had gourd, cucumber, brinjal, bitter gourd and many more green vegetables in its backyard. There used to be mango, litchi, banana, guava and pomegranate trees, which we used to buy from the market only sometimes. The taste of the vegetables grown at home was different. Today we eat fruits and vegetables bought from the market. God knows how much insecticides are mixed in them. The diseases occurring in today’s times are happening due to food habits only. Earlier we did not get much to eat, but whatever we got was pure. But where are those days now? They are confined only to memories.

  • Rani Laxmi bai

    June 20th, 2024

    Who is your favorite historical figure?

    Rani Laxmibai of Jhansi, who made the Indian land proud, was an ideal heroine in the true sense. Laxmibai was known as Manubai in her childhood. Maharani Laxmibai was born in Kashi on 19 November 1835. Her father Moropant Tambe was dependent on Chiknaji Appa. Her mother’s name was Bhagirathi Bai.

    The heroic and courageous personality of Rani Lakshmi Bai became very famous during the Indian freedom struggle. As the queen of Jhansi, she fought valiantly with her subjects and fought against the British Empire. During the 1857 freedom struggle, she took over the power of Jhansi after the death of her husband Gandhiji and played her role as a strong female fighter. She took strong steps to protect the people of Jhansi and fought against the British Empire. Lakshmi Bai died on 17 June 1858, when she sacrificed her life for her country while fighting with strength and courage in Gwalior. She set an example for the women fighters of the Indian freedom struggle with her bravery and dedication. The sacrifice of Rani Lakshmi Bai gives us important inspiration of courage, dedication and patriotism. Her unparalleled valor is a symbol of her unwavering dedication to freedom. The name of Rani Lakshmi Bai will always remain a proof of her great journey in indian national history.

  • Who is right? God Shani or Science?

    June 19th, 2024

    Shani is the most popular deity for his influence in Hindu spiritual tradition and astrology. There is a special kind of fear about his sight. There are references in mythology and lectures when even his Guru Mahadev Shiva could not escape from the sight of Shani. His characteristic of not discriminating against anyone makes him the ‘God of Justice’. However, to attain this position, Shani Dev also had to go through many tests. Shani’s wife was extremely brilliant. One night she went to him with the desire to have a son. Shani Dev was engrossed in the meditation of Lord Vishnu. Thus the wife got tired of waiting. The wife got angry and cursed Shani Dev. Shani Dev’s wife said that whoever he looks at will be destroyed. Therefore, it is advised to avoid the sight of Shani Dev.

    Why do we offer oil to Shani?



    Once, on the request of Sun God, Hanuman Ji went to convince Shani. Shani did not agree and agreed to fight. Hanuman Ji defeated Shani in the war. Shani was badly injured in this war. To reduce Shani’s wounds, Hanuman Ji gave him oil. On this, Shani said that whoever will offer me oil, I will not hurt him and will reduce his sufferings. Since then, the tradition of offering oil to Shani started.

    Why do we light lamps on Saturdays?


    Saturn is a symbol of darkness and becomes very powerful after sunset. If Saturn gets upset, darkness prevails in life. According to astrology, lighting a lamp on Saturday evening removes darkness from life. Light the lamp only on Saturday evening.

    Why is Shani Dev’s color black?

    A story has been told in the scriptures about the dark complexion of Shani Dev. According to this story, Surya Dev was married to Sandhya, the daughter of Daksha Prajapati. Sandhya and Surya Dev had children named Manu, Yamraj and Yamuna. It is said that Surya Dev was so bright that Sandhya could not bear that brightness, so one day she left her replica Chhaya there and went to her father’s house herself. Being similar to Sandhya in qualities and appearance, Surya Dev could not understand that Chhaya is actually a replica of Sandhya. After some time Chhaya became pregnant. Chhaya used to do rigorous penance of Lord Shiva from the time of conception. Due to this, she could not take proper care of her pregnancy. Due to this, when Shani Dev was born, he was extremely malnourished and dark in complexion. Seeing the dark complexion of his son, Surya Dev refused to accept him as his son. Shani Dev felt very bad about this. Since Chhaya had done penance of Mahadev during pregnancy, due to this Shani Dev had the blessings of Mahadev from birth and he was born with a lot of powers from birth.  When Surya Dev rejected him, he got very angry and when he looked at Surya Dev with the same anger, Surya Dev’s complexion also turned black and he got afflicted with leprosy. After this, Surya Dev realized his mistake and he went to Lord Shiva to apologize for his mistake. After this, he gave Shani Dev the boon of being the most powerful among all the planets. Mahadev made him the giver of karma. After his birth, Shani Dev had to bear neglect due to being black in complexion. In such a situation, he realized how much the black color is neglected. This color does not get importance in any auspicious work like worship etc. Due to this, he made black color his favorite color.

    Why are black things offered to Shanidev?

    Since then, black coloured items started being offered to Shani Dev. This makes Shani Dev very happy. Apart from this, if you help a needy, helpless or neglected person, then Shani Dev is also very happy with this. Due to the blessings of Lord Shiva, Shani became a very powerful god. Then he expressed his wish and said that any devotee who offers him black coloured items, he will fulfill his every wish. Since then, the tradition of offering things made of iron, black sesame, black urad, black cloth, black gram, black effigy etc. to Shani Dev continues.

    Why did the golden Lanka turn black instead of shining after burning?

    Even Ravana, the king of Lanka who defeated the gods, was suspicious of Shani’s sight. Therefore, he caught Shani and hung him upside down in Lanka, so that he could not see him. When Hanuman burnt Lanka, he freed many gods from Ravana’s captivity. Shani was also among them. When Hanuman straightened him, his sight fell on Lanka. This is the reason why after burning the golden Lanka, instead of shining, it turned black.

    How are you please Shani?  How to avoid Shani’s anger? 

    If you want to avoid Shani’s anger, then stay away from people who speak ill of others and conspire against others.  Do not keep bad thoughts about others in your mind.  Don’t try to harm anyone.  Do not try to snatch someone’s rights.  Avoid being careless.  Try to get up before sunrise.  Do not sleep at all during sunset.  Feed the poor and hungry as much as possible.  Give food items.  Donate leather shoes and slippers to the needy.  Donate black blankets to the poor in winter.  Donate mustard oil in an iron vessel on Saturday.  Offer mustard oil to Shani Dev on Saturday evening, light a lamp of mustard oil.  Wherever there is a statue or symbol of Shani in temples, his gaze is bowed.  This is a symbol of the effect of Shani’s gaze.

    Why is the idol of Shani Dev installed facing west?

    According to astrology and Vastu Shastra, Lord Shani Dev is the lord of the west direction, therefore the idol of Lord Shani Dev has been installed here facing west. It is a religious belief that Shani Dev should not be seen from the front. Hence, here also, for darshan, the visitors walk clockwise from the south direction, come to the west direction, have darshan of Shani Dev and then come out in the west direction and then come out again from the north and east direction and come out again in the south direction. Some people may call this process of darshan of Shani Dev as superstition, but this process which has been followed for centuries for darshan of Shani Dev is to follow an important principle of Vastu. There is a principle of Chinese Vastu Shastra Feng Shui that the middle part in front of the main gate is of fame. Hence, fame increases if red colour is used here and fame fades if black colour is used. In India also, the auspicious symbols made on the main gate are made of red colour such as Om, Omkar, Swastik, Shubh-Labh etc.

    In temples also, it is considered auspicious to dress the idol in front of the main gate in red colour.  Shani Dev is dressed in black clothes and his idol is painted black. In such a situation, if the idol is installed in front of the main gate, then the above mentioned principles of Vastu and Feng Shui are ignored and the fame of the temple gets affected. That is why centuries ago, the learned sages and saints must have started the tradition of installing the idol of Shani Dev on the right side of the temple instead of installing it right in front of the main gate. This Vastu tradition has been followed in Shri Shanidham also.

    Why is the idol of Shani not kept in the house?

    Saturday is dedicated to Lord Shani. Shani Dev is worshipped on this day. It is believed that if Shani’s Sade Sati or Mahadasha is going on in a person’s horoscope, then worshipping on this day brings auspicious results. But despite this, there is a ban on keeping Shani Dev’s idol in the house. In the scriptures, putting pictures of some gods and goddesses is considered forbidden. Out of these, putting Shani Dev’s idol at home is considered forbidden. According to mythological beliefs, Shani Dev was cursed that whoever he looks at, will face misfortune. This is the reason that so that Shani Dev’s sight does not fall directly on our lives, it is not considered right to keep Shani Dev’s picture or idol in the home temple.

  • My husband harry

    June 19th, 2024

    Write about your first crush.

    Just as it is not easy to fall in love for the first time, similarly it is not easy to forget it. Although love is always special, but you remember even the smallest incident that happened during the first love and you are unable to forget it. Actually, the first love introduces you to those incidents which you have never done before. Things that happened during the first love may be good or bad, surprising or natural, but you remember everything that happened during that time. All these things become a part of your life. Whenever you think about your first love, all those things seem a little strange but very good to you. Even if your first love happened 50 years ago, you remember every single thing about that time. Now you must be thinking that a person’s memory is sharp, that is why he remembers everything. But this is not the case at all.

    My first love, my mother who gave birth to me. My first love, my father who taught me to walk by holding my finger. And my first love, my brother who tied me in the thread of affection. But despite all this, my first crush in my life happened when I was in the last year. I had joined Maths coaching. On the first day, all of us children were sitting on our seats waiting for Sir when suddenly a boy came in a green shirt and black jeans. I liked him on the very first day. I could not even sleep that night. If I closed my eyes, I could see his face, if I opened my eyes, it felt as if he was standing in front of me. I decided at that very moment that I would make him my husband. The next day, when I asked him his name, he told me it was Harry. Slowly, we started talking. We started messaging each other. In the messages, we started talking about everything from well-being to food. Our friendship deepened. I started liking him in my heart, I did not even realize how one year passed with him. But after giving up, I made up my mind to propose him.  And one day I proposed to her and she accepted. Today we are husband and wife and are living a happy life.

  • religious places of the world

    June 18th, 2024

    What countries do you want to visit?

    This world is very beautiful. There are so many places to see, which is not possible for everyone to visit all of them. Some people love the mountains more. Some want to enjoy the sea beach. Some like to roam in the forests. Some are keen on doing city tours. But apart from all these, I am more fond of visiting religious places. So if I ever get such a chance, I would like to visit all the religious places in the world. This place is included in my visiting list. I have seen all the religious places in India. Which include Ayodhya, Varanasi, Kedarnath, Dwarka, Puri, Rameswaram, and many other places.

    SENSOJI TEMPLE,The iconic Sensoji Temple also known as Asakusa Kannon Temple is located in Asakusa, Tokyo. It is one of the most ancient Buddhist temples in the world. The temple is said to be around 1400 years old. It is dedicated to the Buddhist goddess of mercy.

    VATICAN CITY,The Vatican City is the smallest independent state in Europe which is ruled by the pope. It is witness to an extraordinary history which began from the construction of a basilica over St. Peter’s grave in Rome in the 4th century AD. Soon it became one of the most popular religious sites in the world.

    NOTRE-DAME DE PARIS,Notre-Dame de Paris is one of the oldest Gothic Cathedrals in the world. The cathedral has been dedicated to the Virgin Mary and is largely famous for its ethereal structure and the stunning views of Paris it offers. The Notre-Dame de Paris has been known to be a witness to many events. Some of the topmost include the coronation of Napoleón Bonaparte, the beatification of Joan of Arc and the coronation of Henry VI of England.

    BASÍLICA DE GUADALUPE,The Basilica De Guadalupe in Mexico is one of the topmost visited religious sites in the world. The church has been dedicated to the Queen of Mexico and the Empress of the Americas.

    Angkor Wat, Cambodia,Angkor Wat is a Hindu-Buddhist temple complex in Cambodia. Located on a site measuring 162.6 hectares within the ancient Khmer capital city of Angkor, it is considered as the largest religious structure in the world by Guinness World Records.

  • No one is perfect in this world

    June 17th, 2024

    What’s your favorite thing about yourself?

    No one is perfect in this world. Every person is born with some qualities and demerits. But if a person wants, he can cover up all his demerits with his good qualities. No matter how good a person may appear in front of others, he knows his inner weaknesses. He knows what qualities and what demerits he has. Even if he proves himself right in front of others by raising his voice for his mistakes, he definitely knows from within whether he is right or wrong.

    What I like most about myself is that I’m not afraid to stand up for what’s right. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but that doesn’t mean they should be disrespectful to others. I am brutally honest. I see myself as an open and honest person who doesn’t believe in misleading other people and I try to be fair in everything I do.I never have any problem in expressing my opinion. I think one of the traits I like most about my personality is that I am kind. I have seen many bad moments in my life where I found myself alone and sad and I have handled the situation alone. I stay strong even in difficult times. I face problems with confidence. I use my struggles to help others. I am a hardworking and motivated person who is not afraid to face a challenge.I am passionate about my work and I know how to get the job done. I am good at learning new things.

    I also have many bad habits, like I get very angry. But after my anger subsides, I realize whose mistake it was. But I am self-confident. Because the way we think about ourselves or the more we maintain our self-confidence, the more people trust us and show respect to us. Our self-confidence, that is, belief in ourselves is our most important mental need.

  • Retirement is just a nice feeling

    June 16th, 2024

    How do you want to retire?

    In my view, retirement is just a pleasant feeling. As long as the wheel of life keeps moving, you don’t get time to remember your joys and sorrows. As soon as you stop working, all the things surround you from all sides. Many people are happy in taking rest, but many people like to keep working. In my opinion, one should keep doing some light work even after retirement. Through which we are able to keep ourselves busy. And the most important thing is that you will not be dependent on anyone else’s money.

    God has made the human body like a machine. If it does not work, it gets rusted. Similarly, if we stop working, then along with our body, our heart and mind also get rusted. And this rust gives pain to others too. Hence, I want to spend my retired life fulfilling my dreams of travelling, and doing some work that does not become a burden on anyone. I also want to do some such work that gets my talent recognized in the society.

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