What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

Today’s question is the most thrilling for me. I ask myself this question sometimes. How will people remember me? In this world, thousands of people are born and thousands die every day. But only those people are remembered who leave something behind that people are forced to remember. Our relatives and our own people remember us. But you can become an example only when strangers also remember you.

In the world we live in today, if there is one thing that is most important then it is our behavior. Behavior is first recognize by our speech. Speech contains both nectar and poison. If we behave sweetly then people around us are attracted towards us with love and they also listen to us and respect our thoughts. Be good with the good but not bad with the bad, because a diamond can be carved with a diamond but mud cannot be cleaned with mud. I remember a story on this which I had read in my childhood and today I am sharing it with you.

Once upon a time, Saint Tukaram was sitting in his ashram when one of his disciples, who was a little short-tempered by nature, came to him and said, Guruji, how do you keep your behavior so sweet? You neither get angry at anyone nor say anything bad to anyone. Please tell me the secret of your good behavior. The saint said, I don’t know about my secret but I know your secret. My secret! What is that, Guruji? The disciple asked in surprise. You are going to die in the next one week, Saint Tukaram said sadly. If someone else had said it, the disciple could have dismissed it as a joke, but how could anyone deny the words coming from the mouth of Saint Tukaram himself. The disciple became sad and went from there after taking the blessings of the Guru. From that time onwards, the nature of the disciple changed completely. He used to meet everyone with love and never got angry at anyone. He used to spend most of his time in meditation and worship. He would also go to those with whom he had ever behaved badly. He would apologize to them.

Soon, one week of the prophecy of the saint was about to complete. The disciple thought, let me take the blessings of the Guru by meeting him for the last time. He reached before him and said, Guruji, my time is about to end. Please bless me. My blessings are always with you son, well, first tell me how the last seven days went. Did you get angry with people like before? Did you abuse them? Saint Tukaram asked. No-no, absolutely not. I had only seven days to live. How could I waste them in useless things? I met everyone with love. I also apologized to those whom I had hurt, the disciple said promptly. Saint Tukaram smiled and said, this is the secret of my good behavior. I know that I can die anytime. That is why I treat everyone with love. This is the secret of my good behavior. The disciple understood that Saint Tukaram had shown him the fear of death only to teach him this lesson of life. He vowed to remember this lesson in his mind and moved forward on the path shown by the Guru.

In fact, our behavior is such a weapon, by using which we remain alive in the memories of people even after leaving this world. If you want your life journey to continue moving towards success without any hindrance, then for that, the way we expect behavior for ourselves, we should behave with others in the same way. Try to implement all these facts in your life. Therefore, sweetness of speech holds a prominent place in behavior. You may be good at heart but if your language is not good and sweet, then the work done by you is wasted. Often, if people do not behave well, then we also have to face physical and mental torture. In that situation, we should not get angry, but should control ourselves. In today’s era, the importance of nature can be easily understood. This is also the Guru Mantra of life. You should pay more attention to the beauty of your behavior than the beauty of your face and body. Your life will become enjoyable for you and unforgettable and inspirational for others.

But we are ordinary human beings, not some great saint, that is why the behavior of the other person can change our behavior. For example, I will give my own example. I cannot say that my behavior is very good, only those who know me can tell this. But there is an instant reaction in my behavior. I react very quickly to the person who talks or behaves with me. As you know, in our society, women are abused verbally and symbolically in many ways. At such times, my behavior changes. I become extremely angry and aggressive, my patience leaves me and I react immediately. At such times, my behavior is not my own, it is a reflection of the behavior of the other person.  This behaviour or nature of mine is not my permanent behaviour but my identity is that I have the courage to oppose the wrong. Hence, in my view, our behaviour depends a lot on the circumstances, work-field, environment around us, people and it is possible that such behaviour of ours may not be permanent and may not be our identity. To consider someone’s identity by his behaviour and that behaviour, a person cannot be understood and known by just one thing, one has to live a whole life to understand someone’s behaviour and to make an identity. Good behaviour or say conduct is the wealth earned by a man, which he should not only share but should also keep on increasing it day by day as much as possible.because Good behavior is the key to every lock.