learned to remain calm

Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

Actually, I have made many positive changes in my life.  But now with age I have learned to remain calm.  Let me tell you how I learned to do this. It is very easy to say that learn to control anger.  Remain calm.  Don’t pay attention to what others say.  Keep doing your work.  It is very difficult to implement all these things in your life and follow this line.  Because when we feel insulted or disappointed by someone’s words, we get very angry.  Then the anger inside suddenly comes out like a broken dam.  This is called overreacting.  Most of us don’t know how to react.  We don’t know how to calm ourselves down in moments of anger.  When most of us experience a negative emotional response, our first response is often extremely reactive.  Our brain interprets negative emotions as a threat.  That’s why we feel that what the other person is saying is hurting our self-respect.  That’s why we react wrongly.  In reality, we achieve success only when we stop overreacting.  Learn to calm yourself.  Therefore, we have to learn to keep ourselves calm and composed. You notice that when you get angry, you are not able to stop it.  Instead of letting yourself get lost in your thoughts, do something that will immediately take your mind away from negative emotions.  When the person in front of you is saying something wrong, take a breath.  Drink a sip of water.  If it is possible to move away from that place, move away.  Take a walk for some time.  By the time you come to that place again, that thing will have gone from your mind.

You can keep yourself calm and composed by giving words to your feelings. Just as you remember the birthdays and marriage anniversaries of your friends and family members, in the same way remember this lesson that you have to keep yourself calm and composed.  One should not lose one’s temper by unnecessarily replying to someone’s words. Only peace of mind and self-confidence can get a person out of big problems.  Therefore, trust yourself and work with a calm mind.  Only then can happiness and success be achieved.

I learned that the brain of people who talk less works faster than the brain of people who talk a lot because people who talk a lot waste all their energy in talking unnecessarily and on the other hand, people who remain quiet work for a long time mentally and physically.  Feel fresher till now and are more successful in taking right decisions immediately amidst all the situations.  In comparison to those people who keep wasting their time by talking. Because when you start being quiet then you start listening and by listening you learn and from learning starts intelligence and wisdom.  So talk less and start listening.

Positive change means such a change which is meaningful for the present and future of living beings, nature and environment and is capable of establishing harmonious harmony among all three.  Change is inevitable.  Mere change is not enough, but along with the change, our humanity, morality and materialism should move forward as a whole.


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