Our home family is like our temple. Just like a clean body is needed to enter the temple, similarly, while entering the house, if we leave outside worries outside, then perhaps we can change a lot for the peace of the house. Many times it happens that we like the talk of outsiders more than our family members. We find solutions to problems with family members outside. Then the outsiders get a chance to disturb the peace of our house.

Husband wife, their four children and their parents lived in a family. The wife used to serve her mother-in-law and father-in-law a lot. She takes care of mother-in-law and father-in-law as much as she takes care of her children. Days started passing slowly. Now the children had also grown up a bit. The wife started coming out and she had made many friends. When she used to see her friends that she did not do any household work. Her mother-in-law used to do all the household chores. Friends also taught her that why do you keep beating all day. At least care about your life too. Get up and sit and talk with us. Roam around with us. The words of friends encamped in the wife’s mind. For some days the wife’s mind was restless. Now he did not like working at home. Whenever her husband came from work, she used to complain about his mother to her husband. She used to say that my life has become completely useless by living here. Husband started getting worried after listening to her daily expenses. One day he decided that I will leave this house and go away. And he left the house in the dark night.

While going in the dark, he saw a cottage in which there was a little light. The night was already over, so he thought that this should be the rest today. He slowly went inside the hut, went inside and saw a saint doing penance there. There was complete peace in the cottage. He felt very good coming inside the cottage. When the saint opened his eyes, he found him sitting in front of him. The saint asked him the reason for coming. So he put his whole story in front of the saint. And told the saint that I also want to stay in your shelter. The saint said okay, I will teach you the method of meditation, by doing which your mind will become calm.

Now the saints started making him sit in meditation everyday. He used to sit with his eyes closed but he did not feel like it. Again and again he remembered his children, old parents and wife in front of his eyes. He missed the food made by his wife a lot. He was also remembering the love of his parents. One day he told the saint that what should I do, I do not understand. Whenever I sit with my eyes closed, my family comes in front of me.

Then the saint explained to him, there are many bondages in our life even if we don’t want to. Many of those bonds are such that it is difficult to forget them. The biggest bond is that of family. Some relationships are important in our life. Sometimes we think that we can live without them but we cannot. Leaving all the pleasures of the world and becoming a saint is not such an easy task. Only one can become a saint who breaks the bonds of all the illusions of this world. Where we have got life, small things will happen there. If there has ever been a thorn in our family, then we should try to remove it. Will we be able to walk if we let the thorn in the leg remain?

If you don’t solve your family’s problem by sitting on your own and go to the people with it, then people will get a chance, won’t they? Whenever there is such a problem in your family, you all should sit together at one place and solve your problem yourself. The outsiders will all give their own opinion. Those people in the family who have more differences should sit together and speak their mind. It is necessary that there should be one person in your family whose words are accepted by all. Because where there is a head, the house runs. Choose such a man as the head of your family who does not think only of himself but thinks of everyone. Family members should work together so that there is never any estrangement. Quarrels of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are seen in Akshar family. The mother-in-law should also understand that even if the daughter-in-law comes, she should cooperate in her work. The daughter-in-law should also not expect too much work considering the age of the mother-in-law.

Never take your family matters out of the house. Even if there is a small tip in your house, then keep it till your house. Do not stop talking in small matters. Because when you stop the dialogue itself, then how will the problem be solved. Not all people in a family are the same. Some are very hardworking and some are less. Some talk more and some talk less. Some are gossipers all the time, and some are unheard of after listening to things. That’s why elders say that if you want happiness and peace at home, then try to forget the things that happen.