People who are behaving with you which you do not like. So what should you do? Should you make yourself unhappy with their behavior?
The door of your mind should be such that it opens only when you say it. No matter how much someone chatters in front of you, no matter how good or bad they say to you, your mind that is locked inside the door should not hear anything. How can you think that they have done wrong to you. Because this is their nature. This is their habit, their nature, their intelligence. Now everyone’s thinking cannot be the same.You cannot impose your thoughts, wisdom, culture on them. It is your choice how much you want to take from what they said. If you take it, then how much pain you have to cause to your heart. And till then keep thinking about it.
God has filled us with the strength to go through all these things. But we do not use our power at all. They keep thinking that he told me this, said that. When we do not use the power within us, it goes away. When someone hurts us, we think so much for them. Most of all, we start cursing ourselves that why did we do so much for them. Why did we expect so much from them. This is our biggest mistake. Because we We blame our own weakness on someone else. That we will feel sad because of them.
We want the person in front to apologize to us. And we become so sad that we feel that we cannot forget this for the rest of our life. In today’s run-of-the-mill life, this is one of the reasons for the breakdown of relationships. We pay a lot of attention to our heart but do not think at what time we are giving it. When you are sad, then by paying more attention to your heart, your heart becomes more sad. Because in your heart it told your mind that I am very sad and because of this I am sad. Then your brain also starts thinking the same, and when you are very happy, your heart and brain are indicating that I am very happy. Then your mind starts working on it. Our brain is also like a keyboard. Whatever we want to write is typed in the keyboard. Similarly, our mind also needs the words of the heart to weave the fabric.
If you have a sense of forgiveness in your heart, then surely you will be able to forgive everyone. For all these things you need to have religious knowledge. Some knowledge is such that it is not taught in the curriculum, incidents happening in our everyday life can become a great lesson for us. Broken relationships, untoward incidents, and heart touching incidents in the world happen only because of the weakness of patience. If you want someone to love you, respect you, respect you, then you have to do the same with him. Suppose if you borrow money from someone, and don’t give it back, will he lend you again? Just like that, if you misbehaved with someone once, then maybe the person in front will forgive you, but will not do it again and again.
Today I will tell you an anecdote. My husband is very irritable. I am very scared when he drives the car, because many times such incidents happen, due to which his anger increases a lot. As if someone suddenly came in front of the vehicle, as if someone bumped into the vehicle a little. One day we were going to a nearby village in a hired car. Only then a bicycle rider came out from the side, he took out the bicycle adjacent to the car. My husband got angry. But the drivers who were driving the car were absolutely calm. After going a little further, the car stopped at the red light. A bike rider came from behind and pushed him hard. And on the contrary, he asked the car driver why did you suddenly stop the car. At this my husband burst into tears. Yet the driver who was driving was completely calm. My husband asked the driver what clay are you made of? Your car is getting hit again and again, yet you are silent? Then the driver said to him, “Master, do you see that garbage car in front of you?” See how the garbage is falling in it because of too much. In the same way, those who get angry on every thing, their mind is also full of garbage. When we put something in a box more than necessary, it will fall out, will it not? We need that whatever capacity it has, it should be filled to that extent. Otherwise, like this, we will also put our blame on someone else.
After listening to that driver, from that day my husband changed completely. We should also throw away the thoughts like garbage from our mind, otherwise we don’t know where they will keep dropping. Your one smile forgiving attitude keeps you at ease. Seeing your spontaneity, even an angry person gets shocked. That’s why always keep yourself comfortable. Your smile is very precious, keep it decorated on your face.