Often people get troubled by backbiting. Such rumors are spread about them for which they are not guilty. There are some people present in our home, office and neighborhood who enjoy making fun of others or speaking evil behind their backs. In such a situation, it is important that you stay away from such people to maintain your respect. If someone speaks ill of you, instead of getting hurt, think that you can never be good to everyone in this world. You cannot shut everyone’s mouth. Instead of being sad about all these things, have faith in yourself.

A learned saint lived in a village. One day the saint was taking a morning walk with one of his followers. Suddenly a person came near him and started saying good and bad things to him. The saint smiled and walked away. Seeing no effect on the saint, the person became upset. He became furious and started abusing his ancestors. Still the saint kept smiling. When there was no effect on the saint, the person became disappointed and moved away from the path.

As soon as that person left, a follower asked the saint why he did not respond to the words of that wicked person, he continued speaking and he kept smiling. Were you not hurt at all by his words? The saint did not say anything and signaled his follower to follow. After some time, the follower reached the room with the saint. The saint said, ‘You wait here, I will come from inside immediately. After some time, when the saint came out of his room, he had some dirty clothes in his hands. He came out and said to the follower, ‘Here, you take off your clothes and wear these.

The person noticed that those clothes had a very strong foul smell, they were giving off a strange smell. As soon as the disciple took those clothes in his hand, he threw them away. The saint said, ‘Do you understand now? When someone says good or bad to you without meaning, you get angry and wear the abusive words thrown by him, but you cannot wear someone else’s dirty clothes. Just as you cannot wear these dirty clothes in place of your clean clothes, in the same way I also did not wear the abusive words thrown by that man. This was the reason why I was not bothered by his words.

If someone insults you, you feel very bad. When someone criticizes you, makes fun of you, or puts you down, it can hurt your feelings. You can confront people who put you down so that they stop doing it and leave you to your own devices. You just have to learn to take care of yourself and know how to recognize when it happens. Sometimes, silence can be the greatest weapon. Ignoring someone who puts you down takes away the joy they get from responding to you. This prevents you from wasting your time and energy on someone who is not worthy of it. Plus, his bad behavior won’t stand a chance against your good behavior. Just act as if he didn’t say anything.
Without even looking at him, keep doing what you are doing.
If that person is not very stubborn or obstinate, he will leave you after being ignored. There are many reasons behind doing so for those who humiliate other people. It is not necessary that there is always a motive for doing this and its purpose is only to make you sad.

Understanding the person’s motives can help you understand how to deal with them.
Some people do this because they are insecure or jealous. Maybe they are trying to feel better by putting you down.
Some people do this because they want to impress someone or get attention. For example, a co-worker of yours criticizes your work in front of the supervisor.
Other people don’t even know that they are doing something like this or they are unable to communicate properly.
Sometimes, people don’t actually mean to be mean to you or hurt your feelings. They probably just think of it as disturbing for fun.

No matter what happens, you should never make yourself sad. The person who spoke ill of you may not be a pure person himself. So why not be happy with yourself.

Because speaking well of someone does not make a person good in everyone’s eyes. Similarly, speaking ill of someone does not make a person bad in everyone’s eyes. The way of the world is that no matter how much you do for someone, if there is even a little deficiency then it will bring out evil in you. Therefore, stay healthy and stay happy.