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This is a very touching story, it shows the truth of life, read it carefully. 20 years of life flew by like the wind. Then began the search for a job. Not this, not that, not far, not near. While doing this, I quit 2, 3 jobs and settled on one. Some stability began. Then came the first salary cheque. It was deposited in the bank and began the endless game of zeros accumulating in the account. 2-3 more years went by. A few more zeros increased in the bank.
I turned 25. And then I got married. The wonderful story of my life began. The first two years were soft, rosy, juicy and dreamy. Roaming around hand-in-hand, colourful dreams. But these days soon flew by. And then there was the sound of the child’s arrival. In one year the cradle started swinging. Now all the attention was focused on the child. Getting up, sitting, eating, drinking, pampering. I did not realize how quickly the time passed by. In the meantime when did my hand slip out of her hand, when did talking, roaming around stop, neither of us realized.
The child grew up. She got busy with the child and I with my work. EMI of house and car, responsibility of the child, education and future facilities and also the worry of increasing the zero in the bank. She devoted herself completely to work and I too turned 35 in the meantime. House, car, zero in the bank, family – everything is there, still something is lacking? But I did not understand what that was. Her irritation kept increasing, I started getting indifferent. In the meantime, days kept passing. Time kept passing. The child kept growing. His own world kept getting ready. I did not realize when the 10th year came and went. By then both of us became forty-forty-two years old. The zero in the bank kept increasing.
In a very isolated moment, I remembered those gone days and seeing the opportunity, told her, “Hey, just come here, sit next to me. Come, let us go somewhere holding hands.” She looked at me with strange eyes and said, “Do you think of anything? There is a lot of work to be done here and you are thinking of talking.”
Tucking her saree pallu in her waist, she left. Then came the forty-fifth year, she started wearing glasses, her hair started losing its black colour, some confusion started in her mind. The son was in college over there, and the zeros in the bank were increasing. Soon his college was over. He stood on his own feet. He grew wings and flew away to a foreign land.
The black colour of her hair also started fading. Sometimes her mind started failing her. She also started wearing spectacles. I myself became old. She too started looking old. Both of us started growing from fifty-five to sixty. There was no news of the zeros in the bank. The plans of going out started stopping. Now the days and times for taking medicines started getting fixed. The house which was bought with the thought that we will live together when the children grow up, now started feeling like a burden. The rest of the days started passing by thinking when the children would return.
One day I was sitting on the sofa enjoying the cool breeze. She was lighting the diya. Suddenly the phone rang. I picked up the phone. On the other side was my son. He said that he got married and will now live abroad.
He also said that father, donate your bank balance to an old age home. And you can also live there. After saying some more formal things, the son hung up the phone. I came back and sat on the sofa. Her diya too was about to finish. I called her, “Come let’s talk today again holding hands.” She immediately said, “I’m coming now.” I couldn’t believe it. Her face lit up with happiness. Her eyes filled up. Tears started falling from her eyes and her cheeks got wet. Suddenly the shine in my eyes faded and I became lifeless, forever. She did the Shesh pooja and came and sat beside me, “Tell me, what were you saying?”But I did not say anything. She touched my body. My body had become totally cold. I was staring at her.
For a moment she became blank. What should I do? She did not understand anything. But in a minute or two she became conscious. She got up slowly and went to the prayer room. She lit an incense stick. She prayed to God. And came back and sat on the sofa. She took my cold hand in hers and said, “Where do you want to go? What do you want to talk about?” “Tell me!” Saying this her eyes filled up with tears. She kept staring at me. Tears started flowing from her eyes. My head fell on her shoulder. The cold breeze was still blowing. Is this life? -
What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?
I am proud of many aspects of my cultural heritage. As an Indian, Indian culture fills my heart and soul with reverence. India is a land of many cultures; it is one of the most ancient civilisations in the world dating back over 4,000 years. During this period, many customs and traditions have evolved which reflect the rich culture and heritage of this country.
From having a rich cultural heritage to being the originator of some delicious cuisines, this country is not bound by any borders. It would be fair to say that the people of this country are proud of their cultural identity and are constantly carrying forward their legacy. In a multi-ethnic land like India, a common language is the unifying force and an important part of our culture. While travelling from one state to another, one can visit our magnificent heritage monuments and temples. People are proudly embracing their culture, traditional cuisine, dialect and attire.
We are the skilled citizens of a great country India. Our country is unique and different from all the countries of the world. I am proud of my culture and civilization. Whenever and wherever I tell anyone that I am an Indian or someone calls me an Indian, I feel proud. We are citizens of a country which has played the role of English in promoting democratic values all over the world. We are proud to be citizens of a democratic country. The culture and civilization of our country is one of the oldest civilizations of the world. This country has also been the country of sages and saints. That is why many great men have also called it the land of gods. Because the culture and civilization of this country has been going on from generation to generation. The culture of our country is based on great moral, pure and divine qualities like sacrifice, love, goodwill, brotherhood, faith etc. One of the largest collections of songs, dances, theatre, music, folk traditions, paintings and writings, which is known as the ‘intangible cultural heritage of humanity’, all belong to India. Intolerance, secularism, equality, which I am proud of being a citizen of my country and I have received. By applying which in our social life, we can establish peace and create a prosperous society, a world. This culture with a big heart has taught us to love even our enemies. On this land, great men like Lord Shri Ram, Shri Krishna, the epitome of sacrifice, Mahatma Dadhichi, Danveer Karna, the great and truthful King Harishchandra etc. were born. In our country, people of different languages, castes, costumes and different castes live together till Kanyakumari and from Gujarat to Arunachal Pradesh. It is only possible in a great country like India to weave so many different colours in an integrated form. Here people of almost all religions of the world live in harmony with each other. Everyone has the freedom to propagate their religion without any discrimination.
India is also called the country of youth. Our country is also excellent in terms of art. The success that our country has achieved in the field of science and technology has surprised the entire world. Due to nuclear power, India is counted among the powerful countries of the world.
भारतीय संस्कृति में आश्रम – व्यवस्था के साथ धर्म, अर्थ, काम और मोक्ष जैसे चार पुरुषार्थों का विशिष्ट स्थान रहा है। वस्तुत: इन पुरुषार्थों ने ही भारतीय संस्कृति में आध्यात्मिकता के साथ भौतिकता का एक अदभुत समन्वय कर दिया। हमारी संस्कृति में जीवन के ऐहिक और पारलौकिक दोनों पहलुओं से धर्म को सम्बद्ध किया गया था। धर्म उन सिद्धान्तों, तत्त्वों और जीवन प्रणाली को कहते हैं, जिससे मानव जाति परमात्मा प्रदत्त शक्तियों के विकास से अपना लौकिक जीवन सुखी बना सके तथा मृत्यु के पश्चात् जीवात्मा शान्ति का अनुभव कर सके। शरीर नश्वर है, आत्मा अमर है, यह अमरता मोक्ष से जुड़ी हुई है और यह मोक्ष पाने के लिए अर्थ और काम के पुरुषार्थ करना भी ज़रूरी है। इस प्रकार भारतीय संस्कृति में धर्म और मोक्ष आध्यात्मिक सन्देश एवं अर्थ और काम की भौतिक अनिवार्यता परस्पर सम्बद्ध है। आध्यात्मिकता और भौतिकता के इस समन्वय में भारतीय संस्कृति की वह विशिष्ट अवधारणा परिलक्षित होती है, जो मनुष्य के इस लोक और परलोक को सुखी बनाने के लिए भारतीय मनीषियों ने निर्मित की थी। सुखी मानव-जीवन के लिए ऐसी चिन्ता विश्व की अन्य संस्कृतियाँ नहीं करतीं। साहित्य, संगीत और कला की सम्पूर्ण विधाओं के माध्यम से भी भारतीय संस्कृति के इस आध्यात्मिक एवं भौतिक समन्वय को सरलतापूर्वक समझा जा सकता है।
In today’s time, people of Indian origin are spread all over the world. And they are also making a lot of progress. We should be proud of our culture. Just as the followers of other religions wear clothes according to their religion and follow their religion, we should also feel proud and adopt the behavior according to our religion.
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True beauty is far more than skin deep. When our face glows with inner peace and happiness, we radiate true beauty. Happiness comes from what we give to others. It comes from the love we feel in the relationships we hold dear. Beauty is an age-old concept that humanity has enjoyed for generations. However, it is often shrouded in myth and misconception. These myths shape our perception of beauty and influence our self-image and social values.
Beauty is inherently subjective, shaped by culture, society, and personal perceptions. There is no one universal standard of beauty that applies to everyone. Accepting definitions of beauty leads to greater acceptance and appreciation of individual differences. True beauty goes beyond physical appearance and includes many qualities such as kindness, confidence, and truthfulness. Accepting imperfection and celebrating uniqueness is what truly defines beauty beyond superficial standards. Although physical beauty may attract attention at first, true beauty comes from within. Inner qualities such as compassion, empathy, and intelligence contribute greatly to overall attractiveness and beauty. Beauty does not require expensive products. There are so many cheap and easy skin care products and makeup options available today and natural remedies can be just as useful as high-end makeup. Beauty is not constrained by age but grows and evolves over time. Embracing the process of creative ageing and valuing the knowledge and experience that comes with it is important to rebuild society’s beauty standards. Beauty is a precious gift given by God. For some, beauty of the body matters, while for others, beauty of the mind matters. Many people have tried to define beauty. But there cannot be just one definition of beauty. There is beauty in every form of nature, which is not only difficult but impossible to describe. Life is full of beauty. Pay attention to the bumblebee, the moon, the sun, and the smiling faces of small children. Smell the rain and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest and fight for your dreams. A lot has been written about beauty, but I have always felt that beauty actually emerges from accepting yourself and being at ease with yourself. The moment you are comfortable with yourself, you feel beautiful.
Style is when a 5 foot 1 woman goes to a party in flat sandals instead of heels. I think when you accept yourself, your confidence attracts other people towards you. Maybe that is the real beauty. I think most of us don’t feel beautiful because we don’t listen to ourselves. That is why we always use clothes, brands, fashion as a protective shield to feel good. We don’t even know if they are having any effect on us or not. On the contrary, over time it takes away our confidence. So I think whether it is a man or a woman, beauty starts with simplicity.
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Everything is not perfect in anyone’s life. Every person has his own qualities and shortcomings, which make him unique along with humanity. Life is a journey of struggle and learning. We have some things and some we don’t. Most people focus on what they don’t have, while winners always focus on what life has still given them. Those who think what can be done with what they have move ahead in life. You see where you are right now, the level you are at, the capabilities you have, the resources you have, how you can reach the next level by using all these properly. The one who knows how to do this does not waste time in making excuses. He does not weaken the power of his mind by complaining about life. If you don’t believe it, listen to this story.
This is the story of Mariyappan Thangavelu. This child was born on 28 June 1995 in Periyavadagampatti, a small village in Salem, Tamil Nadu. Born into a poor family, he was the youngest of six children of his parents. His father died when he was young and his mother used to support the family by working as a mason and selling vegetables. She used to get only Rs 100 per day. Despite this, she gave priority to the education of her children. When this child was five years old, one day he met with an accident that changed his entire life. A drunk bus driver ran over him, due to which his right leg was completely injured below the knee. After this accident, he became permanently disabled and had to use a wooden leg to walk. But despite the pain and difficulty, he did not let his disability dominate him. He continued his studies. While continuing his studies, the boy also continued playing sports as he was fond of sports since childhood. He used to play volleyball but one day his teacher noticed his talent and encouraged him to participate in high jump. After this he started participating in high jump. He won many medals and trophies and caught the attention of Shri Satyanarayana, a renowned coach of para athletes. In 2015, Shri Satyanarayana invited Mariyappan to join his training camp in Bengaluru. Under his guidance, Mariyappan became the first Indian to win a Paralympic gold medal in high jump. Today Mariyappan has become a triple Paralympic medalist, winning a gold medal in Rio 2016, a silver medal in Tokyo 2020 and a bronze medal in Paris 2024. He is the first para athlete from India to set such a record. He is also a double medalist in the World Championships with one gold and one bronze medal. Mariyappan, who has received major honors like Khel Ratna, Arjuna Award and Padmashree, is also a graduate in Business Administration.
Just think how many complaints Mariyappan might have had about his life. How many excuses he might have had. He could have given up studying. He could have gone into depression. He could have become a burden for his family but he did just the opposite. He brought glory to his family as well as the entire country. The question is what are we doing! Are we really working towards our goal with honesty? Are we putting in our hundred percent? Or are we wasting both our mind and time in useless things?
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Cheating has always been a sensitive issue and there is no simple answer as to how one can or should forgive a cheater. It is as old as the concept of marriage and monogamy. Most people would agree that cheating involves having a sexual relationship with someone other than your partner. However, the boundaries of cheating are not as well-defined as we think. For some people, emotional intimacy outside of monogamy can also be considered cheating, but for others it may not. Cheating is considered a violation of the implied contract of exclusivity in a marriage or relationship, and therefore, it is very painful, especially for the person who is being cheated on.But why do people cheat? Is cheating the beginning of the end of a relationship? Should you forgive people who cheat in a relationship? Are you unable to forgive people who cheat? How can you forgive someone for cheating? Let’s discuss these questions in detail.
requirements not being met,
Every person in a relationship has certain mental, emotional and sexual needs. It is important to know that these needs vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. Also, each person is stimulated through different physical or interpersonal characteristics that may disappear or change over time, a partner may prefer work over sex or become distant after a child is born. Sometimes even when you are giving your 100%, your partner may feel distant or emotionally detached and it may not be your fault. But lack of attention, change in desires and lack of quality time spent together can be the primary motivators for a person to stray and indulge in a romantic relationship outside their current commitment.
Lack of mutual understanding
Feelings of loneliness can occur at any point in a relationship and can be caused by a variety of factors, such as a lack of love between spouses or being overly attracted to the other. If this happens and one person is too scared or anxious to express these feelings, it may be easier for them to seek comfort and intimacy elsewhere rather than confront their relationship.
Influence of social media
The rise of social dating platforms and communication has given us a window into the world and the opportunities that exist within it. New sexual partners are readily available and it is easy for anyone to seek out a new sexual experience at the mere click of a button. It is not uncommon to meet other people who want to experiment with the idea of sex. This is not just limited to sex, but can also lead to emotional cheating. Knowing that you can pursue someone else can seem attractive and even exciting, especially if you have been in a committed relationship for a long time. The thrill of the chase or doing something forbidden is unfortunately a very strong motivator for cheating in a relationship.
Differences in sexual desire
Everyone has different levels of sexual libido depending on their age and many other factors. Everyone has different sexual desires and the desire for intercourse can vary. While a relationship may start out with incredible sexual chemistry, it can change, evolve, or fade over time. If there is no communication on the subject, it becomes easy to ignore it and focus on other things or people. People often cheat because they want to have sex more often.
how to mend broken relationships?
Before anything else, try to understand your partner’s stance after cheating – is he apologetic? Is he indifferent? Is he blaming you? If he is not willing to make amends from the start, then sadly, it is not worth fighting over and it is something you have to accept and move on. However, if he is willing to work on the relationship, make sure that both of you are equally committed. Exchange of feelings and efforts is necessary to rebuild the foundation of the relationship and work towards a great relationship. There are a few other things you can do if you are trying to repair a broken relationship.The emotions that one might feel in such a situation can be hard to understand and it can be difficult to make any decisions. So, spending some time with yourself and reflecting can help gain some clarity, not just from the whole situation but also from yourself. It will also help you understand the situation in a more healthy way. Whether it is moving out or getting away for a few days/weeks, whatever you need, use this time to focus on your mental health and gain clarity.
Communication is the basis of any healthy relationship, whether it is a romantic relationship or any other relationship in your life. Talk openly about the root cause of the love-hate. Is your partner not giving you enough attention? Are your sexual needs not being met? What do you need to do to improve your relationship? Both partners should answer these questions independently and then focus on understanding the other’s point of view.Moving on can involve more than just working with your partner. Experiencing infidelity can take a toll on your self-esteem and make you question your self-worth. That’s why it’s important to take time to work on yourself and start focusing on your mental health to deal with any negative feelings. A healthy relationship with yourself can help rebuild trust not only with your partner but with yourself as well.
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