Every parent loves their child very much.  Parents always want their child to be healthy and happy.  For the happiness of the child, he wants to fulfill almost all his demands.  Apart from this, we want to provide them good education for their bright future.  But often parents make some mistakes in the love of the child, which has adverse effects on the behavior of the child.  During the upbringing of the child, fulfilling his every need along with fulfilling the big and small demands, ignoring his mistakes, adopting his stubborn and angry attitude without stopping, the child starts deteriorating and his future also gets spoiled.  Seems like  In such a situation, parents should teach values and discipline to the child since childhood, so that the child can become an ideal human being, a good son and a successful citizen.

Often children get spoiled due to not being able to stop themselves from making mistakes, not being scolded and being overly pampered.  At a young age, everyone likes it when children take the names of elders in small tongues.  But stop the child at the same age from calling the elders not by their names but by the address of their relatives.  Instead of laughing at the child’s mistakes or ignoring them, if the parents scold the child for the first time, he will not repeat the mistake. To teach values to children, the most important thing is to teach them to respect elders and younger ones.  If the child does not ask anything respectfully, cries, shouts or stomps his feet, do not change your decision.  Rather, explain to them that no such statement will be accepted.  Everyone should respect them for doing any work properly.  By teaching this lesson, the child can change his wrong behavior. Often small children shout and talk to get their point across.  Due to pampering, they learn to get angry and start talking angrily to anyone.  If you accept his words because he shouts or gets angry, then the child behaves in the same way every time.  This type of behavior can be controlled in childhood, but even as the child grows up, it can develop the habit of getting things done through anger and shouting.  Therefore, teach them to control anger.

It is said that a child’s values decide not only the direction and condition of his own life but also of the entire society.  Most of the values in children come from their parents and they play a big role in developing the values.  The values imparted in childhood remain with a person throughout his life.  Therefore, it becomes very important to impart right values to children.  Apart from parents, there are many other things which determine the values of the child.  Sanskars are mainly formed from birth to 21 years.  The habits formed in this stage later on take the form of values.  From food to friendship and worship, every small and big thing has its own importance.  The values of the parents also have an impact on the child.


Special care should be taken about the diet and eating habits of the child from birth to 5 years.  The eating and drinking habits formed at this age do not remain for the rest of the life.  Since thoughts and ideas are formed through food and drink, hence food should be given thoughtfully.  It will be necessary to protect children from non-vegetarian food, fast food, stale and oily spicy food.  6 to 10 years old
  As the child ages, auspicious and inauspicious habits start developing.  The child starts gaining knowledge about religion, God and behavior.  At this time, keep the atmosphere of the house pure and virtuous.  People of the house should maintain their behavior and conduct properly.  Teach the child the difference between right and wrong.  At the age of 11 to 16 years, the child becomes aware of education and knowledge.  The child starts worrying about subjects, career and success.  At this time the child should be told about mantras and asanas etc.  So that the child concentrates on education and his physical and mental development takes place properly.  Do not impose your interests on the child, let him choose the subject as per his wish.  Major chemical changes take place in children between the ages of 17 to 21 years.  All the values and good and bad habits become visible at this age.  At this age, let children take responsibility for themselves and help them.  Pay attention to their clothes, their lifestyle and their company.  Advise them to stay with the elderly and also develop the habit of fasting.

Home environment plays an important role in the best upbringing of any child. If the environment of your home is happy and full of love, then the child will become strong, fearless and courageous.  Bad environment at home can create fear and anxiety in the minds of children.  Children should be loved pure and true, true love does not at all mean that you fulfill every wish of your children.  True love means that you do what is necessary for your children and that which helps them to move forward on the right path. The behavior of parents has a deep impact on children, so if you  If you appear happy, intelligent and have a fun-loving personality, then they will be attracted to you, they will not need anyone else except you.  They will even do everything after asking you.

Because of children not being cultured?

Earlier, in a joint family, children used to be brought up on their own and amidst the stories of grandparents, the loving rebuke of the aunt along with the caress of the elder mother would show them the right path and also make them cultured. In the last two decades, since globalization  Since then, children have increasingly moved towards resources that were not easily available earlier.  In these you can include mobile, internet, car etc.  They easily talk to people from all over the world.  Nowadays the ideal person for them is the one who has a lot of money, who wears branded clothes.  The structure of society is not based on ideals but on material resources.  This structural change has happened very rapidly.  The result of this change is that children are moving forward in a destructive manner.  They don’t even realize that they are destroying themselves.  Minor children are committing crimes because everything is easily available to them.  The freedom that has come in the environment has spoiled them.

Whatever behavior children do has its roots in childhood.  Children’s mind is a blank slate on which we can write whatever we want.  This process continues from birth till four-six years.  Parents should take special care at this age.  If you want to make them cultured then you should not fail in your duty.  Values cannot be taught to children by preaching.  Children learn what they see their parents doing.  They will have to adopt those things in their behavior which are in the interest of the children.  Children will learn according to your qualities.  They will do whatever you do.  They will think that we should do more than our parents.  Every child is unique, everyone’s parenting style is different.  It cannot be kept tied to a fixed formula.  Not all children are the same.  All their habits are different from each other.  Some are more naughty, some less.  In such a situation, you will have to work a little hard to adapt them to your environment.  The biggest problem is with those women who are working.  Along with professional life, it is important for them to take out time for their children also.  You can give him the right guidance by giving him quality time.